Tuesday’s Answers: Avoiding Burn-Out

Last week I wrote, My Learning Curve: Burned Out Yet? After I posted my thoughts about avoiding Burn-out while parenting newly adopted children, or children from the “hard places”, I thought of all of the good advice my readers offer and decided to toss the issue out as our Tuesday Topic.

How do you avoid Burn-out?

The post struck a cord with many of you and I got multiple emails and comments. Three of you sent comments for this post…in the midst of a busy time of year. Thank you so much. This is what you all had to say:

Lisa H. said…
I’ve tried to think about what I’d add to this topic and here are the things that have helped me:

1) Putting my younger children to bed on time and fairly early (7-8 pm). This has given me time to wind down, and have some time to myself or to spend with my husband and teens.

2) Connecting with other adoptive parents who can understand and help support me or offer good advice.

3) Giving myself permission to leave the younger or difficult children at home to enjoy fun time out with my teens and/or husband…

4) Remembering all that God did when He brought these children to our family…Money He provided, judges hearts that were changed, etc… and having faith that He has good plans for us.

Lisa H.Delete

Blogger Sophie Neri said…
…I think one of my best stress relievers is reading.I read my Bible every night after I put my youngest 3 to bed. I also take a Bible study class once a week and put my daughter in the children’s ministry so I have 2 whole hours to myself. Unfortunately I don’t have much time to exercise but when the weather is nice I go for walks and when it’s very cold out we’re off to the mall I put her in the stroller and I walk around. I can’t sit still for too long and I’ve always enjoyed going for long power walks, it really seems to help.
Occasionally I’ll tap into my creative side, I really enjoy baking and just recently I took a cake decorating class which was fun. The kids got a kick out of my creations and they really enjoy helping me with the cake and cookie decorating so it’s fun time spent together. As much as we love our family it’s important to love yourself as well and take some time to care for yourself spiritually, physically and emotionally, you function better as a parent and a spouse.

Blogger Mamita J said…

…My top recommendation is to have a supportive husband/wife. I don’t get anywhere near 12 hours a week of free time, but when I’m at the end of my sanity, my husband is quick to notice and send me away to let me have some mommy-time. I don’t think I could do this without him.

Thank you for sharing your great thoughts. Sophie, I haven’t “met” you before, so thanks for jumping in. Lisa and Julie, I always love what you have to say.

I got an email this week with a great new Tuesday Topic that I will probably post later tonight or early tomorrow. My computer time is limited!

Take care of yourselves. Seek help from friends, family, and professionals, and make use of good resources. As always, I cannot recommend the Karyn Purvis lectures highly enough. They are FREE and you can watch them when your children are sleeping.

You can find them at Empowered to Connect or go directly to Dr. Purvis’ videos.

And if you haven’t read Karyn Purvis’ book,The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family, I believe it to be essential reading for adoptive parents. This book gave me tools and the videos gave me hope. They are worth your time.

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Stonefox
    December 15, 2009

    Lisa, thank you for this recommendation! I just ordered the book…


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