The Slow Transition Home

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Over the past two days we’ve had three meetings for Dimples. We’ve had loads of meetings this year, but there was a distinct shift this week. We’re beginning to talk about the gradual transition home.

We need to do everything we can to ensure that Dimples will be successful living in the midst of family.  Family has always been hard for her – always. Even before she came home from Ethiopia, family was difficult. Sadly, those early experiences set us up to be the hardest relationships for her. 

Our plan is to slowly increase home visits, first with a staff member present, then on her own. The visits are also going to grow increasingly longer. Between visits Dimples will have time back at her program to help her process. We’ll also have the opportunity to begin finding the potential glitches on our end and make practical changes to help our family function well.

Having her own room is a big piece of  the plan; please pray for us about the remodeling project. We’re also talking about ways we can help her be successful at school next fall. Actually, school is the easy part; she loves school. It’s before and after school, and navigating the two worlds of school and family that are the challenge.

We had a home visit planned for next weekend, but it had to be canceled because the program is short a staff member. We’re going to try again in early March.

I could write so much more, but need to get moving into my school morning. Thank you for your prayers, for reading our story and supporting us. You are a gift to me, friends.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

25 Comments

  1. Mary (Owlhaven)
    February 6, 2014

    Praying many blessings on your family as you gradually work her back towards home.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 6, 2014

      Mary, thank you for your prayers.

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  2. Sandra Zimmerman
    February 6, 2014

    I will be praying. The transition period is hard on everyone but God is good and will give you strength for the road ahead.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 6, 2014

      Thank you, Sandra.

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  3. Laine
    February 6, 2014

    Prayers for your family as you all work through this transition.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 6, 2014

      Thank you, Laine. Prayers are a great gift to us.

      Reply
  4. Emily
    February 6, 2014

    Hopeful with you. Love you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 6, 2014

      Thanks, Emily. Keep being hopeful and when I need it, send some my way.

      Reply
  5. Juli
    February 6, 2014

    I don't know you in person, although I wish I did, but you have been an incredible gift to me. Thank you for being open and encouraging. And thank you so much for leading me to Karen Purvis and her work. The things I have learned from her and from your blog have been a life saver to our family. Thank you! I pray for you and your family.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 7, 2014

      I am so thankful for your encouraging words, Juli. Karyn has been a great gift to me as well. She gave me hope when we had none.

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  6. DFNY
    February 6, 2014

    Lighting a candle for you, Dimples and the whole family. May God guide you to make this transition a smooth one.

    Damaris

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 7, 2014

      Thank you, Damaris.

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      1. DFNY
        February 8, 2014

        May I just add that I think you have the most beautiful children? All of them, from oldest to youngest, have such amazing smiles (and great teeth, too!). 🙂 I love this picture.

        Damaris

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        1. Lisa Qualls
          February 8, 2014

          Thank you, Damaris. I think they're pretty amazing too.

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  7. Rebecca
    February 6, 2014

    Praying for her and your family. So much potential for healing and beauty, but so many days along the way.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 7, 2014

      Yes,we all have a long road ahead of us. Thank you for your prayers, Rebecca.

      Reply
  8. Robin Douglas
    February 7, 2014

    Praying with you, Lisa. Thank you again for sharing your journey. May your school day be super productive!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 7, 2014

      We woke up to more snow – I'm thinking a snow day sounds good. Not productive, but good! Thank you for your prayers, Robin.

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  9. Jennifer P
    February 6, 2014

    I am grateful that you are sharing this journey.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 7, 2014

      It's hard to know what to share and what to keep private, but I want families to know that they are not alone. Thanks for the encouragement.

      Reply
  10. Erika
    February 6, 2014

    Praying

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 7, 2014

      Thank you, Erika.

      Reply
  11. Stacy
    February 8, 2014

    Lisa- when we transitioned our daughter home, we made morning exercise mandatory- not just for her but for most of us. The more she moves in the morning, the better she handles the day…please contact me, if you need to chat with someone who has been there.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 8, 2014

      That is a great idea, Stacy. Thank you so much. It would be good to talk with you.

      Reply
  12. Angie
    February 12, 2014

    Thank you for your beautiful transparency. May The Lord bless you and keep you and may his face shine upon you all during this intricate transition time.

    Reply

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