Beza’s summer is off to a great start. First, she finished her school year earning academic honors, and best of all, she enjoyed her teachers and classes.
Second, she got a job! Beza is a hard worker, but it’s not always easy to get a job at fifteen. She was hired by a cleaning company and is learning how to clean thoroughly and quickly. It’s extra fun because she and Annarose often work together. [I am more than a little excited to have two daughters who are being trained to be professional cleaners!]
On Tuesday she flew to Colorado to visit my friend Emily’s family. Emily’s daughter, Phoebe, has become Beza’s dear friend and they’ve gotten to see each other the past few summers. At the end of the week Beza will head up into the mountains to camp; Phoebe usually goes as well, but she is spending the rest of the summer in China. Emily is one of my best friends and the camp nurse, so Beza will get some special time with her. She’ll also see several friends from her orphanage in Ethiopia. It’s going to be an all-round wonderful trip.
Last night she had the excitement of a tornado warning and spent time in Emily’s basement. When they emerged, she was thrilled with the piles of hail and even sent me a video. They celebrated by going out for Ethiopian food, which is a huge treat for Beza.
As we drove to the airport last Tuesday, we talked about how it will feel to be at camp following our loss of Kalkidan. Some people will want to talk about her, and others won’t, and we have to accept that. It’s also okay not to get into long conversations if it feels difficult. I remember talking about this with Annarose and Beza before they went back to school. As we visited at our house following the memorial service, Emily suggested that Beza practice some simple scripts so she wouldn’t have to figure out what to say in the moment. That is good advice for this week too.
Beza is doing so well; she’s made incredible progress in her own healing and in her desire/ability to connect with the family. She wrote me a beautiful Mother’s Day card this year; I may be able to share some of it, but I didn’t think to ask before she left. She also gave me this beautiful necklace with two hearts entwined, representing my heart and hers.
Adopting older children is complicated and sometimes very messy – for them and for us. We’ve had many struggles and heartbreaks, but now we’re in a sweeter place. I hope I can encourage you with this post. We’ve come a long, long way.
Thank you so much for reading, friends. My heart is very heavy this week, and I would be grateful for your prayers.
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