Stop. Take Three Deep Breaths.

I got home Monday and needed all day yesterday to get my life back in order.  At one point I sent Russ a panicked text and he sent this back, “I’m sorry you are anxious.  Stop.  Take three deep breaths. Continue.”  Ah, he knows me so well.

My most important project today, in addition to homeschooling, etc., is getting Isaiah’s graduation announcements and party invitations in the mail.  The party is on May 6th, so we are late getting this done, but it is honestly the best I can do.  Fortunately, it is a beautiful day and the little boys are playing happily outside as I work.

I took the photo above just as spring was arriving in north Idaho.  The snow had just melted off the ground when Eby came to me with a cup full of buds he had carefully picked off the lilac bushes.  I have to admit, it was all I could do not to be very upset. After a long, cold winter, those buds were the promise of flowers!  Of course, he didn’t understand that.  I took a picture because I figure there is some profound life lesson in it – I just haven’t had time to figure it out.

We continue to be amazed at how well Dimples is doing.  Yesterday she came home from school, had a snack, then helped me make dinner.  Actually, I helped her!  She got out the cookbook, found the recipe for Taco Soup and proceeded to make the soup with only a little help from me.  She is more peaceful and gentle these days and I can only give thanks to God who is the great Healer.

Back to addressing envelopes!

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Michele
    April 25, 2012

    So thankful, along with you, for how well Dimples is doing. We see it when she is with us at our house too. She gives me so much reason for hope.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 25, 2012

      It takes your breath away, doesn't it? I'm amazed. Thanks for being such a huge part of her life – we love you.

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  2. Jennie
    April 25, 2012

    Oh…the lilac buds…yes, must be some lesson. I'll be thinking on that. ~smile~

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  3. Emily
    April 25, 2012

    Love that you took a picture of this. 🙂

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  4. The Johnson's
    April 25, 2012

    I so wanted to come up with words of comfort for you – I miss lilacs so much since I moved from the north to the south! Here is what I found:
    Isaiah 40:8 ESV
    The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.

    The flower would have been pretty – but it would have faded.

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  5. laurenjess
    April 25, 2012

    I think Eby's lilac buds are great reminders of all the blessings the Lord pours out on us, around us, behind us, above us, under us . . . etc . . . that we only barely understand, and "pick" out of curiosity! Something new, something interesting, something fragrant!

    Of course, I can't think of a great example right now:)

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  6. cindy
    April 25, 2012

    I love to read your blogs……makes me stop and smell the roses. You are an amazing mom!

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  7. Heidi
    April 25, 2012

    Last fall, my son brought me an impatien he had picked fromy flower pot. While not thrilled, I put it in a tiny glass vase on my windowsill. The first frost came in the next couple of days and killed the rest of my impatiens. But the one in my kitchen window rooted and lived all winter, blooming several times. I'm sure there is a lesson in that for me too, but I haven't pulled it all the way out yet.

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  8. Emily
    April 25, 2012

    Must have particularly stung after all the lilacs we encountered in Denver! Good news is you will still have many blossoms. Miss you!

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  9. Marlene
    April 25, 2012

    I love that you took that photo too. To me it's a symbol of doing the right thing for our children by embracing the wonder in their minds and hearts and keeping the small stuff just what it is…small stuff!

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  10. Emily
    April 25, 2012

    I suppose sometimes children seem to take the bloom out of a mother's life, but the Lord transforms what can feel like a loss of ___ (beauty, energy, time) into critical energy spent elsewhere–growing roots deep and branches strong as we grow in humility and learn to walk in His path for us. I think that your life is a picture of that! Just think of how gorgeous that lilac will be next year!

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  11. Kasey
    April 26, 2012

    Thank you for your reminder to me to stay calm, be gentle and remain hopeful. Love your blog and the encouragement.

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  12. Courtney
    April 26, 2012

    praising Him with you that Dimples is doing well!!! good for you for recognizing the GOOD moments!

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  13. Joelle
    April 26, 2012

    I love it when a mom can enjoy those moments of wonder and delight with their children rather than scolding. I'm sure he thought he was bringing a great gift. Well done!

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  14. Pamela
    May 3, 2012

    I love reading your blog Lisa, i am an african lady who wishes to adopt from Ethopia as well some day, your blog gives me home for the future and your faith encourages me. Thank you for your Honesty, genuineness and your transparency, i appreciate how you don't make it all look so glossy but bring it all out. YOU ARE REAL, WOMAN OF GOD.

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  15. Faith
    May 12, 2012

    Two and a half weeks later and I'm still thinking about this.

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