Thank You, Friends

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When I published my post Monday, I felt some anxiety – I didn’t want to disappoint anyone. You poured your kindness on me through your comments and my heart was encouraged. I honestly have the best readers – thank you.

One of the keys to successfully parenting children from “hard places” seems to be flexibility. If we cling to what we’ve known and refuse to consider new ways of doing things, we’ll miss out on insight, healing, and joy.

This journey into the schools in our community is going to be good for us. So far, it’s not been super easy, but I think we’ll settle in. Today we have seven dental appointments. When I scheduled them six months ago, I knew that two of my kids would miss a class or two, but I needed to get the younger crew done as efficiently as possible. As I looked at the calendar last week, I considered trying to reschedule so all six would not miss school, but realized it was just too much.

Yesterday I made a chart with the phone numbers of our five schools, which is now in the front of my school notebook (more on that later). Then I figured out who I would need to pick up first, second, and so on. I checked the schedules at each school and looked at what class/lunch/recess they would miss. Finally I called each school and arranged for the kids to be gone for part of the afternoon.

I won’t tell you how long this took me – it was ridiculous.

The bus will be here in less than an hour; have I mentioned that the bus driver is my favorite person ever? He makes my life so much easier. When he was a child he even lived in the house we own – small town history.

How is the school year going at your house?

Have a fantastic day, friends.

Lisa

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Luann Yarrow Doman
    September 17, 2014

    I didn't get a chance to comment yesterday, but I love your flexibility and willingness to do the uncomfortable. Recently I mentioned to a lady at my church that I wasn't sure if we would homeschool our three Ethio kids when they come home in January–or if we would send them to public. (We live in one of the best school districts in Illinois, and many of our teachers are grads of Wheaton College.) She scolded me for even considering sending my children into "enemy territory." She assured me that i would be an excellent homeschool teacher, which is funny since it's one of the first conversations we've ever had and she has no idea how much I dread the thought of homeschooling. I didn't bother to debate with her, just said we'd pray about it. When the time comes, I think we'll have more clarity on what to do–and of course we will do what is best for our family…just like you are doing. You are such a good mama, and I admire you and look to you (through this blog) for guidance. (No pressure!) I continue to pray for Dimples every day at 10:20 in the morning, and I will pray for extra patience and smooth transitions as you chauffeur everyone to the dentist today. xo

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 17, 2014

      Luann, I'm so humbled by your constant prayers for us. We survived the dentist and I managed to get everybody there on time; I'm quite pleased with that. As for people thinking they know what you should do, the truth is that none of us know what our children are going to need until we live with them, get to know them, and figure out their needs. We also don't know what we (and the entire family) will need in order to love and serve one another best. I'm thankful to live in a country that offers us so many educational options for our children. It's a very limited view to believe that all kids must be educated in the exact same manner. I love homeschooling, but I can say with complete confidence that it is not the best option for some of my children.

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  2. Laura
    September 17, 2014

    Lisa I am proud of you for making this difficult decision to send all the kids to school. You need to take care of your self and your health or there is no way you can take care of your family. The routine of school gets easier as everyone settles in. I loved keeping a binder of all the school info and important papers–glad you are too. Love you bunches!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 17, 2014

      The binder is a stroke of brilliance – thank you for telling me what to do, just like an older sister should (not to mention school teacher).

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  3. Courtney
    September 17, 2014

    oh friend. i'm a bit behind (homeschooling 2 and public school for 4 myself! i have SO few minutes in my day for this!) but i'm so glad you've done what feels RIGHT for you THIS MONTH (i won't even say year…because i know well enough that that can change!) i'm sure the adjustment to schools schedules/homework assignments/etc will be a LOT. but i pray YOU are blessed and have the space you need.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 17, 2014

      Thank you, Courtney! You know what it means to be flexible 🙂 I've been keeping up with you a little bit – wish I could have been there for ETC!

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  4. Emily
    September 17, 2014

    Um, hello, I thought I was your favorite person ever.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 17, 2014

      Ooops – you're completely right. Do you happen to drive a big, yellow bus that will stop at my driveway?

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  5. holdingtomorrow
    September 17, 2014

    I didn't comment on your last post, but I know how hard it is to put aside good things that you love to make room for what needs to be. Kudos to you!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 17, 2014

      Thank you – I really love these words, "…put aside good things that you love to make room for what needs to be."

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  6. Mary Andrews (Mom)
    September 17, 2014

    Bravo, Lisa, for discerning prayer with Russ. Bravo for choosing well for your children and family. As Tevye (sp) says in Fiddler On the Roof – TO LIFE!!!!!

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