Untangling

It was a day of tangled thoughts and emotions; even my stomach felt tangled up.  Finally, late in the afternoon yesterday, I felt myself calm as God began to answer some of our prayers.  So many things were weighing on our hearts and we were struggling to sort out the details before us.  Then one call came, and another, and things began to make sense.

Rather than write it all out in long paragraphs, today I’m just going to give thanks.

#931 – 940 giving thanks

my sweet friend saying, “Don’t apologize; it’s okay,” each time I said through my tears, “I’m sorry I keep crying”

finding out that our medical insurance will likely cover some of the therapy costs in Nebraska

friends who have offered to care for Dimples for a period of time so the other children can rest, and Russ and I can give them our time and attention

wonderful friends of friends who, without even knowing us personally, extended the same offer

kind and loving emails, facebook messages, and texts

a very encouraging phone call from a mom whose daughter is doing therapy at the program in Nebraska – a new friend I’ll get to meet when we’re there

a big chair to curl up in when the night is long and I can’t sleep

knowing that I’ll be breathing salt air and looking out at the Olympic Mountains over Puget Sound soon

lunch with Mimi today

hope in Jesus

Thank you to each and every one of you who lifts our family in prayer.  I hope that as we move forward in this journey of healing, I’ll be able to serve you by sharing what we learn.  I know that many of you desire with all your hearts to bring healing to your children from “hard places.” Perhaps we can go before you and make make your journey just a little bit easier.  And most of all, I want you to know that you are not alone.

p.s. If you are on Facebook, I’m posting updates and thoughts on my Facebook page, One Thankful Mom – Lisa Qualls.  You can “Like” it using the link on the right side of this page.

Lisa

 

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

20 Comments

  1. Paula Miles Spears
    July 24, 2012

    Lisa… if you are coming to Nebraska, I would love to open my home to you. We live in between Lincoln and Omaha, 30-40 minute to either city. Our house is large and set up for guests.

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  2. Paula Miles Spears
    July 24, 2012

    Also… my twins have done EMDR at ATCNE. It's a wonderful center and I love the staff. They saved our family.

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  3. mamitaj
    July 24, 2012

    Praying for you, Lisa. May this be a time of incredible healing for Dimples. I pray your family gets some down time from the stress and that the Prince of Peace would wash over each of you.

    Love you,
    Julie

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  4. Deborah
    July 24, 2012

    As always I have tears in my eyes after reading….. the raw pain is so evident in your posts and it takes me back to when the pain was so raw for me. I hope that this plan God has for you, Dimples, and your family brings you all to peace. I can only say that when God works the peace and healing does come – even if not in the way we expected it to.

    II thank God for providing the solution that brought peace and healing to a family that was being destroyed by the daily war. I found your blog at just the right time – which lead us to attend the ETC conference in Denver at just the right time. Although we had found our solution (and our salvation) prior to attending through an amazing turn of events that could only have been directed by God's hand – attending helped us obtain peace with our choice, and to come home with new eyes freshly viewing the devastating pain in ALL of the kids that we couldn't see when one child demanded center stage and all the attention – all the time.

    I continue to pray for your family and hope upon hope that this is the answer for you!

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  5. Alyssa
    July 24, 2012

    Thank you for opening your lives to the rest of us. I am so encouraged to see how God loves and wants to heal our kids. He is never weary and without wisdom, as we often are.

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  6. Eileen
    July 24, 2012

    I'm looking at the Olympic Mountains right now, from my kitchen window! It does wonders for me too! If you're ever out in the Kitsap Peninsula area, I'd be happy to be a tour guide! I know you have lots of support on this side of the state, but truly, if you ever need help while you're here, let us know. I keep hoping that maybe someday I'll happen to run into you at Children's!

    At times like this, we really have to look for "tender mercies". I have seen so many tender mercies lately, even during the midst of a difficult trial for our son. Even though there are days that look bleak, there is someone in control and we are not forgotten even for a moment. It keeps us going.

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  7. Tammy
    July 24, 2012

    I feel that God is taking you/Dimples to a culmination point, where the result is peace and healing. I simply feel that in my heart of hearts.

    I so appreciate your transparency in this journey as it brings hope and community to so many, even though we may never meet in person. Your heart shines through and that in and of itself encourages me in this process of attaching with my son and helping him move towards the healing of the wounds of his heart.

    Prayers and blessings to you!

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  8. Julie
    July 24, 2012

    That picture you posted is amazing and beautiful! Giving thanks with you.

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  9. gobbelcounseling
    July 24, 2012

    Wonderful news Lisa! So glad to hear that things seem to be falling into place.

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  10. Laurel
    July 24, 2012

    I'd love to see you again, when you are "looking at the Olympic Mountains".

    Praying that this time of respite for Dimples will bring your family much peace. For Spring Break, our Little Miss spent a week with friends while I took the rest of the kids to Southern CA to play in the sun. It truly was amazing what a week of low stress could do for all of us.

    🙂 🙂 🙂

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  11. blesseday
    July 24, 2012

    Lisa, I am leaving you a song link. It has been something God uses to speak to me, and it has been my prayer for you and some of the other moms who blog who have been going through rough times, so I decided to share it with some of you today:

    All of my life
    In every season
    You are still God
    I have a reason to sing
    I have a reason to worship

    The song is Desert Song by Hillsong United and you can find it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZlgUUeQh0CQ

    Praying for you all!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      July 25, 2012

      Thank you for sharing this song with me. I love worship music and much of Hillsongs music in particular. My cousin, Annie Garrat, sings for Hillsong – which is pretty neat. She has a new song out; I'll have to share it on my blog sometime. I appreciate your prayers and kindness.

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  12. Joelle
    July 24, 2012

    Praying for sustaining grace for the journey. I wish Nebraska was a few hours closer to me but if you have any free time at all maybe we can meet up somewhere. I know you will be busy with a very specific purpose but I would love to see you.

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  13. sleepyknitter
    July 24, 2012

    continuing in prayer for you and your family!

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  14. Mom-2-6
    July 24, 2012

    Some days, I feel very sad at how much our family has been ravaged by one child who has so many issues. Things are better but still, the other children have been wounded. They could all probably use therapy to help them cope with the pain of living with someone who wounds because he is wounded.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      July 24, 2012

      Russ and I talk often about the need to help our other children heal. We're hoping taking a break will be a good start. I'm sorry your family is suffering.

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      1. Mom-2-6
        July 25, 2012

        Thank you, Lisa. I feel the same way about your family. I've been following your blog and hoping to learn from your family. I pray for you to have strength to persevere and wisdom to know how to walk. 🙂 God is always good, but sometimes, when we are worn out, it's hard to see that.

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  15. barbershoppe
    July 24, 2012

    Lisa,

    I've not caught up with you in a while, but I can tell you have been through a taxing season. I admire you so and pray the Lord will heal Dimples and each of the other Qualls.

    Isaiah 30:21,
    Anna in Alabama

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  16. ann
    July 24, 2012

    You WILL claim victory for God–praying for you and Dimples and your entire family.

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  17. Emily
    July 25, 2012

    Tell Sunshine I think she looks so grown up and beautiful in that pic… love the long wavy locks. 🙂 I'll call you guys next week. Praying.

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