Today’s Tuesday Topic is from Nancy who asks,
Can anyone help me with how to deal with my daughters hypervigilance? I feel like I’m being watched/stared at all day, and she has a very difficult time paying attention to something she is doing, because she is so busy watching everyone else. “Watching” also involves interfering in, solving, intruding, etc. into everyone else’s business. She can relax in her room, but even then, likes to be positioned in a way that she can look out the door to see what everyone else is doing. She monitors how much food everyone has, if they’re done with their schoolwork, if someone is playing with someone else’s toys, what clothes they’re wearing (if they fit, etc.). It’s tiring and I often feel “spied on” for lack of a better word. How do people help their adopted children overcome this? She’s 10 (ish) and has been home for 7 years.
Hypervigilance is a problem for so many of our children. We’ve had some great discussions on Tuesday Topics lately, and I’m sure many of you have helpful thoughts and encouraging words for Nancy. Please take a moment to leave a comment. I’m going to be away from my computer a lot today, but I’ll approve comments as soon as I can.
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