Today’s Tuesday Topic is from Melissa, who asks,
How do we help our kids love the skin they’re in? My eight year old daughter (adopted from Africa as a baby) wrote me the sweetest letter and picture yesterday saying she loves me with all her heart and she’s glad I’m her mom, and she drew a cute picture of her and me by a castle. I told her I loved the letter and something about how I loved the picture of mommy, and her with her beautiful brown skin. She dropped her eyes (not for the first time) and said “I wish my skin was white.”
We talked about how beautiful God made her and how much I love the color of her skin. And I told her sometimes I have wished my skin was a different color, but reminded her to thank God for making her just how lovely she is. But I know she thinks this often.
We live in a state with a predominantly white population, although she is one of four black children in her class. There is a lady at church with beautiful locs and when she’s feeling really different about her hair she cheers herself up by saying she wants to grow her locs out long and beautiful like that friend at church. I’m just wondering how you all address this, and if you have found ways that help your kids be comfortable in the skin they’re in…and even love it.
I’ve experienced this with my children too, and I’m not sure that I’ve come up with the most affirming, life-giving responses. I would love to hear your thoughts – or you can share your doubts and questions too.
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Have a wonderful day, friends.
Encourage one another,
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