You are not an Orphan

Tuesday night as I tucked Dimples in bed, I prayed over her and then looked in her eyes and said, “You are not an orphan; you are a Qualls.”  She squirmed and turned away.  I asked her to let me see her eyes and she turned back to meet mine.  I stroked her cheek and whispered again, “You are not an orphan; you are a Qualls.”

Once again my blog has been silent as our three day trip to Seattle turned into ten.  We had therapy, lots of medical appointments, and then more therapy.  I am deep down tired to the core. 

My sisters pitched in and helped with Honeybee, Sunshine, Eby and Little Man so I could focus on working with Dimples.  It shreds my heart to see how our children suffer from their early beginnings.  We live in a broken world, full of broken people, and sadly, children often suffer deep wounds. 

I missed Russ more than words can say.  

We came home from Seattle last night just in time to join our family reunion with Russ’ family.  Dimples is so happy to be with her cousins, aunts and uncles and grandparents.  Today the children have had a picnic, gone swimming in the cold river, and played cards.

She is not an orphan, she is a Qualls, and I pray the love flowing around her today will speak that truth loudly to her heart.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Amy
    July 22, 2011

    What a difficult concept for our kiddos to understand. I've been reading Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick and it has been so helpful in showing me that we all need reminding of who we are. We, those who have been adopted spiritually by our gracious Father, still forget who we. We are no longer orphans but children of the King but how often do we fall back into our old habits. It's so hard for us all to grasp. Anyway, it has been helpful for me to realize that I do the same thing and relay that to my kiddo.

    Praying for all our sweet sons and daughters, that God will bless them with knowledge that they are no longer orphans but beloved children.

  2. charity
    July 22, 2011

    Love and Truth speak loudest of all, even when they are only listening to their emotions. they will still remember these things in the quiet moments when they are teachable and He is speaking to their souls, sending love and prayers

  3. Dawn Wright
    July 22, 2011

    TRUTH is TRUTH!!! Speak it over her, pray it over her……PRAYING for you to have energy and strength!

  4. Kathrin
    July 22, 2011

    I hope she'll know and feel it soon.
    I so understand you. All the best.

  5. Ann Marie
    July 23, 2011

    Thank you for always sharing your heart. It is a blessing to the rest of us who are struggling with adoption issues.

  6. Cassandra
    July 25, 2011

    Amen! Lord Have Mercy!


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