Why I'm Here

Where else could I share photos of my cute kids?

Hello Friends!  Hello Blog World!

It feels like weeks since I’ve posted.  Each time I take a break from blogging, either out of desperation or by plan, I have a strange experience.  I find myself wondering what on earth I have to write about, why I think I have time to write, or if any of it matters?  But then I dip my toe back into the water…and I remember why I like it.

First, I like you, even if you disagree with me or leave me an occasional mean comment – I’m too sensitive and I know it.  You are an amazing community of interesting and wonderful people and I love the way we learn from one another.

Second, it is an inexpensive form of therapy to make something useful out of our struggles.  As we  talk through something with our amazing therapist, I find myself listening even more closely knowing that I will want to share the useful things with you.  I take notes so I won’t forget the gems of wisdom Deborah gives us at each visit. I told a friend that I feel a little guilty sharing all of the great tips we get from Deborah, but she disagreed saying that it multiplies Deborah’s work and makes it available to more people than Deborah could possibly work with herself.  That just may be true.

Third, it makes me happy when I find something that works for our family that may work for yours.  Just this morning I printed out a new “Before School Routine” chart for Dimples and I found myself thinking that I should share it here in case somebody else needs a boost to get through the last few months of school.

Fourth, my family and friends would never know so much about our family, or see as many pictures of our kids, without this blog.

Fifth, I am not a writer, but I like to communicate.  Honestly, I really like to talk, but that doesn’t translate directly to the blog world and if you had to actually look at me while I talked on and on about Five Minute Cards or Sensory Processing issues, you probably would click me off after a few seconds.

Sixth, along the vein of not being a natural writer, knowing that you are going to read this is part of my ongoing education.  I find myself looking up the proper use of quotation marks, italics and other tidbits learned long ago.  Mimi and Sweet Pea call to inform me when I make  grammatical errors (which I hurry to correct), or misspell a word (really, I’m sure it was only a typo).  Russ once called to tell me that I had a split infinitive in a post – then he had to remind me what on earth a split infinitive was.

Seventh, I’ve been a stay at home mom for 23 years, and I love it, but at this season of life, I want to teach and give in ways that I can’t given the demands of my family.  Maybe I’m ready to be an “older, wiser woman”, although sometimes I feel so far from that.  This little blog lets me do some of that.  With eleven children ranging in age from 23 to three, I’ve done a lot of parenting.  Sometimes I’ve done a good job and sometimes I’ve failed, but I’ve learned things that I hope will benefit you.

I also would love to write more about marriage.  As we approach our 26th anniversary, Russ and I have experienced our share of better and worse, richer and poorer, and sickness and health.  I adore my husband and he deserves a medal for the way he has loved me and cared for me these many years.  I don’t write about marriage nearly as much as I would like to…but I may get to it one day.

So, thank you for reading and being part of my life, for making me think harder about the lessons I learn, and for allowing me to speak into your life in some small way.

~Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

27 Comments

  1. amy
    April 7, 2010

    Thanks for posting. Always.

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  2. rebekah
    April 7, 2010

    'this little blog'???? honey, it is so not little. what's a split infinitive?

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  3. Giann
    April 7, 2010

    Mrs. Lisa,
    I have been following your blog for a little while, mainly because of the adoption of your kids. I LOVE adoptions stories!! Thank you for sharing y'alls life with me! I have enjoyed it!

    ~Romans 15:13~

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  4. Dianne
    April 7, 2010

    Whatever brings you back each time, I'm so glad it does. I love learning from everything you share. It helps keep me thinking and pushing forward.

    You have such a lovely family.

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  5. stonefox
    April 7, 2010

    I LOVE learning from you! As I have told you many times, you are a God-send to me. we don't have a local church here that I can go to for support, much less an experienced counselor…learning from you and your Deborah tips has enriched our family. God bless, you!! Keep coming back! 🙂

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  6. Kim
    April 7, 2010

    Love you Lisa, I so enjoy all you have to say and it's been a blessing following along!

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  7. Lynn
    April 6, 2010

    Please keep blogging. You have a deeply kind and practical perspective which is not often heard. I come back for it because it's valuable (and I am far out of your demographic and most of your readers.)

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  8. Ajay
    April 7, 2010

    Reason #7 (or #8 being there are two sixth reasons…it's okay) I'm so glad that you write your blog because even though we've never met face to face, your family seems more real to me than an author.of a book. Before discovering the "blog world" I had looked for books to learn from that sharing a lot about what it really looks like, stories about the day in and day out joys and struggles of bringing home an older internationally adopted child. I didn't really ever find any books with stories, just a lot of extremes with tips seemingly expert advice, but c'mon, what does it really look like? I am thankful for you showing us what it really looks like. Your blog give a lot of helpful advice, and just getting to look at your family as a whole makes it all seem very real and very possible to do the things that God puts on our hearts. Thank you!

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  9. Laurel
    April 7, 2010

    I LOVE our Bloggy Friendship, and truly hope to meet your precious family In Real Life sometime soon. (smile)

    What I so appreciate is that we have walked such parallel lives in so many ways. I have been married 27 years. My 12 children are 25-8. I've primarily home educated my kids … but have used the public school system for individual children when I see the need. It's a GOOD THING to have a friend walking along the same path, when so many of our peer group has long put away their homeschooling books and are enjoying their empty nests.

    Keep writing! And … gotta tell you … even though I have done a LOT of "professional" writing, I have no idea what a split infinitive is. (My husband doesn't either … but my posts get proof-read by my 23 year old son who is an amazing writer. He passed up his mama years ago.)

    Blessings,

    Laurel
    mama of a dozen

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  10. Sarah
    April 7, 2010

    Thanks, Lisa. I was thinking about your blog today–thinking a new post hadn't come up in awhile and that I missed it! I'm a new mom to two boys (with a baby girl on her way from Ethiopia) and relish in your wisdom. Thanks for sharing!

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  11. Dana
    April 7, 2010

    I'm so thankful for this blog! You've done so much to challenge my thinking and prepare me for my upcoming adoption of an older child. As a homeschooling mom of three, I don't find a lot of time to sit and research issues through actual books. But following a few blogs fits my lifestyle perfectly. Reading blogs is my latest internet obsession. I can just a grab a little here and there in my spare moments. It's been a lifesaver.

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  12. coffeemom
    April 7, 2010

    OH….I am so grateful for your blog and your experiences and ideas and gleaned wisdom. I rely on it as a touchstone….for ideas, for support that I"m not alone in all this, others struggle and laugh and sigh just like me. I only wish we could meet and sit and yak over coffee or iced teas and compare notes as we have many parallels. But, short of that, keep on blogging! YOu do quite a lot of good for many, more than you will ever know.

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  13. Renee
    April 7, 2010

    I've been blessed many times over by your willingness to share about your life via blogging… thank you.

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  14. Rachel
    April 7, 2010

    Your welcome! I love reading your blog! Keep the good stuff commin!

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  15. Donna
    April 7, 2010

    Lisa-
    I have loved meeting you and your family through your blog. Hopefully that will be face to face soon as we head that way for college with our son.
    Blogs have been a great way for me to connect with others in similar situations, especially with adoption issues. My friends without adopted kids, or without older adopted kids, don't really get it!!!
    It helps to not feel so alone!
    Also it is great to talk to someone about sensory issues without trying to explain it while the person roles their eyes at your 'excusses'!!!
    Keep up the great blogging!!!

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  16. Paula
    April 7, 2010

    Love your blog. Love writing my blog. Sometimes, technology IS wonderful.

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  17. Heidi
    April 7, 2010

    Thank you for sharing from your life. Your wisdom has blessed and helped me many times. I think it is helping my children too!

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  18. Kathrin
    April 7, 2010

    I sure am glad you are here.

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  19. Chris
    April 7, 2010

    I actually blame good writers like you, for my "slow" blog…after I read all the great posts out there, I think I have nothing to share…
    I do love your hard earned wisdom.

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  20. Tanya
    April 7, 2010

    I love gleaning wisdom for your life experiences…so thank you for being a type of “mentor” to me and many others on this journey through life. Your input is invaluable. Keep up the great work of teaching, encouraging and sharing your life with us in blog world! It is a “lifeline” for me at a time in my life when getting together with other women has become harder and harder to do with little ones at home. Bless you!

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  21. Becky
    April 7, 2010

    Lisa,
    I am so glad that you so generously share your blog with all of us. I have gained so much help from you, especially in working with one of our little, adopted daughters who struggles. It's also a nice boost to read about another family that "looks like us", especially when most of my face-to-face friends are in the empty nest stage. 🙂 Thanks again for sharing. Becky

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  22. Wendy
    April 7, 2010

    Your blog has been such a blessing to me…I can't imagine anyone ever leaving you a mean comment!
    Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom.
    And what's a split infinitive? 🙂

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  23. SEG
    April 8, 2010

    Split infinitives are over-rated. There's some question of whether or not they are even a problem.
    😀

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    1. OneThankfulmom
      April 8, 2010

      I think the writers of the Star Trek theme would argue that a split infinitive worked for them. "To boldly go…."

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  24. Elizabeth
    April 9, 2010

    I love your blog! It keeps me connected to all of you and helps be feel like you live much closer than you really do. Love you!

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  25. PastormacsAnn
    April 10, 2010

    Lisa, I so benefit from your experiences and advice and knowledge. I enjoy reading about your family life and would love to read about your marriage experience. I'm so blessed that you choose to share you life here with us. I think all your reasons are great reasons and so let me just encourage you to keep on blogging! I'm not picky about split infinitives, I just want to hear about your life. Thank you being open and honest and sharing with all of us.

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  26. Amy
    April 18, 2010

    Lisa, I so benefit from your experiences and advice and knowledge. I enjoy reading about your family life and would love to read about your marriage experience. I’m so blessed that you choose to share you life here with us. I think all your reasons are great reasons and so let me just encourage you to keep on blogging! I’m not picky about split infinitives, I just want to hear about your life. Thank you being open and honest and sharing with all of us.

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