Resting in the Certainty of Love

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Do you remember the post I wrote a few days ago about worry, and how I was choosing to trust, even if the plan we had made for one of our children seemed to be falling apart? Well, it did fall apart, and I’m still trusting, but not doing a very good job of it. It’s so much easier to write about it than to do it.

I woke up this morning and within moments, it all came back to me. I lay there with not-so-lovely thoughts swirling through my mind – thoughts that are really rooted in fear. I’ve learned that much. It’s not that I knew with 100% certainty that the plan we were making was the perfect one, although it seemed amazing to us, it’s that now we are back at the beginning with no idea of what to do next.

My strategy for the day is to rest in the certainty that my child is loved – by us, by our amazing God, and that he has a good plan for this child.

Thankfully, Hannah is here for a visit and our days are filled with conversation and good friends stopping by to visit over coffee. Yesterday she helped me homeschool the little boys and today we are taking Bee out on a coffee date.

One more quick thing, if you are thinking about attending The Refresh Conference in Seattle, please come. It’s going to be amazing and wonderful. I’m speaking in a general session and offering two workshops, one with a fantastic therapist, Megan Clarke (who also happens to by my cousin), and one with Mary Ostyn, of Owlhaven fame. I can’t emphasize enough how life-giving Refresh is. I hope I’ll see you there.

I’m running out to an appointment – I’ll try to add a fun photo to this post later.

Have a wonderful Wednesday, friends.

Lisa

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Julie
    January 22, 2014

    I'm thrilled that two of my favorite bloggers, the two that led me to my son, will be together! Blessings on a wonderfully refreshing time!!

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  2. Margaret
    January 22, 2014

    My sympathy Lisa…uncertainty is terrible, and having children with complicated challenges means that it is so very hard to figure out what would work. If only there were a clear prescription. I hope for some peace for you, and some slowly emerging clarity about what is next…

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  3. Emily
    January 22, 2014

    Fabulous picture. Love you all.

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  4. Rachel
    January 22, 2014

    I get to go!!!! And not knowing what to do is hard. Glad I'm not in your shoes at this moment. ha I have hard things I'm going through too that are different and I'm glad neither of us are alone in our imperfections, struggles and dependence on God. Because whether we trust Him perfectly or not, we are depending on Him anyway! And I am pretty confident God is able. I hope your period of hardship is short, sister.

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  5. Anna Sonnerup
    January 22, 2014

    Dear Lisa, I stumbled upon your blog, and am simultaneously delighted to have the chance to read it and feeling devastated by what I am worried you might be saying. My thoughts are with you and your family.
    Anna (Mia's mom)

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 22, 2014

      Anna, please don't worry – I'm sorry to have alarmed you. All is well with Dimples. This was something we were wanting to happen for another one of our children. It's not devastating, just an opportunity we were so hopeful about. So nice to hear from you.

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      1. Anna Sonnerup
        January 22, 2014

        No need to apologize, Lisa! Thank you for setting my heart at ease. I adore Dimples. 🙂

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  6. Anna Timmer
    January 25, 2014

    Hi Lisa —
    I will be at Refresh this year and am looking forward to hearing you speak (for the third time!). I have been reading your blogs for two year, even since the first Refresh conference. I feel like I know you even though we have never met. 🙂 Thank you for sharing your heart and life on this blog. I have learned so much from you!!!
    Hugs,
    Anna Timmer

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 26, 2014

      Anna, be sure to introduce yourself. Thank you so much for reading and for your encouraging words.

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  7. adventisthomemaker
    January 26, 2014

    Hi Lisa,
    I'm a new reader but have been reading through your archives and learning from you. Thank you for sharing so much of your experiences and how God has been working in your lives. My husband and I are in the process of adopting an older child and have been reading blogs to learn from other parents. THANK YOU!
    I do hope that God has been giving you peace over the past week and reassuring you that He has a plan! God is good! 🙂
    Cassandra

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