Sunday Gratitude 2.14.16


If people want their souls to grow through loss, whatever the loss is, they must eventually decide to love even more deeply than they did before.    Jerry Sittser 

I read this yesterday (A Grace Disguised) and it’s been rolling over and over in my mind. Once you’ve lost someone you love, or been terribly hurt by someone you love (which is also a loss), it takes courage to love again.

Thankfully, we have a love that will never fail and never end in Jesus. This is a verse sustaining me right now,

For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor thing to come, nor power, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39

giving thanks #1761 – 1770

dinner out with friends last friday; it’s very hard to make myself go out into big, social situations right now, and I’m relieved that we had a good time

Downton Abbey, two episodes to end our date night

Janna (pronounced Yawn – nuh), our puppy, getting better at walking on a leash. on the downside, she chewed a hole in a chair I bought in january, one of the first new pieces of furniture in years; I’m trying to be thankful that it wasn’t bigger

Claire at a 4-H government conference in Boise this weekend

quiet days for writing and having space to think and grieve

basketball games for Ebenezer and Wogauyu, and coaches who volunteer their time

our escaped steer safely back in the pasture 

russ braving the cold in the middle of the night to coax him back in with a bucket of grain

pink tulips from my sweetheart – Russ knows me well

Jesus – truly, I am fall-to-my-knees thankful for his love and presence in my life

Happy Valentine’s Day, friends. You are loved with an everlasting love! (Jer. 31:3)




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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. cathylank
    February 14, 2016

    I love that verse too — at our Ash Wednesday supper last week our pastor asked each of us to share a favorite verse and tho I found it hard to choose as there are so many I love, that was mine.

  2. Pam H
    February 14, 2016

    I feel as though you have just given me flowers. This morning, before I opened my eyes, I was thinking of what my favorite flower actually is. All my life I have loved violets, but I loved them because they were my mother's favorite flower and I have also loved the dainty Lilly of the Valley, but they were my sister's favorite flower. As I lay thinking about this this morning, I asked myself, but what is MY favorite flower?? Tulips. I love tulips. I check on your post which I admit to not doing in about a week, and there to greet me are tulips. My husband, gone now 22 years and always we were too poor for special things like gifts or flowers, would absolutely love that you "gave" me tulips today. I am so grateful to be able to agree with you on your last line about Jesus. I could not be here without Him! Blessings to you dear Lisa.

    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 14, 2016

      Pam, you are so sweet. If I could, I would bring an armload of tulips to your door with a big hug. Happy Valentine's Day.

  3. Heidi
    February 14, 2016

    That is a powerful quote. I am seeing it in a little way being pregnant after a miscarriage. It is a lot more scary to get pregnant after a loss.

    I am thankful for –
    My parents who live close and are a dear part of our lives
    My three year old who came down “ready for church” with his sweater on upside down and backward
    My four year old who wants to snuggle
    My six year old who is quietly observing and helps without being asked
    My eight year old who is so sure he knows most everything and is still a little boy
    My baby whose heartbeat I heard this week
    My husband who loves me even when I’m grumpy
    New curtains for my bedroom

  4. Heidi
    February 14, 2016

    Wow, I don't know how I posted that without my right name! Maybe you can fix it?

    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 14, 2016

      Got it!

  5. Nathan
    February 16, 2016

    “…or been terribly hurt by someone you love (which is also a loss)…”

    It is refreshing to hear someone acknowledge this.

    It is also doubly hard when you find yourself in the position both as a hurter as well as a hurtee. God forgive me.


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