The Honest Truth

One month ago I didn’t imagine that I would be writing this post. One day ago I didn’t know how I would write it.  If I were to wait a day or two, it could become a week or two, and then I might be tempted to word it too carefully, or spin it in a particular way.

Then it occurred to me that the best thing to do is what I’ve always done – share honestly from my heart.

This morning Russ and I are traveling with Dimples to Montana.  While we plan to go out for dinner and swim at the hotel, the truth is that this is a heartbreaking trip because when we travel back on Tuesday, Dimples will not be with us. A series of events over the last few weeks has brought us to this decision.

We believe the program is a good fit for our family and is in line with our beliefs about helping children heal.  We will be very involved in her care and treatment, and expect we will be traveling to Montana regularly.  Our goal is to bring her home when the necessary healing has taken place.

I’ve cried many tears over this decision, yet we see the Lord’s hand in every single step we’ve taken.  He has clearly led us on this path and we are trusting Him in every moment.

We’ll be home on Tuesday and I may put on my pajamas and curl up in a ball for a couple of days – or God may give me unexpected strength.  Either way, my life is not my own, it belongs to Jesus and I will worship him.

Take my will and make it Thine
It shall be no longer mine.
Take my heart it is Thine own
It shall be Thy royal throne.
Take my love, my Lord I pour
At Your feet it’s treasure store
Take myself and I will be
Ever, only, all for Thee.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

85 Comments

  1. Paula Miles Spears
    January 7, 2013

    My heart is breaking for you. And for Dimples. I so hope and pray this will bring all the much needed healing you are hoping for. Hugs, friend.

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  2. Maria
    January 7, 2013

    Thank you for sharing honestly Lisa – may it encourage others to seek out the help that their children need, regardless of where the journey takes them or even how things end up!! My prayers are with you as you walk out this very difficult next part of your life. Your love for Jesus and for each one of the precious jewels God has given you is an inpiration!! Blessings of PEACE, Maria

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  3. Heather Snyder
    January 7, 2013

    It must be so hard to have one of your little ones out of your care! Praying for your family and for Dimples!

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  4. courtneycassada
    January 7, 2013

    He is with you, He is with her, He is in this, Lisa. TRUST that. EVERY moment…even in the midst of your doubts and fears and anger and confusion…He is there and isn't surprised by ANY of it. i am praying for you and so appreciate your honesty and your letting us join you in it.

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  5. Chris
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for strength and comfort, Lisa! May God give you many confirming signs and you feel Him carrying you through this experience!

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  6. Naomi
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for you all…..so, so sorry that you are having to walk this road. Your heart of His life through you more than your life is beautiful.

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  7. Brianna
    January 7, 2013

    Oh Lisa I will be praying! God bless you and your dear family.

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  8. Kayla
    January 7, 2013

    I am so sorry you are having to make this choice I am sure you will have many tears over the next few days, weeks, the whatever. From .Lamentations 3:19-27 (The Message)

    19-21I'll never forget the trouble, the utter lostness,
    the taste of ashes, the poison I've swallowed.
    I remember it all—oh, how well I remember—
    the feeling of hitting the bottom.
    But there's one other thing I remember,
    and remembering, I keep a grip on hope:
    22-24God's loyal love couldn't have run out,
    his merciful love couldn't have dried up.
    They're created new every morning.
    How great your faithfulness!
    I'm sticking with God (I say it over and over).
    He's all I've got left.
    25-27God proves to be good to the man who passionately waits,
    to the woman who diligently seeks.
    It's a good thing to quietly hope,
    quietly hope for help from God.
    It's a good thing when you're young
    to stick it out through the hard times.

    May you not lose your grip on hope.

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  9. Lisa H
    January 7, 2013

    I will be here holding you up in ptayer! The story's not all told….

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  10. Sheryl
    January 7, 2013

    God has a plan for you and for Dimples…He makes the plans weave in and out, up and down, touching in places and not in others…He knows the plan and the design and He loves you.

    We will pray.

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  11. SleepyKnitter
    January 7, 2013

    Oh, Lisa! My heart is breaking for you! At our house we know the pain of reaching that time when things have to change dramatically for the good of everyone in the family, including the struggling child, and we know both the enormous pain and enormous relief that follows the change. Still feeling both very deeply seven months later. I will keep you in my prayers, dear sister.

    Love,

    Shawnee

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  12. Hannah Jasmine
    January 7, 2013

    My heart is aching for you, Mrs. Qualls, but I know that God will use this situation to bring you all closer to him. Praying, praying for all of you to heal during this time.

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  13. Tisha
    January 7, 2013

    I can only imagine how difficult this is for you, Lisa. Over the years, I have been completely amazed at your commitment, patience, perseverance, selflessness, resolve, and willingness to do whatever it takes, as you have walked the road of parenting all your children, especially Dimples. I, for one, have no doubt I would not be able to handle all that you have with even a fraction of the graciousness, humility, and compassion you've shown. Dimples is a very fortunate little girl to be your daughter. Our family will be praying for yours. May God grant you all peace and healing.

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  14. Kara
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for you, Russ and Dimples. That you continue to feel HIM directing your path. Hugs from Iowa.

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  15. Elizabeth
    January 7, 2013

    We support you in this difficult decision. We have watched you go above and beyond, trying so many different things to keep Dimples at home. No one can judge you because they have not been in your shoes or wrestled with your pain. Just know you are not alone. Not physically, emotionally, or spiritually. We love all of you and I am proud to call you my sister. We will continue to cover this whole situation in prayer….until.

    Bits

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  16. Laurel
    January 7, 2013

    Love . . . and Hugs . . . and Prayers . . . and Understanding.

    We did "that drive" 6 months ago . . . returning without our Little Miss.

    Some local friends of ours did "that drive" just last week . . . returning without their Son.

    We know that we know that we know our daughter is in a Good Place,
    a place that we pray and pray and pray will bring her the healing that she needs.

    I hope and pray that you do not go home and curl up in a ball.
    I didn't.
    My friend didn't.
    We both were able to truly relax and enjoy the rest of our large families
    for the first time in many, many, months/years.

    Yes. This drive will be HARD. Unimaginably HARD.
    But, God will give you and Russ the strength to do
    what He has called you to do.

    You are doing what is BEST for Dimples.
    You are doing what is BEST for your other children.
    You are doing what is BEST for you and Russ.
    Yes. You are doing what is BEST,
    and that is exactly what God has called you to do.

    Love . . . and Hugs . . . and Prayers . . . and Understanding . . . for each of you!

    Laurel
    mama of 12

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  17. shannon
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for you, Russ, and Dimples at this very moment. You are an incredible mom-to give your precious child the room that she needs to heal and grow, while being away from you. I'm sure that God is looking down and smiling on you as you mother Dimples. That your willingness to walk this hard, hard road is your faith in action, your love for Dimples in action. My prayer will be that God would continue to meet you all right where you are and that his comforting arms would give you all the courage to face the next moment and the next day. Thank you for your trasparency in sharing. You are really an amazing mother to "watch".

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  18. ahhodgman
    January 7, 2013

    Bless you. FWIW, I was hoping this would be your decision for now.

    "Lord, I did not freely choose You 'til by grace You set me free.
    For my heart would still refuse You had Your love not chosen me…"

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  19. Angelina Denver
    January 7, 2013

    Prayers for peace to descend on your heart and home while you go through this transition. Peace to you.

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  20. Shonni
    January 7, 2013

    I will be praying for you Lisa, for your family!!!

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  21. sweetaffinity
    January 7, 2013

    I applaud you for doing what is best for your daughter and your family despite the pain involved.

    Hugs,
    Laura

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  22. Michelle
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for peace and healing for all of you. You are an amazing mommy and such an example of a humble, Godly woman. Love to your family and Dimples. Will be praying for her to desire and fight for healing.

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  23. Ann
    January 7, 2013

    Oh Lisa! My heart is aching for you all! Just yesterday I was reading "Jesus Calling" and after I read the daily devotion I immediately thought of you and wanted to e-mail it to you (not even knowing about your current situation). Then the day got busy and even tho I thought of it a couple times I didn't listen and go to my computer to e-mail it.

    So, I will post it here: Jesus Calling by Sarah Young
    Jan 6, "I am able to do far beyond all that you ask or imagine. Come to Me with positive expectations, knowing that there is no limit to what I can accomplish. Ask My Spirit to control your mind, so that you can think great thoughts of Me. Do not be discouraged by the fact that many of your payers are yet unanswered. Time is a trainer, teaching you to wait upon Me, to trust Me in the dark. The more extreme your cirucmstances, the more likely you are to see MY POWER AND GLORY at work in the situation. Instead of letting diffiuclties draw you into worrying, try to view them as setting the scene for My glorious intervention. Keep your eyes and your mind wide open to all that I am doing in your life."

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    1. Lisa H.
      January 7, 2013

      Wow! Thanks, Ann! I needed that!

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  24. Mary B.
    January 7, 2013

    So incredibly honest and I thank you for that as we may one day be walking a similar path in our own lives. I can't say I know how it feels…because I have no idea. I do know who I feel when my child hurts…a deep unending hurt. I see their broken heart as mine lands on the floor is pieces…and I feel HIM pick up every shattered piece and restore it so that I can be HIS hands and feet NOW. May you all be held, cradled in HIS hands as you start this new, unfamiliar, undesired journey in 2013!

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  25. Carrie
    January 7, 2013

    Lord I pray: May you OVERWHELM this family with peace on their journey both there and back and during the days that follow. May you show up in unexpected ways to help Dimples and the family heal.

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  26. nancileamarie
    January 7, 2013

    I can only imagine how difficult this is. I have been praying for your family and I will continue to. For Dimples too, that the Lord would use this in a mighty and powerful way to bring the healing that we all desire for her.

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  27. Almond Tea
    January 7, 2013

    Lisa- First, let me say, I'm sorry that it has come to this. I'm so, so sorry. Second, can I tell you how courageous I think you are? Your honesty has helped so many families and the next step in your journey will help even more.

    I will continue to pray and uplift your family.

    Blessings.

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  28. Carly
    January 7, 2013

    Praying, Dear Friend… again, our paths may parallel…

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  29. 2plus2mom
    January 7, 2013

    I'll be thinking of you. What a heartbreaking decision, but hopefully it will lead to healing for all.

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  30. Chantelle
    January 7, 2013

    I know I write 'only this' perhaps too often… but (((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))))).

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  31. Katie Szotkiewicz Patel
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for you. I know God is holding you all in the palm of His hand, and that none of this has taken Him by surprise….He will finish the good work He started. Thank you for your honesty, and your willingness to share…I am sure that I am not alone when I say that watching you as you follow the Lord is a blessing and an encouragement to me…..

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  32. Becky
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for strength for all of you.

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  33. Sara
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for you. What a difficult decision yet I always admire you willingness to be honest, vulerable, and real. Your honesty is a gift in so many ways! Blessings on this difficult step but may you find many miracles hidden in this journey.

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  34. angie
    January 7, 2013

    Oh LIsa I just got your name off of a list of TBRI attendees and called and you answered. May God be with you and your family. I cannot wait to meet and chat and pray together.

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  35. mamitaj
    January 7, 2013

    (Deep sigh…) Praying with you for her heart (and yours) to be healed. I pray that this program would be exactly what Dimples needs to be able to function in a family and trust authority. I pray God's protection over her while she is not in your care. Praying for your other kids to breathe deep in the freedom that comes from not having the chaos in the home. Also, for their hearts and minds to understand this is for her best interests and for the good of the family as a whole – not as punishment. Praying for you and Russ. This is hard. 🙁 God is with you even in the hard stuff.

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  36. Donna
    January 7, 2013

    Praying so much for you all. Knowing this has been a long thought about and prayed about situation trusting with you that God will cause an amazing victorious outcome in His perfect timing

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  37. Sarah
    January 7, 2013

    Hugs, Lisa. Praying for you during this excruciatingly difficult time. May grace abound more and more.

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  38. Sheryl
    January 7, 2013

    God has a plan for you and for Dimples…He makes the plans weave in and out, up and down, touching in places and not in others…He knows the plan and the design and He loves you.

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  39. Mary
    January 7, 2013

    Amen. Praying, Lisa for all of you. I will pray that you have little reminders that are tangible that HE SEES you and Dimples and your family. You know those ways that only God can communicate, that is is from him. I am praying for that. And I'm so, so, sorry it is a hard, hard road.

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  40. maggie gieseke
    January 7, 2013

    Thank you for sharing your news with such direct and loving honesty…you are a courageous mom. You know your child better than anyone and you understand what is best for Dimples and your family. Hang in there and please know that you have a many people who understand and support you. Thinking of you.
    Maggie

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  41. Jen
    January 7, 2013

    Thank you for sharing your journey with Dimples with honesty. I am sorry to hear she is struggling. Prayers to your entire family and especially for Dimples.

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  42. Coffee mom
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for courage strength endurance and peace….and comfort thru the whole way. Sending hugs and wishing there was another way to help. But count on my prayers! All will be well, all will be well…..and my other favorite: be not afraid, for I am with you…..

    Xoxo. M

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  43. Tricia
    January 7, 2013

    Hugs and prayers for you and your precious family.

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  44. Jon
    January 7, 2013

    We had our young son in residential care for over 1 year. It was hard. It also gave the family much needed peace and rest. While it was not the total healing we had hoped for, it did help and gave us a chance to recoup and strengthen the relationship with our adopted daughter. Things are better now that they were before. That happened after we had spent 2 weeks of intensive attachment therapy and the follow up weekly sessions. Thank you for sharing with the world.

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  45. Barbara Johnson
    January 7, 2013

    Lisa, in hard situations, songs speak to me so strongly, alongside scripture. I would like to share this with you:

    Sometimes life seems like words and music that can't quite become a song
    So we cry and sigh then we try again, and wonder what could go wrong
    But when we turn to the Lord at the end of ourselves, like we've done a time or two before,
    We find His truth is the same as it's always been, we never will need more:

    It's not in trying, but in trusting, Not in running, but in resting,
    Not in wond'ring but in praying, That we find the strength of the Lord.

    He's all we need for our every need; We never need be alone;
    Still, He'll let us go if we choose to, To live life on our own.
    Then the only good that will ever be said of the pains we find ourselves in;
    They are places to gain the wisdom to say "I'll never leave Him again"!!

    It's not in trying, but in trusting; Not in running but in resting,
    Not in wond'ring but in praying That we find the STENGTH OF THE LORD

    May you find that strength and peace IN HIM that you need during this hard time. Remembering you in prayer……..

    I

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  46. rebekah
    January 7, 2013

    I have no words of wisdom but an infinite amount of support. Deep breaths. Not just in, but breathe all the way out.

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  47. KarenP
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for all of you as you walk this road. It is unfamiliar to you, but He sees the end and all the twists and turns along the way.
    Karen

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  48. MommaB
    January 7, 2013

    Praying the same thing for you that I prayed for myself this morning, " Lord please enlarge my capacity to host your presence." His presence is what comforts, heals, restores, and brings joy again. Praying that you sense his pleasure and presence over you especially right now. Much love to you friend.

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  49. angela
    January 7, 2013

    God be with you and dimples. I pray she finds healing soon.

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  50. Lili
    January 7, 2013

    God bless your family! I have been praying for you and will continue!

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  51. Emily
    January 7, 2013

    O LORD, have mercy. Straighten what is crooked and bind up the broken, we pray.

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  52. knitwgrace
    January 7, 2013

    I'm so sorry to hear that your heart is hurting. Praying for healing for all of you. You are a strong mama.

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  53. Luana
    January 7, 2013

    No condemnation, Lisa. No guilt either. Be strong and of good courage. The story is not over yet.
    (((Hugs)))
    Luana

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  54. Leese
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for all of you in this transition – for Dimples, for you and Russ, and for the rest of the kids.

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  55. Sara
    January 7, 2013

    A thousand prayers. You are a brave and honest mother. May He hold you tenderly.

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  56. Pam
    January 7, 2013

    I read this with such a sick feeling,…imagining the pain that it took to get to this point. It's so hard…and so comforting to know that none of what we go through with our kids from the hard places surprises God. He called us to this path, to this place, knowing all of it…so hard to keep trusting. For me anyways! Prayers that your family can catch your breath, relax, renew, and hope for the future during this time of intensity. Prayers that Dimples can find true and lasting healing and help and hope for herself…that someday soon she will be ready to come home…to stay. Hugs and prayers for you all….and to all of us riding this crazy journey of healing with you.

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  57. Alyssa
    January 7, 2013

    I recently talked with another mom who's family is going through the same thing… I can't imagine how hard. Praying for miracles of healing for all.

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  58. darci
    January 7, 2013

    I really don't have adequate words. I can only imagine your pain and my heart is aching for you. You inspire me and convict me and bless me so often thru your posts. I will be praying for a good trip, for His perfect peace over each of you, rest. Love darci

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  59. Deborah
    January 7, 2013

    I am praying for you now, and I will be praying even harder on Tuesday. I know from experience how this next part goes. When we left our little girl (where she is now really REALLY healing and doing so very well – by the way) at the end of March it was so hard. As we pulled out of the driveway I remembered something else I needed to tell her new caregiver…… as we drove out of town I wanted to drive away FASTER – I wanted to run from the emotions that were consuming me…… we drove quietly and calmly for several hours and then stopped to sleep for the night. We tried to enjoy a nice meal, just the two of us – but it was hard to shake the oppresive feelings that were swirling around us both.

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  60. Deborah
    January 7, 2013

    When we got back to the room we cried – hard and loud – and I questioned God and asked Him WHY he did this to our family. It was torturous. The next day we drove the many more hours home in calm and quiet. When we arrived home we set about to setting order back to where chaos had been living……. in a day breathing became easier….. in a week the change in the atmosphere of the house was STUNNING. We know NOW that we did the right thing….. healing was fast to the ones here who were being so damaged by her chaos. Healing was quick to us as well – and we were so broken by our helplessness to bring her healing. And healing is coming to her – day by day – in a way that makes us so very sure that this is EXACTLY what God had planned all along. You will survive and thrive – God's plan is perfect.

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  61. jan ranger
    January 7, 2013

    http://onefamilyatoz.blogspot.com/2013/01/trauma-

    i read this mom's post tonight (they too had to send a daughter for healing outside their home) and i thought it was spot-on. you are so not alone…..

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  62. Eileen
    January 7, 2013

    So sorry for the pain you're feeling. I've admired your strength and honesty during this journey. I know this was a path you've tried everything to avoid. But I can also hear in your words that there is still love and hope. With that, I'm sure there will still be progress. I'm so thankful that Dimples came to a family that would fight so diligently and prayerfully for her healing.

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  63. Sharon
    January 7, 2013

    Praying for all of you. I cannot imagine all that you are going through and processing and praying over.

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  64. Leese
    January 7, 2013

    I'm behind on Jesus Calling, this was yesterday's and was timely for me and thought you might be encouraged by it so I'm posting again (sorry!):

    Jesus Calling Daily Devotional – from January 6th

    I am able to do far beyond all that you ask or imagine. Come to Me with positive expectations, knowing that there is no limit to what I can accomplish. Ask My Spirit to control your mind, so that you can think great thoughts of Me. Do not be discouraged by the fact that many of your prayers are yet unanswered. Time is a trainer, teaching you to wait upon Me, to trust Me in the dark. The more extreme your circumstances, the more likely you are to see My Power and Glory at work in the situation. Instead of letting difficulties draw you into worrying, try to view them as setting the scene for My glorious intervention. Keep your eyes and your mind wide open to all that I am doing in your life.

    Ephesians 3:20-21 " Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen."

    Romans 8:6 "So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace."

    Isaiah 40:30-31 "Even youths will become weak and tired, and young men will fall in exhaustion. But those who trust in the Lordwill find new strength.They will soar high on wings like eagles.They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint."

    Revelation 5:13 "And then I heard every creature in heaven and on earth and under the earth and in the sea. They sang:

    “Blessing and honor and glory and power

    belong to the one sitting on the throne

    and to the Lamb forever and ever.”

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  65. Nancy
    January 7, 2013

    I'm not sure what to say. But sure that saying nothing isn't any help at all.
    I'll pray for your sweet girl and healing and peace in her heart. And yours too.
    nancy

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  66. Mary (Owlhaven)
    January 7, 2013

    Praying, Lisa.

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  67. janeh1037
    January 7, 2013

    I have known pain in my life, but not this pain and so I don't pretend to know what this is like. But I do know that we can pray for the Lord to come alongside you and to bring you great peace and that is what I will do. I pray healing for all involved and I pray discernment and wisdom for all those that make decisions with your precious daughter and that you and your husband would know exactly which decisions are from the Lord and which are not. God bless you and give you rest and peace. I love the name Dimples and she surely has earned it with her dimples…what a beautiful child.

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  68. kristine
    January 8, 2013

    I'm so sorry. I'm praying for Dimples and you and your family. This may end up being the beginning of something truly wonderful for Dimples. A place to heal outside of the day to day responsibilities of her home life. I pray that it is. I pray that a year from now you are looking back in wonder at the beauty of this coming year. Peace.

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  69. Leslie
    January 8, 2013

    Praying for all of you today and always. God is writing a story of redemption and healing, even in the hard uncertain parts, Praying you feel His presence and love for you and for Dimples in this transition. We love you guys.

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  70. ahhodgman
    January 8, 2013

    Depending on the new school's policy about communications, your family may find it healing and fun to think of new ways to write Dimples. Round-robin letters and stories; a family competition where Dimples can be the judge of, say, "The Most Embarrassing Thing That Happened to Me This Week;" interviews with the family pets; valentines two weeks early ("because we couldn't wait") . . .

    Just having lots of you sit around the table working on mail to her can be a healing experience, and one that may allow for those helpful stray comments that show how her siblings are processing the experience. It also helps translate feelings of failure and despair into "I'm doing something to reach out"–useful for all ages.

    Once I sent my family an email list of noteworthy sounds in the house that day. The point is to transmit good feelings of home without implying that you're desolate OR better off without her there.

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  71. Erin Fish
    January 8, 2013

    I'm so sorry. Thanks so much for your honesty, it's refreshing. I pray that God will show you Himself more than ever before. That his nearness would hold you up, and that healing would come from the great Healer Himself.

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  72. FosterCareQandA
    January 8, 2013

    Oh, I'm so sorry for all of you to be put in the place of making this difficult decision. But it sounds like you've faced the facts and made the decision you had to make. Best of luck to all of you!

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  73. shannoncl
    January 8, 2013

    I wish our ache could alleviate some for you. Praying. Rest in him.

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  74. Mary
    January 8, 2013

    Sara Groves has a great line in her song, it's gonna be alright: "when some time has past us and the story can be told. It will mirror the strength and courage of your soul . . . "
    While we wait for time to pass, we are praying, praying with you and crying too and praying for that sweet girl whose journey is long behind her and long ahead and in the loving presence of God.

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  75. Flora
    January 8, 2013

    Lisa,
    You have helped me a great deal over the last year and a half since bringing our daughter home. I am praying for your family and dimples.

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  76. Heidi
    January 8, 2013

    You are on my mind, in my heart, and in my prayers. Much love to you.

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  77. The Busters
    January 8, 2013

    I am so sorry. Prayers for peace and comfort for all of you.

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  78. Angela
    January 9, 2013

    Thanks again for your honesty, the hard, truthful, honest!!! I feel for you and your family so much and truthfully can not imagine, but after only a little over one year with our 7 year old from Ethiopia, I feel I can enter in by some small measure because of the issues we are dealing with as well (and what you have shared)….. Do take care and my thoughts are with you and your family at such a difficult time!

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  79. Melodie
    January 9, 2013

    So many prayers of strength, grace and HOPE are being lifted for you and your precious family. KNOW that you are not alone…that God makes everything beautiful in HIS TIME. Oh that we wish HIS time would be swift.

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  80. Nancy
    January 9, 2013

    It has been a couple days since I read this post. I wanted to come back. I'm still praying for you all. That you all find your peace and feel the Lord's hand upon you.
    nancy

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  81. Maple Walnut Mama
    January 9, 2013

    My warmest prayers & healing wishes to you and your loved ones.

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  82. Kohana
    January 10, 2013

    Massive hugs, even though we're strangers. I will be praying for you and your whole family.

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  83. Mary Thornton
    January 10, 2013

    Hi Lisa, I've just recently found you. And I have added prayers for you and your family to my daily prayers. I love your heart…the heart you show in your writing. We are a family with three college-age biological children and two younger children that we adopted from the foster care system who have been hurt and scared in their lives. They both come with some significant challenges. Our daily life is a dance….one step forward, two steps back, two steps forward, one step back. And no one we know is doing any better than us. In fact, the stories get scarier as the children get older. Please understand that we are not giving up. These are our children, and they deserve our best until our last breath. Like you, I have hope in God's grace and healing power, but it would help so much if I could find just one 'success' story. Do you know a family who has come through it all and the family is whole and happy and their traumatized children are really thriving, the way we want our children to thrive?

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  84. Debbie
    January 10, 2013

    I believe this is where my friend's daughter is unless there is more than one place in Montana. Her daughter was not adopted, but has had many issues, culminating in attempted suicide. The place did help her and then she moved on to a boarding school for adolescents with mental health issues where she still resides.

    I don't know what you went through with Dimples, but it seems she was crying out for help that was not possible to give in a normal family situation. Thank God there are places where these children can go to heal. Thank God there are parents willing to get them the help they need. Hang in there!

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