Sunday Visit: Adopting Older Children

If you have ever been in doubt about the value of adopting older children, watch this:

What do you think?  Did Meredith’s reaction surprise you?  Did you get choked up like I did?

I want to add a few thoughts.  From the little bit I understand of this story (and it is very little), the mom had known Meredith for a number of years, and she had lived with them for six months prior to their decision to adopt her.  They knew she was safe with their children, and they knew she would be receptive to being adopted.

These are very important keys to their story – which is beautiful.

After church we have big plans to spend the  afternoon decorating gingerbread houses and playing games. I am not a natural game player, but this is something I am trying to cultivate out of love for my kids.  I told Russ that I need to commit to playing one game each day during Christmas break, even if it is only a quick round of Dutch Blitz.

How are you spending your Sunday?

#561 – 570 giving thanks

a long walk with Russ on Saturday

Starbucks in the middle

sunshine all day long

Ladybug and Sunshine’s beautiful piano recital

a new Advent tradition from Aunt Laura

my nephew, Drew, graduating from JMU today

Dimples gentle and sweet all evening

enthusiastic cleaning up before dinner last night

reading A Little House Christmas before tucking kids in last night

Samuel spending his Saturday night with kids from the youth group he leads

Have a happy day.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. blesseday
    December 18, 2011

    choked up? how about almost choked on my oatmeal as i tried to keep eating while bawling since i still have to get the kiddos up and ready for church but don't want to stop watching?

    thanks for sharing.

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  2. Marissa
    December 18, 2011

    I'll admit it, I bawled when I watched that. BUT….it made me think of all the parents I know that have adopted older children that will never get that reaction for their children. It hurt my heart a bit.

    P.S. I need to chat with Rusty about a new project I'm working on. I could use his guidance. 🙂

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 18, 2011

      Marissa, I thought about our recent conversation when I posted this. I agree, that many of us will never see anything like this, and that is probably a conversation worth having. Give Rusty a call today.

      Edit:
      Scratch that. Rusty says to send him a FB message 🙂

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  3. Kim
    December 18, 2011

    yep. more than choked up. trying full on sobbing. thanks. we're adopting older kids. we know it will be rough as heck. but we have hope. stories like this reaffirm our decision. thanks for sharing.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 18, 2011

      Kim, adopting older children with your eyes wide open and your hearts ready is the way to go. Thanks for the comment.

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  4. bahava
    December 18, 2011

    oh my! such a beautiful video. thank you for sharing.

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  5. dawn
    December 18, 2011

    I did not get "choked up"…I burst into tears that wouldn't stop!

    What an amazing story of love and redemption!!

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  6. cari
    December 18, 2011

    i was fighting back tears watching this as my older adopted child past by, so i had her and her cousin watch it with me. my daughter held my hand as she saw the tears coming down my cheeks. it is a reaction that us parents of older adopted children would love to see, but may never get. it is a tough, long road for sure. we have to choose love especially on the days that they are choosing to believe the lies that they are not valuable or important.

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  7. Emily
    December 18, 2011

    Crying!!!

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  8. Rachel
    December 19, 2011

    As you watch, can't you just see her steeling herself for reject, waiting for them to say "You're wonderful, BUT…" She was waiting to be strong. Then they told her the good news! What beautiful relief! And her dad had such a wonderful speech! I am glad they recorded it. Even if she doesn't want to watch herself on tape, they should play the speech over and over and over!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 19, 2011

      Rachel, that is a great point. She looks nervous, like she knows something is coming, but she can't be sure it will be good. The relief and surprise that washes over her is beautiful. Thanks for the comment.

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  9. Bleuberry
    December 23, 2011

    Wow… I'm at my office right now (bad idea, watching this video on my lunch break!) and that was such a lovely thing to see. I agree with what Rachel said; you could see her steeling herself for rejection… although many don't have that sort of reaction, it's still an encouragement to see it when it does happen. Thanks for sharing!

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