This is What Happens…

…when I am away too much.


Yes, I am wearing my fifty+ pound four year old on my back. He loved it and I did too. What a workout! There is nothing like attachment parenting – it builds your muscles in many ways.

Sweet Pea just returned from her month in Montana. It is good to have her home!

~Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Marie
    August 5, 2009

    Lisa,

    Thank you so much for posting this picture. We are reading up on attachment parenting for our impending adoption. It resonates so much with us.

    I have been incredibly struck by how little you see of parents holding, carrying and nurturing their children. It makes me sad! It is so important for parents to see another form of parenting. That it is okay to hold a child, carry an older child in a sling or carrier, bond!!!

    Good for you and may your muscles keep holding up! Your heart muscle is obviously super strong!!!

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  2. Mamita J
    August 5, 2009

    Wow! Lisa!

    What kind of carrier is that? I still carry Cupcake a lot, but I just use my arms. Ugh!

    Julie

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  3. Lauren
    August 5, 2009

    Three cheers for Ergo carriers!

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  4. McNew Family
    August 5, 2009

    I had to laugh when I saw your picture. I had my Ergo in hand this morning, thinking I should pass it on. We are headed back to Ch*na soon to bring home our 4 year old, 2nd SN daughter. Do you think that I should go ahead and pack it "just in case"???? LOVE those Ergo's – I wish I had one when my bios were little!

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  5. Thankfulmom
    August 5, 2009

    Marie,
    Thanks for your encouraging words. I also feel sad when I see so many babies being toted around in plastic carseats rather than in their parents' arms. There is a time and place for carseats, but I always like holding my babies.

    Julie, the carrier is an Ergo and it is great for babies and toddlers.

    Lisa

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  6. Signe
    August 5, 2009

    I am totally impressed, your little guy is heavy! He does look super happy.

    Enjoy your time with Hannah!

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  7. Staci
    August 5, 2009

    We LOVE our Ergo. I put my 3 year old in it as well as my 15 month old and our future Ethiopian bebes will be carted around as well. (I think we might have to get another one!) That is the best picture. We are close to sending out our dossier!!

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  8. Jen Dugas
    August 5, 2009

    Lisa,

    Thank you for all that you share with us!!! I have been reading for a long time but never posted.

    I need a pack like that for my daughter. She is 7 but weighs only 40 on a good day. Her diagnosis FAS, RAD, ODD, and general anxiety disorder. Because she is so lanky I can not carry her on my hip any more. But, she would love to be on my back.

    I am so glad that you are getting the help you need. It took us 3 years (our daughter has been home for 3.8) to find the right therapist.

    As I pray for my family at night, I pray for Dimples, Honeybee and all the rest. Thank you for sharing your heart. Love the outside tent playhouse.

    Jen

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  9. Matthew and Amanda
    August 5, 2009

    SO glad I am not the only one with a 50+ pound 4 year old who likes to be carried!!

    Honestly, I love that he turns to me frequently to be held. I know the day will be here too soon when I would give anything to hold him like I do now.

    Amanda

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  10. Bonnie S.
    August 5, 2009

    Your picture reminds me of a sight I saw a couple of years ago at our farmers market.
    There was a Nigerian family working as vendors, serving food from their homeland. The mom was pregnant and they had a two year old daughter hanging out all morning while they worked. Their daughter began getting tired and restless so her mom put the little girl on her back (like your 4 yr old). Except she had no carrier. The daughter just hugged her mom and the mom stooped over a little and used her elbows to pinch her daughters arms to her side and kept right on serving customers. The most amazing thing about this picture was that the girl was fast asleep in no time looking perfectly content on her mother's back.

    Thank you for sharing your families stories. They have been a blessing to read.
    Bonnie

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  11. Thankfulmom
    August 6, 2009

    Thank you for all of the great comments. Who would have known so many of us would be carting our "little ones" around?

    Jen, thank you for your prayers – really, I am humbled.

    McNew Family, yes, take your Ergo to China!! Your daughter may love it and chances are very good she will be much smaller than my big boy.

    Your comments are very encouraging to me – thank you everyone.

    Lisa

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  12. Andrea H.
    August 7, 2009

    That is some really good exercise. And having seen him in person, he is a pretty big guy. Its so nice to have the older girls home. My Danica is home for good now until September. Hopefully our older kids will love each other's company at camp.

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  13. jen
    August 20, 2009

    I just have to say that I laughed when I saw this, because just yesterday I was wondering if I could put my 3.5 yo in the Ergo while I did something (can't remember what it was now – duh!) I remember thinking that I might collapse under his weight…you are one strong woman!

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