I should be posting the responses to the Tuesday Topic today, but I’m not quite ready. First of all, my big kids told me I need to change the format because the answers are too lengthy. Mimi had the audacity to tell me that she practically quit reading my blog because she didn’t like wading through the long posts. I haven’t wanted to leave any comments out, but I agree that I need to find a better way to present the answers. I may try posting excerpts from everyone (along with photos of the writers, etc.) and leave the full responses in the comments section. Once my new blog site is done, this won’t be an issue.
Second, I haven’t gotten many responses to this week’s question. It can be a very challenging question and some of us may be shying away from tackling it. I haven’t written my answer yet. I urge you to reply if you have a response to offer Dianne. Russ said he might even write his thoughts and by giving everyone a few more days, I hope there will be more responses. Dianne, if you read this, I have gotten one personal reply for you, so please email me at: thankfulmom[at]gmail[dot]com
Here is Dianne’s question again:
We are feeling led to adopt an “older” (ie – school aged) child into our family, which currently consists of myself, my husband and our 1.5 year old daughter, and would like to go into this decision with as much information and preparedness as possible. We know that older adopted children will not inherently cause unsafe situations for the younger ones, but want to still be prepared for this possibility, and are aware that the grief and trauma they may experience on their journey could manifest in ways that could create an unsafe situation for our younger daughter.
My question is: how have other families prepared to meet the needs of an older child coming into the family, and what have they done to be ready to also protect the best interests of younger children in the household? If they felt there was the potential that they could be creating a less safe situation for their younger child, are there specific ways that they prepared for this?
We love our daughter devotedly, and despite feeling strongly called to adopt an older sibling for her, feel conflicted when thinking about the potential that this could potentially put her in a risky situation.
Please leave your thoughts in the comment section.
The other reason I’m not ready to post the answers is that I am super busy packing to leave for Seattle this evening. Tomorrow is the Race Against HIV/AIDS at Overlake Christian Church in Bellevue, WA. My friend, Michele, and I are driving over with Ladybug, Honeybee, Dimples, and Boo. Sweet Pea is going to meet us at the race in the morning. After the race we’ll spend the rest of the weekend seeing Seattle and having fun. Monday morning Dimples has her appointment with Deborah and then we’ll head back home.
Have a great weekend everyone. Thank you so much for reading my blog and for learning along with me.
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