This week’s Tuesday Topic comes from Carla who writes,
Our adopted daughter from Ethiopia has expressed to us several times that she wishes she had white skin and hair like ours. This is a major concern I have always had since we began our adoption journey to Ethiopia. I was always told that it all had to do with how we handled it and if we didn’t have problems with it, then our adopted children wouldn’t. Well, I don’t believe this is true because it is an obvious difference that these children see and have to deal with.
We continue to tell her that God created people with different skin colors and they are all beautiful. I don’t think she is dealing with skin color in and of itself, but the fact that she is part of a family with a different skin color. I am still concerned that this is an underlying issue with her and am not quite sure how to handle it. I haven’t brought it up to her at this point because I don’t want to make it into a big deal, but at the same time I don’t want to ignore it if it needs to be addressed more. I just try to help her when she brings it up.
We also adopted a boy at the same time who is younger and he has not expressed having any concerns with this. I’m not sure if it’s because he is younger or a boy or both. Have you experienced this with your adopted children? If so, how did you handle it?”
As always, I love to hear your responses to our Tuesday Topic questions. You are often much wiser than I am! Let’s share our thoughts with Carla and see if we can come up with some good suggestions for all of us.
In the comments, Becky suggested:
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I own and have read both and found them both to be helpful.
Encourage one another,
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