Soon, Very Soon

The day that Dimples got her welcome bag and learned she had a family

I woke up this morning with a nervous and excited feeling. I couldn’t quite place it, but as I mulled it over I thought, “Soon B. is going to know that she has a family; maybe it even happened while I was sleeping.” Her entire world and the life she has known is about to change – it is huge, really huge. God has a plan that He only revealed to us in January, and now it will be revealed to Miss B. I feel so maternal, as if I need to be there to share her happiness and to comfort her in moments of fear.

Can you imagine what it would feel like? She has been chosen, and who wouldn’t love that? We all want to be chosen, to be loved and cherished. But she has only known life in an orphanage. She has been loved by staff, but they go home at the end of their work day. She has known volunteers, teachers, nannies, and friends. Many of those friends have become her brothers and sisters, and she will miss them. Will the joy outweigh the sorrow? In time I believe it will, but I think the goodbyes will be hard. Maybe I’m dwelling on the negative a little too much, but when I put myself in her place, or when I put Ladybug (who is the same age) in her place, I can’t deny the emotional complexity of it.

So what can a mother who is 8,308 miles away do to help her daughter? Pray. I have to believe that for now, it is enough.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Adrielle
    April 29, 2008

    I have mulled over those same thoughts- her leaving and how hard it could be, and will be praying with you.
    Her joy at being loved and chosen can’t help but overwhelm the sadness of good byes though! She has waited her whole life and likely has given up hope before now! It reminds me of the verse: Hope deferred maketh the heart sick but longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul!

  2. Lisa W.
    April 29, 2008

    I have thought the same thing. When I know our referral’s details you just want to be there to assure them that everything is going to be okay. We wish we could be there to relay to her how much her life is going to change incredibly…

  3. Melinda
    April 30, 2008

    How exciting Lisa. I can’t wait to see the pictures of your B with her welcome bag. We are sending out our welcome bag to A tomorrow and hopefully she will have it in a few weeks.

  4. jen
    April 30, 2008

    Wow! Yay for your baggie, and Congrats on you 171H! WoHoo!

  5. CarolineR
    May 1, 2008

    I love to read your blogg! We are a family with two children adopted from South Africa. We will follow your trip to Ethiopia!

  6. dorothy
    May 8, 2008

    What’s the other thing you can do for this newly identified daughter? Let all of the other moms you know in on the beautiful secret and then everyone can pray! Especially those of us lurking here in MN praying over their own blessing #10 – one who has yet to be identified.


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