Time for a Change

It was time for a change.  The long drives to and from Seattle had taken their toll, and we made the hard decision to discontinue seeing our wonderful therapist, Deborah.  After over two years of seeing her regularly, it is hard letting go, and the girls really miss her, but it was time to find somebody closer to home.  The blessing is that the girls made huge strides working with her.  God made a way for us to work with her when our need was great, and I will be forever thankful.

Initially, the sacrifice of driving 300 miles each way, leaving our other children every other weekend, taking the girls out of school for Monday appointments, spending hours on the road and thousands in gas, was all completely worth it. As the girls made progress, the balance began to tip.  The stress of missing school, disrupting their routine regularly, and the fatigue of travel began to equal the benefit.  The lost time with the other children and disruption to our lives was taking a huge toll on the family; we realized it was time to make a new plan.

I was afraid we would never find the right person, but right here in our town, we found a psychologist to work with Dimples.  She specializes in trauma, which is just what we need, and she is Christian woman.  I honestly didn’t think we could find somebody who fits our needs this well.  We’re still looking for the right person for Honeybee. It is hard to trust anyone to work with my girls and honestly, I’m still a little scared, but I’m trusting that the Lord led us down this path.

By the way, I still have loads of notes to process and share from our time working with with Deborah; maybe I’ll have time to actually do it.

I’m ready for a productive school day.  Sunshine had a fever yesterday but woke up feeling better today, so we can jump right in.  I dug out some different readers for the little boys and they are excited for the change.  They are also having fun plowing through their phonics workbooks.  Best of all, the sun is shining through the windows and it is a beautiful morning.

I also have to share one little funny story. Eby was eating a hamburger yesterday and began picking the sesame seeds off the bun.  Little Man asked him why and he replied, “If you eat the seeds, bread grows inside your tummy.”  He is a funny kid.

giving thanks #241 – 250

the therapist who met our need when we were at our lowest

Dimples’ new therapist

Jesus for giving us what we need

small group and a great discussion on John ch. 1

Sunshine feeling better

little boys sleeping late

Honeybee packing Russ’ lunch this morning

leaves turning yellow on the apple trees

Ladybug’s happiness – volleyball, youth group, See You at the Pole, being 13

friends who listen when I need to  process

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Celina Green
    September 29, 2011

    What a hard decision to make – strength and guidance to you as you navigate finding a new therapist.

    I have no idea where you live but maybe, just maybe you're down near where I live – if so, I have heard really good reviews from AttachOregon yahoo group as well as a few friends who have used Dr. Kali Miller in Portland.
    Dr. Kali Miller (psychologist)
    Corinthia Counseling Center
    3731 SE 164th
    Portland, OR 97236
    (503) 251-1952

  2. Dawn Wright
    September 29, 2011

    That is hilarious 🙂

    SOOO glad you were able to find someone to meet your needs!!! It is hard to find someone to trust!! Praying that you find a match for Honeybee too. I know it was necessary, but now think of all the gas and time you will save!!! YEAH! Praying it works great!!!

    Would love to hear some wisdom you have gained – love hearing it on your blog!!!!

  3. Paula
    September 29, 2011

    Wow, a tough decision, but one I can completely understand. I've thought of you many times when we were making the 45 minute drive to our therapist… even that amount of time seems disruptive and inconvenient, and I've wished many times that we still lived in Omaha instead of out in the country. But then I would think about you and your 300 mile drive and it gave me perspective. 🙂 Good luck with you new therapist(s).

  4. Sweet Pea
    October 1, 2011

    Eby created a new twist on the "Chester's Way" watermelon dilemma!

    1. One Thankful Mom
      October 1, 2011

      I love that book! See you Sunday.

  5. Joy Portis
    October 1, 2011

    Thanks for sharing this journey with us! Praying for you all as you make this new adjustment and that it will help simplify your days, free up time, meet the needs of your family and dimples! Love you all!

  6. learningpatience
    October 12, 2011

    "bread . . . inside your tummy!" That's awesome!

    I've wondered before if you felt like your trips were taking a toll – or if it was just so worth it that it didn't matter. Will pray that you find just the right person for Honeybee. I appreciate all that you have shared on your journey and hope this next leg of the journey will be a blessing to you all as well!


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