The Rockin' Mama Challenge!

One week ago I started my challenge of rocking Honeybee 15 minutes each day. It has not been easy, and I’ve already missed two days – Christmas is a tough time to establish a new routine. But, I know it means the world to Honeybee and it is good for both of our hearts.

Last week when I was rocking Honeybee she said, “My heart is so burning with love it is almost filled up.”   Need I say more?

Will you join me in the challenge? Rusty worked hard to set up a special page for you to sign up and add your blog to the list of other moms who are participating. I would love to see many of us loving our children, rocking them, and filling their hearts with the gift of being held.

You can read more about the Rockin’ Mama Challenge HERE, you will also find it in the sidebar.

As I rock my Honeybee, I will be praying for each one of you.  I hope you will pray for me too.

Join me, friends.  It will be worth the cost of laying down our lives just a little bit more for the love of our children.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. sleighs79
    December 27, 2010

    Oh, I so need this right now. I'm struggling to continue to maintain that connection and regulation – when behaviors are so out of control, so hurtful to me, that's when I need to connect the most. And that's when it's the hardest. I hope that this challenge is healing to both me and to my foster son.

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  2. Michelle
    December 27, 2010

    I wonder if the rocking challenge would help my 2 1/2 year old son (bio) during the adjustment period of adding a newborn to our home. I would love it if it reduced the number/intensity of his tantrums.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 27, 2010

      Michelle, I think it would help and I hope you will give it a try. I know that this would help Sunshine and hope to devote time to rocking her and my other little ones over the next months. Please join us!

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  3. dawn
    December 27, 2010

    I'm in. I don't have a rocking chair just yet, but we are rocking wherever we can. The best part is, I have a little guy who reverts to being a baby while we rock, and I have a little girl who I feel MYSELF relaxing into and bonding to while we rock.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 27, 2010

      Dawn, I'm so glad it works for you. Don't worry about not having a real rocking chair, Honeybee says the most important thing is to sit close and hug your child. I think we should pray that somebody gives you a rocking chair – it could happen!

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  4. Cara
    December 27, 2010

    Your post reminded me of this poem that was in my bedroom when I was a young child.
    "Cleaning and cooking can wait 'till tomorrow
    For babies grow up, as we've learned to our sorrow.
    So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep,
    I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      Thank you Cara.

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  5. Chantelle
    December 28, 2010

    I'm afraid that the intensity with which I do NOT want to do this is a strong indicator of how very much I should.

    I will probably be joining in (after my cold lessens). Bless you, again.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      Chantelle, you can do it! I know you can. You have such a loving heart — but there is something in us that resists giving ourselves away sometimes. Sign up for the Challenge so I can you to our growing list of Rockin' Mamas.

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  6. RamblingMother
    December 28, 2010

    I can't do 15 times a day as I work but I will do so as much and as often as I can. I need it as much as my child.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      I'm so glad you are joining us, even if you can't do the entire 15 min. Perhaps you could even do five in the morning and five in the evening. Of course, our ultimate goal is attachment and connection, so any increase in our devoted, nurturing attention to our children is good. Be sure to sign up for the Challenge (link in the sidebar) so I can add you to the list of Rockin' Mamas.

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  7. learningpatience
    December 28, 2010

    So, I've been thinking, and does it have to be rocking? I know my almost 5 year old would really, really like it if I just was more intentional about doing what he wants for a bit . . . with three older sibs, I am sure that he feels lost in the mix sometimes. So can I just be intentional about playing with him/sitting him on my lap and helping him some days instead of rocking him? Or is this a rocking only challenge?

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 28, 2010

      This is definitely not a "rocking only" challenge, this is a loving our kids and giving them intentional, concentrated, loving time and connection with us challenge. Many of our children did not have a mommy to love them and give them that lovely, devoted time we give our babies — we gaze in their eyes, nurse them at our breast, rock them in our arms. Some of them had that from their first mommies, but many of them didn't. This is our time to meet the needs of their hearts – to look in their eyes, to let our hearts beat with theirs. I think you should do whatever meets the deepest need of your son's heart for the challenge.

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  8. coffeemom
    December 28, 2010

    all right all right…..! I'm in. Sigh. Part of me cringes because while I KNOW it's the best thing to do….another part of me is tired (I know, rocking soothes me too…) and overrun w/ kid needs. But I'm in. I've already done today's….inadvertently so I might as well make it official.
    Can you say grudgingly today? I guess I can….but, really, I know I KNOW it helps. So, our version today is in my lap, swiveling as we watch the auto slide show of pics. Very soothing for her, she melts in. So, that's our rocking today. She's old enough that I can't get her to sit for long doing nothing at all…but it's clearly a work in progress.
    Day one.
    thanks for this challenge. I guess that's why we call it a CHALLENGE: it's not easy!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      I'm glad you are finding your own version for your girl. Honeybee wants my complete 100% attention and I can't tell you how hard it is for me! Fortunately we have the Christmas tree right now (although only for another day or so),so we sit in a little swivel rocker I got at Goodwill (yes, I had it cleaned), and we rock while looking at the tree. Yesterday we sang a few Christmas songs and then talked. Keep rocking friend!

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  9. Dawn
    December 28, 2010

    Lisa, So happy to read this, whne we brought our son home he was 2 and we rocked every night and afternoon for the first 9 months. It was a lovely time for both of us. We had been in transitional housing for the past 5 months and most furniture was packed away, including the rocker I have used with my 3 bio kids and JBZ, when we moved into our new home we brought up the rocker and I thought,"its time to maybe give it away, now that all the babies are growing up(my kids are 3,5,7 &9) I temporarily set it in the living room and was then asked by each child to be rocked by the end of the day(even my 9y/o boy,after the others went to bed:) They each asked if this was what it was like when they were babies and we connected deeply, each one. I saw my adopted son was still in great need of it and my "big kids" treasured the time too! The rocker will stay! And I will take the challenge!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      Dawn, I love this! Rocking is so soothing to our bodies and spirits, no matter what our age. I remember a time when I was in deep grief and I curled up in Russ' arms in our rocking chair. He rocked me as I cried and it was profoundly comforting. I couldn't recall being rocked before — although I'm sure I was as a baby. I'm so glad you are rocking your "big kids", they will love it, and thank you for joining my Challenge!

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  10. Dolisa Winkelman
    December 28, 2010

    Okay, okay- I'm in too. I'm not sure I want to be a "blogger", but it's worth it, if only for this challenge. I fought it off last night and part of today. Suddenly, I found my self highly frustrated. I took him by the hand and said, "Come on. Just you and me. Let's go rock for a bit." It was very soothing for both of us. He brought up a book we recently read (on adoption) and then brought up the first time he saw us.
    I'm intrigued. Let my challenge begin.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      Dolisa, I hope you will sign up for the challenge so we can add your blog to the list of Rockin' Mamas! We had a good rocking time yesterday, come important conversation started to flow out of Honeybee. So glad to know you are rocking with us.

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  11. rebekah
    December 29, 2010

    Ok, we're officially in. I say we because with our daily schedules both Patrick and I will need to participate. We're going to try it for both of our adopted kids, one home for 4 months and one home for almost 3 years but struggling right now. (what with the new addition 4 months ago)

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      Rebekah, with two kids in the challenge, it is great that both you and your husband can participate. Russ rocks the little boys nearly every night when he tucks them in. Right now, Honeybee would not be happy if she didn't have my 100% attention.

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  12. Cheryl
    December 29, 2010

    I'm in and feeling hopeful about this challenge…Thank you! I will start tomorrow.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 29, 2010

      I'm so glad to have you with us!

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  13. Maureen
    January 6, 2011

    I signed up! I have adopted 4 little girls, well they aren't all so little anymore. We started to have a lot of behavioral problems with my 8 year old about 2 years ago and one of the things a friend of mine told me to do was to rock her. When I did, my 6 year old (who was only 4 at the time) wanted me to rock her too.

    I keep my rocking chair in my littlest daughters room. I rock her at night before she goes to bed, and it isn't uncommon for me to find a line of them waiting in the hall to be rocked next. My oldest daughter is 11 and she is already 5'6", but I tell her I will rock her until I can not feel my toes!

    It reminds me of that wonderful book "I'll Love You Forever". I can not read it without crying! Thanks for the challenge!

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