Staying Connected While Staying Apart

My friends, it’s been far too long since I’ve written to you. If I had a blog post for every time I’ve thought about writing, you would already be tired of reading.

How are you? How are you holding up?

Do you feel the uncertainty of these days? It seems we swing back and forth from, “Let’s stay home and make cookies!” to “This is serious and people are dying.”

Many times I’m not sure what to feel.

I want to have a lighthearted response, but the truth is I don’t feel lighthearted. I know that we are not insulated from suffering. I’ve lived that truth.

Isaiah and Claire were both traveling for spring break, which seemed like a reasonable choice when they left and not so wise a week later when they returned. I have big kids “sheltering in place” in California. Two of my kids are doctors whose work is changing day by day. Another son is working from home.

Annarose is serving in Tecate, Mexico. For now, she is choosing to stay even though the border is closing. This is not an easy conversation but we are (somewhat) at peace with her decision.

How do we keep our minds focused on the good gifts God has given us?

Read the Bible.

I absolutely love the Read Scripture app. The videos help me understand what I’m reading and the app itself makes keeping up easy.

Pray many times each day – it can be simple.

I have a post-it above my coffee maker reminding me to pray for a missionary family who is traveling home, and for Annarose, and my Hope Circle sisters. Of course, my family is always on my mind and in my prayers.

Take a walk each day.

I struggle to pull myself away from work, but I’ve learned that walking is SO good for me. Did you know that activities that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and give sensory input are regulating? Walking, riding a bike, jumping on a trampoline, rocking in a rocking chair are some examples.

Cook good food.

Keep it simple and kid-friendly. Nourish your family at the dinner table. Teach your kids how to cook. Maybe you’ll even establish some new traditions.

Stay in touch with your people.

We had a Zoom family call last Saturday and it was good to see their faces.

Get enough sleep.

While binge-watching Netflix can be a good diversion and scrolling through the news isn’t all bad, there is a time to turn off your screens and settle in for the night. Choose that time and set an alarm on your phone to remind you – if necessary, set a second alarm for five minutes later. Label it, “I really mean it!”

Even in quarantine, don’t isolate yourself.

Stay connected with your community. I’m gathering daily with the adoptive and foster moms in my Hope Circle. We need each other more than ever. I invite you to join us if you need some extra support in the coming weeks.

I also faithfully send a short weekly email, 3 Thankful Thoughts, and would love to stay connected with you by bringing it to your inbox. It’s quick to read and you can unsubscribe at any time. Sign up right below this post.

I could write more but the longer I make this the less likely it is I’ll post it because it will never feel done.

We can do this, friends. By the grace of God, we can move through our days with peace in our hearts, love for our families, and generosity toward our communities.

With courage and hope.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Liz
    March 31, 2020

    Thank you for always posting such encouragement and truth. It’s a blessing to me!!

    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 1, 2020

      You’re so welcome, Liz. Thanks for commenting.


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