“There’s Nothing to Eat”

With Honeybee’s permission, I am sharing this photo because it makes me laugh every time I see it.  On that particular morning, Honeybee was standing at the refrigerator saying, “There’s nothing to eat.”  While I hate to share my messy frig with all of you, here it is.  We had a good teaching moment when I pointed out to Honeybee that the refrigerator was so full of good food that there was clearly something to eat.  Contentment is hard to learn, but it is necessary in life.

I blogged yesterday on the Show Hope site today, Bringing a Message of Hope.  The Show Hope team  makes the Empowered to Connect Conferences possible.  They take care of all of the details from locations to what we all eat for lunch. Plus, they are lots of fun.

No profound blogging today – just life!

#881 – 890 giving thanks

a brisk walk on a windy morning

Sweet Pea climbing the hills with me

snow tires off the cars

daffodils 

dinner with new friends last night

graduation announcements nearly done

helpful older kids

Mimi and Andrew enjoying time with Andrew’s family in Texas

Ladybug running hurdles – serious courage

Eby and Sunshine’s refrigerator art gallery

Happy Friday, friends.

Lisa

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

12 Comments

  1. Laurel
    April 27, 2012

    Random question for you and your readers …

    Do you find that your adopted kids are MORE picky about eating … LESS content with what you have, than your bio. kids?

    My adoptive kids just aren't happy with what we have … what we eat … what we plan to do. NOTHING is good enough for them.

    Prior to adopting, I would have thought that kids from Africa who had NOTHING, would really appreciate ALL that we do have. But … not.so.much.

    Just wondering if this is true in other families … or if it's just part of my Little Miss' nature.

    Hope your weekend is BLESSED!

    Laurel

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 27, 2012

      Contentment with food and clothing are continual challenges for my girls. It can really wear me down at times. We should brainstorm some helpful tips in a Tuesday Topic – or right here for that matter.

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      1. Emily
        April 27, 2012

        So interesting… Any theories as to why that is? (Sorry Lisa, you know it's my psychologist brain coming through :-)).

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        1. Lisa Qualls
          April 27, 2012

          Emily – I'm thinking you might come up with a clever answer 🙂

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          1. Emily
            April 27, 2012

            I'll take that as a challenge for after I finish my finals 🙂

          2. Lisa Qualls
            April 27, 2012

            Sounds good.

    2. Jeannette
      April 27, 2012

      My kid isn't picky about food (or at least he doesn't express it) but he has expressed it in other areas. Our theory, based on our sample of one, is that it is some sort of fear thing. A 'too-good-to-be-true" so I'll reject it or "if they gave me e.x.a.c.t.l.y. what I asked for, maybe it means they really do love me" so he projects great dislike to mask the underlying feelings of fear.
      But like I said, it is only our guess, only based on our random sample of 1. 🙂

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      1. Lisa Qualls
        April 27, 2012

        That is really interesting, Jeannette. It may be a sample of one, but he is the one you know better than anyone else. I wonder if it is due to such extreme deprivation that nothing ever seems quite right or good enough.

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    3. Jennie
      April 27, 2012

      Oh, I can so totally relate. We brought home a sibling set of 4 in December and have battled this in ALL of them to some degree. It has taken every ounce of patience I have to not become totally bitter about it. Mostly I just give them a look that conveys, "Seriously??"

      We are also totally dismayed at their lack of regard for possessions. Thought we could understand it a little, but after buying oldest boy a brand new bike for his birthday and then having sister break it out of spite, we were both done.

      Never imagined we'd be dealing with both of these issues as much as we have. Our bio kids are also struggling with it as their things are often what get broken.

      Ugh!

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      1. Lisa Qualls
        April 28, 2012

        Jennie, I am so sorry. I know how easily these challenges color our lives and relationships. I want to encourage you to press on even when you are weary. Just this morning Russ and I were drinking coffee and watching Dimples play cards with Sunshine. I cannot believe how far she has come – a true miracle. I'm praying for your family today.

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  2. Cat
    April 27, 2012

    Love the photo! I have those days too… 🙂

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 27, 2012

      Thanks, Cat!

      Reply

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