Tuesday Topic: Happy Mother’s Day?

The Mom Book

This week’s Tuesday Topic comes from me!  My question is simple, but I would love to know,

How was your Mother’s Day?  Were there any special surprises?  For those of you with children from “hard places,” how did your kids navigate the day?  Was there anything that made the day better  or worse for them?

My day was one of highs and lows — but I’m used to the lows, so the highs were very sweet.

Sweet Pea flew home from Anchorage Saturday night and was able to squeeze in a quick visit before heading to Seattle for her next rotation – Emergency Medicine.  She left at noon on Sunday, and we enjoyed every minute.

Russ and the kids made a nice breakfast and even Andrew and Mimi made it over in the morning.  I had a lovely bouquet of daffodils as well as two bouquets of dandelions mixed with grape hyacinth.  After breakfast we all went to church. In the evening, Mimi came and kidnapped me; she gave me a pedicure while we watched a movie at her apartment – it was lovely.

I asked for only one thing for Mother’s Day, a Mom Book.  One of you had mentioned it in a comment, then I later read an article in Real Simple.  The author, Jacquelyn Mitchard, a mother of nine (two from Ethiopia), wrote  about her Mom Books and it seemed to be the perfect gift for me.  I am a very sentimental person and there is nothing I love more than things my children create.

The Mom Book is a blank art journal (I had a spare from our Nature Studies) and on holidays, the kids can write a message, poem, glue in a card or drawing, or put anything in it they want to share with me.  I love it!  My big kids still need to add their  messages, but I have lots of treasures to glue in it already.

Take a moment to tell us about your Mother’s Day – the good and bad.  We can be honest here!

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Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. coffeemom
    May 10, 2011

    I saw that, the mom book article and immediately thought, oooh, I want one too! I think I might start one from the sweet cards I got Sunday. I could kick myself for not thinking of this years ago..then again, I have heaps of old sweet cards up in my closet…hmmmmm, wheels spinning.

    I"m so glad you had a lovely day! I did too, tho mine was spent mostly on a plane, flying home from seeing MY mom on mother's day..which was the best best gift of all, for me! Treasured moments.

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  2. lisa
    May 10, 2011

    hi lisa
    so nice to know you had a good day and that it is possible, so happy for you as i know you work hard at it daily.
    sadly, my mothers day was like pushing a two ton boulder up mt. everest! we were prepared for it and we handled it well but it was so bad, she made herself as un approachable as she could be. hard day, hard stuff but like you said a while back. there is impossible, difficult and done, we did it and so it was not impossbile, just very difficult and in that measure there is hope. i am going with that for this year! lisa

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  3. Julie
    May 10, 2011

    I'm so glad you had a nice day. And thanks for asking. 🙂 My day was pretty good, from a trauma point of view. The weeks leading up to it were beyond difficult, though. And things are still edgy around here. But overall, we had a much better day than last year. Healing is happening. Wisdom is gaining. Joy is returning. I found myself very thankful for all my kids.

    On thing that I consciously did this year was to keep it low-key with realistic expectations. That helped all of us avoid the big blow-ups that could have come our way.

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  4. Kayla
    May 10, 2011

    On Mother's Day, we received news from our daughter's birth mom, the first we've actually had since we committed to her and since she's been home. There is something about mother's day as an adoptive mom that makes it just a smidge different than the mother's days other experience. http://ourmixedblessings.blogspot.com/2011/05/for

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    1. Jennifer
      May 10, 2011

      I had never been to your blog before but read your Mother's Day post. You communicated beautifully! I would just like to say that while C will need to process begin placed for adoption without siblings, it's not the most traumatic thing to have to process, oddly enough. I was adopted from an orphanage (after being the only child in my family to be abandoned – my parents kept 6 of my siblings). My adopted siblings (all 7 of them) are all the only ones placed for adoption and now only one of our adopted children is an only child (the others are all the only ones to be placed for adoption) and it isn't as big a deal as you might anticipate. Our newest daughter is a teen from the foster care system and also the only (of 8!) to be placed for adoption. It's actually very common, I think. Don't worry too much about an issue that may not even develop. Many blessings, Jennifer

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  5. Jennifer
    May 10, 2011

    I had never heard of this type of a journal. I really like the idea! Thank you!

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  6. Amy
    May 10, 2011

    We were shocked to have a pretty good Mother's Day weekend. My kids were really excited about making their gifts for me. And my daughter, who is our hard one, made TONS of stuff for me. She made me a folder full of pictures and such on Friday (worked on it after school for over an hour). Then on Sunday all the kids went with Dad to pick out gifts at the dollar store (kind of a tradition now in our family). They also got me cake and flowers and we all celebrated together. My daughter even jumped into a photo with me (almost unheard of normally)! Then on Monday I visited her school for a celebration and she gave me a little book she made. Then she came home with a card for me. And when she got home from school she went up to her room and made another card! I was shocked, but touched.

    We also celebrated Birthmom (hate that word) Day on Saturday with ice cream, and we toasted their Ethiopian Mommy with our bowls of ice cream. I was hoping that would lead to them sharing some about their ET mom, but I didn't want to force it on our first Mother's Day weekend together. So we just toasted, and then ate our ice cream while we chatted about other things.

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  7. Kirstine
    May 12, 2011

    We had a visit from our son's first mother on Saturday. I told my husband casually that I had bought her a present for mothers day, and I could tell by the look of his face he had absolutely no idea mothers day was coming up. He practically runs the home these days because I'm pregnant and very tired. So I was quick to say my only wish for mothers day was a familiy photo – all four of us. "Great. We can do that." was his reply. No last minute shopping or crafting needed.

    It was nice to celebrate mothers day with our son's first mother. And I got my family photo.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      May 12, 2011

      Kirstine, that sounds wonderful.

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  8. Sarah
    May 14, 2011

    Wow! I like the idea of a mom book. We actually do something similar for our kids. On their birthdays and adoption days, we write a blessing in the book. We do this instead of giving them a card, so that they can keep all of their blessings and love notes together to read whenever they like.

    My sweet little guy who has been particularly needy lately had a tough day. All the excitement and pressure of the day, was just too much for him. Funny…he really wanted to do well as a gift to me, but that made it much harder to do well! Precious little pumpkin…he has such a sweet, loving heart.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      May 15, 2011

      Sarah, I love the idea of a blessing book. I always wanted to be a mom who journaled, but it never happened. A birthday blessing book would be a simple form of this.

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  9. angela
    May 16, 2011

    I had a great day. I couldn't help comparing last year's mother's day with this years. Last year… screaming, tantrums, rage, swearing at me…. the whole nine yards. This year, homemade cards, love, happy, thoughtful kids…. even the hard child was sweet and lovely. What a blessing.

    angela

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      May 16, 2011

      Angela, it is wonderful that your daughter has made such dramatic progress in one year. I'm so happy for you!

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  10. Christen S
    May 26, 2011

    I have followed this blog for some time now, and have really, really enjoyed it! I blogged on my first mothers day, and would love for you to read it:
    http://iwannabakeyoubirthdaycake.blogspot.com/201
    I was very worried Mothers Day would be hard, but thankfully it went well. Children who have experienced trauma are little jewels, we just wait for their moment in the sun and watch them shine….

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