Weekend Wandering 5.14.16

 foster care awareness

Since May is National Foster Care Month,
we are highlighting some of our wanderings
around the topic of foster care.


Letting Go from Chosen

I am the one holding Katie when the caseworker comes to take her away. I am standing in front of the screen door, baby straddled on my hip, with her diaper bags and other belongings waiting at my feet. I am only two years younger than Katie’s mother. The caseworker makes several trips to the back of her station wagon before all of Katie’s things are loaded. Then she comes back one last time for Katie. Katie turns her head away from the caseworker coming toward her, hides her face against my shoulder, tightens her arms around my neck, and immediately starts to scream.The caseworker tries to coax Katie to come to her but fails. I do not help. I refuse to be the first one to let go.

What I Want You to Know About Being Young Foster Parents from Rage Against the Minivan

If you have a heart, then you can do this. It will destroy you and free you. It will bring you down and lift you up. You will be frustrated and heart broken, but you will also be filled up with joy and love.

It’s Not Okay from Fostering Real

As we tried to calm these hurting souls, we felt lost. We looked at each other searching for words or ways to help. I found myself repeating, “You’re okay.” Trying to encourage them that they were safe and loved here. That it was alright to have big feelings.  Then my eyes met Jonathan’s. “But it’s not okay,” he mouthed.

and Jennifer was over at Her View from Home with A Long Line of Goodbyes

I watched another baby leave yesterday. She was buckled in her carseat and munching contentedly on her goldfish.  Happily oblivious that this moment was another goodbye in her growing line of goodbyes – and another in mine.

What does your weekend hold? Jennifer is busy with her family, including two little ones who joined her family through foster care. The busy-factor has ramped up the past couple weeks with two little ones in the house!

I’m in Seattle with Beza who had an appointment at Seattle Children’s on Thursday. Yesterday we explored the city with Noah and Katie who live on campus at UW. We had a picnic at Gasworks Park, took the train from the new light rail station at the University of Washington, saw the Space Needle (which Beza has wanted to see up close for ages), walked along the waterfront, climbed the stairs to Pike Place Market, and even did a little shopping.

My Fitbit tells me we took 19,475 steps, climbed 61 floors, and walked 8.35 miles. It was a fun day.

Today Russ and Isaiah are joining us in Seattle and we’re going to the wedding of the son of some of our dearest friends. It’s a pretty great weekend. Thankfully, Samuel and the girls are home with Ebenezer and Wogauyu.

Have a great weekend, friends. Thank you for reading, you mean so much to Jennifer and me.



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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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