Reunited

I’m ready to move in a different direction today. How about you? Thank you for all of the wonderful comments the last few days; you are an amazing bunch of parents.

I have a friend who was an adoptive mom long before I was. I met her when I was only one part of the adoption triad, a birthmother. I was sure she and I would never see eye to eye about adoption, but God has an amazing way of blowing up our preconceptions. He made me, the most unlikely candidate, an adoptive mother – and then I wished I had learned more from my friend before she moved across the country.

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Lisa’s daughter (we share the same name) reunited with her birthmother two years ago, and today Lisa shared an essay chronicling the story. The New York Times article, A Husband Lost, a Daughter Found, quickly spans Tre Miller Rodriguez’s journey from wife, to young widow, and then to reunited mother.

If you would like to read more, take a look at Tre’s newly published book, Splitting the Difference: A Heart-Shaped Memoir. My disclaimer is that I haven’t read the book, but I’m always interested in the complex relationships that come when an adoptee reunites with birthfamily. My own experience is that it is wonderfully complicated, and I’m pretty certain my son would agree.

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Happy Friday, friends.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Deborah
    October 11, 2013

    This opens up another line of conversation….. we adopted sib group of 3 from foster care….. same bio mom – 3 different dads. Mom – drugs/trouble with the law/trouble making good decisions – tried to intiate some type of protected contact anyway and she COMPLETELY BLEW IT with her crazy behavior, Dad #1 – in and out of prison (not a postitive influence – no contact), Dad #2 currently encarcerated long term (not a positive influence – no contact), Dad #3 is a hard working, loving, dedicated man – who also happens to be an undocumented alient with limited ability to speak and understand english. There is no reason (besides that fact that he did not understand the language) that he is not raising his daughter. We CAUTIOUSLY entered a relationship with him and it has turned into something beautiful. Our daughter gets to grow up knowing her Papi (what we call him – my husband is "Daddy") loves her and always wanted her and was always there for her. She has met and spent time with Aunts, Uncles, cousins. She gets to experience her Hispanic culture with them. She is surrounded by people who love her. It was the last thing we expected when we adopted – but I wouldn't have it any other way.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 11, 2013

      That is beautiful, Deborah. Thank you for sharing your story.

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    2. Jowllw
      October 11, 2013

      what a touching story. Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm not an adoptive mom but I read Lisa's blog faithfully and do my share of crying and learning as I sometimes deal with similar issues with my bio kids. I love a story that makes me smile.

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  2. Becky
    October 11, 2013

    totally crying. What a beautiful happy story! Thank you for posting it! 🙂 Becky

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