Thankful 10.13.17

On this gray, rainy, just-stopped-snowing morning, I’m thankful.

Give Thanks

1. Wogayu’s 11th birthday today
He adds so much joy to my life and heart. Birthdays can be complicated for adoptees. He thinks about his Ethiopian mom and misses her; I know she’s been on my mind a lot.

2. Russ home from a four-day work trip
He was at NASA in DC, which the kids thought was pretty great – I keep telling them, science is cool.

3. a decluttering project 3/4 done – one of my goals for the week
I’m convinced we will all breathe better with less stuff around us. This project is eliminating an entire piece of furniture that has been holding “stuff” in our family room. I realized I had three cabinets throughout the main floor all duplicating the same purpose. I emptied all three onto my dining room table (and chairs and kitchen island) and began sorting, tossing, making a stack to file, etc. It’s taking longer than I hoped, but I’m looking forward to the extra space in the family room.

4. snow this morning
I’m not really thankful, but I’m trying to be thankful. It was pretty and the kids were excited, so I’m thankful for that.

5. a new lamp
Who knew that better lighting would make this room so much nicer in the evenings?

6. a weighted blanket for Wogayu!
Can’t wait to show it to you and tell the story

7. pizza night
No cooking tonight. We’ll have Wogayu’s family birthday dinner Sunday when the big kids gather with us.

8. teachers, principals, football coaches

9. older sisters who call at 6:45 in the morning to say “happy birthday”

I’m stopping at nine so I don’t get locked into the idea that I always have to come up with ten. Right? We can be thankful for three things or thirteen things. This is about joy and freedom!

Points of Joy

If you are in the midst of hard, practice at least one (or two, or three) points of joy each day this weekend.

It can be small:
light a candle
step out on your porch and take three slow, deep breaths
read a book (unrelated to anything you are struggling with) for 10 minutes
call a friend
take a bath
bake cookies with your child
give yourself permission to take a nap or do nothing for 20 minutes
take a walk

Or it can be bigger:
go to coffee with a friend
plan a date with your husband
buy yourself fall flowers
go hiking
go to a movie
go away overnight (miracles can happen)

Have a good weekend, my friend. If you have a moment, share something you’re thankful for, or something you did (or are going to do) to add joy to your days.

Lastly, if you haven’t signed up for my friends-letter, it would mean a lot to me if you would. I send it every few weeks or so and it only takes a minute (or two) to read. I’ll explain more soon, but book publishers care about numbers, and newsletter subscribers are considered my most loyal readers, so they really care about that number. Please take a moment to subscribe.

With courage and hope for the journey,


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Monique
    October 13, 2017

    Love this post!! I’m thankful Adam offered to pick up pizza for dinner! Yay for not cooking!! Sorry it’s been so long since your email! It’s on my list!! Will you be at called to love this year?

  2. Bethany
    October 13, 2017

    Luciano and I are marking this gray Oregon day with lots of music (playing/listening) and building train tracks. Nothing fills up his 4 year old heart like intentional play with his Mama! I am so thankful he belongs to me.

  3. Tiffany
    October 13, 2017

    Can you share where you got your weighted blanket and if you end up pleased with it?? I’m looking.

    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 14, 2017

      Yes! It should arrive any day. My friend, Gina Pemberton, makes them. She has amazing taste in fabrics or will work with you to choose custom fabrics. Wogayu’s is a cotton Seahawks fabric on one side and navy blue minky on the other and is made for his height and weight. You can contact her through her Facebook page.

  4. amy
    October 15, 2017

    I’m thankful for a weekend away and the beautiful weather we had.


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