Two Months Home

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Today marks two months since I made my last trip to Montana and brought Dimples back with me.

Since that day Dimples has moved home, transitioned to a new school, played a season of volleyball, joined the youth group, and made new friends. She has reconnected with special people who were part of her support team before she went to residential treatment. Most of all, she has settled into the family.

It’s not easy, and nearly every day she struggles to accept parental guidance; but she does it. She also puts forth great effort to be a good sister, which takes a lot of work.

Many of the issues we dealt with before treatment are still present, but the volume has been turned way down. Before, the struggles were at such a high volume that we were immersed in the noise. We lived and breathed the challenges – and sometimes it was scary. Joy was sucked out of our lives – and I mean all of our lives, Dimples, the other kids, Russ and me. There was great stress and sadness every day.

Thankfully, the healing we longed for, or more accurately, begged and wept for, seems to be happening. Quite truthfully, I find myself, even now, afraid to be too confident. But at the end of every day, Russ and I look at each other and realize we made it through – and it was good. Some days are better than others, to be sure, but all in all, life is so drastically different that I have tears in my eyes just typing these words.

Not long ago we were talking about a challenge one of the younger boys was having and Dimples began to offer some suggestion of ways she could help him.  We told her just how amazing she is and how impressed we are that she can apply so much of what she learned. She tried to convince us it was no big deal, but I gave her a big hug and told her that it most certainly is a big deal and she is completely awesome.

There are tough moments, but overall, lots of hugs and smiles. I know I keep saying this, but I am in awe of what God has done and His power to heal.

Lisa

 

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

54 Comments

  1. Angela Arnett Stone
    October 22, 2014

    That is just wonderful. I hope she knows there is a community here that prays for her and rejoices in her sucesses.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Angela, I don't think Dimples realizes how many people pray for her and care about her. Once in awhile she gets a glimpse of it when we meet someone, or a card or gift unexpectedly arrives. She likes to tell people that I write a blog, but I don't think she realizes just how many people read it, pray for her, and are invested in her story. I am always touched by the love that is shown to us. She tells me that some day she wants to speak at a conference with me – that would really be something 🙂

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  2. Luann Yarrow Doman
    October 22, 2014

    Praise God. I have been wondering how Dimples is doing. Thanks for this update.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you for caring, Luann. What a journey this is!

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  3. Julie Gumm
    October 22, 2014

    Yeah Dimples! So encouraging to hear. Her using what she's learned to help others really means it has sunk in – that's sooo cool!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      It's incredible, Julie. She's an amazing kid.

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  4. Andrea Gaines
    October 22, 2014

    Praying we are some day in the same place…. breathing is such a struggle right now.
    LOVE this post and so very happy to see God moving this way for you all!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      I could never have imagined this, Andrea. I pray that you see the same miracle in your family.

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  5. Laura
    October 22, 2014

    Thank you for this update. Love the picture of her and to hear how she is doing and how all of you are doing with her home. Praise God for healing and guidance!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you, Laura. God is so good to us.

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  6. Sonya Hillrich
    October 22, 2014

    This is so beautiful. I think reading your story, as you present it authentically (yet respectfully to Dimples) has really helped build my faith that God will work through all these tools we are using to seek healing & wholeness for our girls.
    Thanks for building such a great community on your blog & letting us walk through it with you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      It's that tricky balance of being authentic and being protecting. I hope I'm doing it well. Thank you for reading and caring, Sonya.

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  7. Erika Greig Stanley
    October 22, 2014

    I was thinking about her just yesterday. Thanks for the update. I'm so glad that she's doing well and that all you've gone through seems to be coming together in a good way! She's so beautiful and has been through so much. Here's to redemption!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Yes, redemption! It's always good to hear from you, Erika.

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  8. I have been reading your blog for a little while know and I am so excited that things are working out with Dimples. It makes me happy!!!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thanks Tiffany, it makes me happy too!

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  9. Emily
    October 22, 2014

    LISSSSAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      🙂 !

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  10. Deborah
    October 22, 2014

    What a fantastic testimony of healing – there are so many who will gain hope just from reading that Lisa. You too are so awesome and such a blessing to so many!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      I hope you all are encouraged, Deborah. I honestly did not even hope for such a good outcome. God is amazing.

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  11. DFNY
    October 22, 2014

    How wonderful to read this update, Lisa. Praise God, indeed. So very happy for Dimples and for the whole family, and praying that good things continue to happen for all of you..

    Damaris

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you, Damaris. I'm so thankful for your prayers.

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  12. SleepyKnitter
    October 22, 2014

    So very happy to hear this wonderful news! Blessings to you and your family!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you – blessings to you too.

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  13. knitwgrace
    October 22, 2014

    This makes me teary. You have just loved and pleaded for her for so long. These changes are huge. We are all breathing a sigh of relief for you!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      I feel so blessed to have all of you on this journey with us. Truly, it can be lonely and frightening – but so many of you pray and care and it means so much. Thank you.

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  14. Laine
    October 22, 2014

    Wonderful! May you have continued blessings of healing and progress for your whole family.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you, Laine.

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  15. Jen Shifflett
    October 22, 2014

    I love reading this. So amazing!!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Healing is possible, Jen! Here's praying that it lasts forever and ever – with only small setbacks along the way.

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  16. Sarah Gilcrist
    October 22, 2014

    Lisa, praying for you and your family always. We met at refresh in February of this year. Our oldest son has also transitioned home. September 5th. We are just a couple weeks shy of our 2 month marker. I think your description of Dimples return could have easily been written by me describing our experience. God is mighty to heal, and oh so faithful! Thank you for continuing to share your experiences. They are an inspiration to me almost everyday! Your sister in Christ, Sarah G.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Sarah, I have wondered about you and how you are doing. Just this week I came across your name in my journal. I would love to hear more about what you did with/for your son and how things are going.

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  17. Sharon
    October 22, 2014

    Thanks for taking the time for this update – loved reading this!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you for reading it, Sharon.

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  18. Jennifer
    October 22, 2014

    I have teary eyes and a big smile while reading this post. You do indeed sound like one thankful mom 🙂 That you have had the bravery and discipline to write out and share your story, parts of Dimples story, is a great, hopeful, encouraging gift to many of us. Thank you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      You are very welcome, Jennifer. It is therapeutic for me to write our story. I've never been a person who could keep a journal, so I'm quite surprised to find myself still writing this blog more than eight hears later.

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  19. rebekah
    October 22, 2014

    I am so so happy to read this. I know this sense of relief, the true understanding that you are moving in the direction of just living.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Rebekah, sometimes we feel almost normal 🙂

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  20. JeffCindy Blair
    October 22, 2014

    I am so rejoicing with you in this victory.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you, Cindy! God is so kind to us.

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  21. Susan
    October 22, 2014

    Tears in my eyes as I read this too! So thankful for you sharing your journey; thankful for the healing and growth that is happening!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      Thank you, Susan. I'm so glad to have something positive to share.

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  22. Joelle
    October 22, 2014

    🙂 She is looking so grown up!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 22, 2014

      She'll be 13 on the 29th – hard to believe!

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  23. Kayla
    October 22, 2014

    I love how your posts about Dimples represent this huge broken, messy world that is full of hope and the possibility of redemption and restoration. So happy for her and for your family that she is working so hard to be successful.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 24, 2014

      We're really good at messy! Thanks for encouraging me to keep it real.

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  24. EAH
    October 23, 2014

    I read your blog regularly and hardly ever comment, but this one brings me to tears and I just have to say WOOOHOOOO God! You are awesome and your redemption is so amazing. You have been an incredibly encouragement to me over the years, as we too have a child that requires lots of extra care. Thank you for being so faithful and for being so open to the journey God has you on!!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 24, 2014

      Thank you so much for commenting and encouraging me to keep telling our story. And more than anything, thank you for caring about Dimples and our family.

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  25. charity
    October 24, 2014

    So happy way down deep that your prayers are being answered so beautifully… It has been a long time praying and it is no small thing to keep the faith through the darkness when it takes Him so long to work His miracles…. Thank you for the reminder that He does see things through to the end…love how she's growing up and happy she can do it at home….

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 25, 2014

      Thank you, Charity. It's always so nice to hear from you.

      Reply
  26. Cheri Knorr
    October 28, 2014

    Oh Lisa, this is the best post I have ever read. Continued prayers for all of you!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 29, 2014

      Thank you, Cheri! So nice to hear from you.

      Reply
  27. Michelle Isaksen
    November 19, 2014

    It was awesome to meet you at C2L 2014! I understand the sadness, grief, joy, all of these emotions tied up in a package. The song…"Not for a Moment" by Meredith Andrews really touched me this year. Last year as we sang the words….NOt for a moment will you forsake me, I sang those words believing that He wouldn't forsake me or my family in our deepest hurts. This year tears of gratitude flowed because I realized that God had been by my side the entire time. Through the good, sad, etc. So glad Dimples is home and making such wonderful progress.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      November 19, 2014

      Michelle, that song really grabbed me too; it was the first one I searched for on Spotify after I got home. I'm so glad I got to meet you too. I pray that this year brings healing in your family.

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