This week’s Tuesday Topic is a question from Kelly.
My question is about separation anxiety. We have an almost 3 year old son, adopted internationally at 13 months. He has such fear of being babysat or going to church Sunday School, even for a few hours with someone he knows well, that for 3-6 weeks afterward he will have huge fear reactions, terribly interrupted sleep, and be in a general kind of panic. This has happened since the first time we had him stay with someone for a couple hours, but he is finally able to verbalize his fears recently.It doesn’t matter if the sitter comes to our house, or if he’s at theirs, if there are other kids to play with, people he adores, etc. He will tell us that he understands we are going to the dentist or dinner, etc. and that we will be back “because Mama and Daddy always come back”, but the same horrible reactions happen every time. Needless to say we only do this when absolutely necessary. Date nights – non-existent, hair – needs to be cut, doctor – now I bring him with me, morning women’s Bible Study – not a chance, respite care – impossible.But – he’s an amazing kid and we love him to pieces, can’t imagine life without him.
What advice do you have for Kelly? I’m sure some of you have experienced extreme reactions to separation. What did you do to help your child? How did you take care of yourself?
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Have a great day, friends. It is a big homeschool day for me; I’m hoping for a fruitful one.
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