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Shamelessly stealing my kids' FB photos - Hannah's walk to work 4/11.

The days keep flying by, filled with quite a few tough things, to be perfectly honest. I am definitely not loving the way this feels, but I am really loving the Lord and feeling a need to draw closer.

I can’t seem to sit at my computer long enough to write anything of substance. Thankfully my friend, Jody Landers, wrote a great post about the Embracing Orphans retreat that will give you a glimpse of last weekend. I know you’ll enjoy it.

I’ve been thinking a lot about mental health, services for kids (and the lack thereof), and support for families living with shame that keeps them from sharing their struggles. Add to that the humiliation and frustration of dealing with insurance companies, state offices, and even pharmacies. I have a very angry post burning in me that will likely never make it to my blog because it includes saying things I might regret, as well as words my kids have never heard me say. I feel like swearing – I really do; yelling might feel pretty nice too.

Instead, I’m thinking about Elisabeth Elliot whose advice for hard days is simply, “Do the next thing.” So I’m baking a birthday cake for Andrew and Mimi, driving kids all over town, plowing through laundry, and spending time with Isaiah. A visit to Dimples is coming up, so I’m preparing for that too.

If you have emailed me or sent me a FB message, I am so sorry that I haven’t replied. I will do my best when a quiet moment comes my way.

Have a great Friday, friends.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

27 Comments

  1. janeh1037
    April 12, 2013

    It sounds as though you are handling hard emotions in exactly the right way and if you need to scream, go in the shower and turn it on high and scream away. Honestly, I don't know how you don't feel this way more often. Well, I do know….because of the Lord's power in your life. Praying that this day will begin to turn around…..you are a very special woman..

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      Janeh, I appreciate your encouraging words. So far to day is better than yesterday, and that is a good thing.

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  2. Julie Johnson
    April 12, 2013

    Lisa, you sent me, "Keep a Quiet Heart" aft the birth of one of my children. I still have it and was rereading parts of it a few months ago.
    Love you and am praying for you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      That is on my shelf right now, I should pull it out. Thank you for the reminder, Julie.

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  3. Mamitaj
    April 12, 2013

    Praying for your heart. Sending an internet hug and a warm smile.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      Thank you, friend. I can picture your smile right now.

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  4. Deborah
    April 12, 2013

    (I have so had days, weeks, even months like what you describe!!!) This too shall pass my friend. Prayers for you – prayers and prayers and prayers.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      Russ keeps telling me, "Feelings come and go." That's what I get for teaching that phrase to my children. Thank you for your prayers, Deborah.

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      1. angela
        April 13, 2013

        Here's a little song for your kids to go with your phrase to the tune of Yankee Doodle:
        Feelings come
        and feelings go and
        feelings are deceiving
        trust alone on the Word of God
        It's something worth believing

        'Cause feelings come
        And feelings go and
        Trust alone on the Word of God ,
        It's something worth believing.

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        1. Lisa Qualls
          April 13, 2013

          Thank you, Angela – that is great.

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  5. rebekah
    April 12, 2013

    Thinking of you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      Thank you, Rebekah.

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  6. Kathy
    April 12, 2013

    "He can give us rest… and a song can rise from the ashes of a broken life"…to quote my favorite song "Worn" by Tenth Avenue North It's on repeat…. Sending love and hugs to a sweet mama!! God's peace! He is near and drawing you to Him…a perfect place to find rest!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      This is such a beautiful song; thank you for sharing it, Kathy.

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  7. Kathy O
    April 12, 2013

    Ah Lisa! You are speaking my mind and my heart. It is so very, very hard and so very, very overwhelming.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      I hope your day goes well, Kathy, and that you have peace.

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  8. Blessed
    April 12, 2013

    Lisa, I confess I am glad you have some swear words pent up in you. a) proof you are not a saint. ; ) b) some things are worth swearing at. All hearts that do their best to follow God I think should be so angry some times–because they are proof that we see the injustice, the pain for what it is, an abomination before the Lord. But then, yes, it is good that you take some deep cleansing breaths and let it out before Him and not before the world, for His greater glory.

    Wow, I just treasure you more and more as time goes on, and you continue to share your walk. You are such a beautiful daughter of the King. Such a great mom. Not because you do any of those things perfectly (no, I'm not putting you on a pedestal–that would be so mean of me!) but because you do your best, whatever that looks like, and always as an offering to the Lord. I'm praying for you this day!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      You are so kind, and truly, I have all kinds of bad words, bad attitudes, and bad ideas about how to solve injustice pent up in my heart. It's difficult to know how to use that anger for good when I really just want to blow up. I love these encouraging words about just doing my best. Thank you.

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  9. Emily
    April 12, 2013

    Poor Hannah. Remind me not to move to Minneapolis (but I know she loves it).

    I love you a lot. Text me bad words anytime. I won't tell.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      I may take you up on that, Emily.

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  10. Margaret
    April 12, 2013

    Again I am so grateful for your honest writing, and so want to reach out. YES! Why is it so very difficult to get services and medical care for children who need them…humiliating and shameful to talk about AND the absolute crazy demands of a health care system which makes another full time job out of getting the care you need…It sounds as if you a doing many good things to care for yourself in this struggle, but you are in my prayers too.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 12, 2013

      Thank you, Margaret. It's incredible the number of hours it takes to advocate for one child.

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  11. Linda
    April 12, 2013

    So when are you coming out for coffee???

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 13, 2013

      Soon, I hope; it would be a blessing to just sit with you. Let's talk soon.

      Reply
  12. Leese
    April 13, 2013

    So sorry you're getting things from every direction right now.

    Know that I'm praying. Really.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 13, 2013

      Thank you, Leese. I owe you an email – I haven't forgotten.

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      1. Leese
        April 13, 2013

        Oh don't even give it another thought! You've got PLENTY on your plate!

        Just know that I'm praying 🙂

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