ReMoved: A Glimpse into the Life of a Foster Child

If you haven’t seen this short video, it is worth your time. This powerful film offers a glimpse into the life of a foster child. I particularly appreciate the scene where the child receives the gift of a new dress – you’ll see what I mean.

Take a moment to ponder this.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. brianandracheldavis
    March 26, 2014

    Here's the embed code for the same video in Vimeo… without the yucky suggested videos at the end: <iframe src="//player.vimeo.com/video/73172036" width="500" height="211" webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen></iframe>

    By the way, I went looking for that, because this video is so powerful. Thank you for sharing.

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  2. Ann
    March 26, 2014

    I dunno. This seems too "written"–and written in overly grand language–to be convincing. I can't tell who it's aimed at or exactly what it's meant to accomplish. I think a nonfiction version, where a child is actually speaking in her own words, would be more persuasive.

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    1. Emily
      March 26, 2014

      I'm not sure a child in that situation would have the words. When you feel like your are voiceless and valueless, it's difficult to articulate those feelings, especially as a child… I know adults who have come from abusive backgrounds that STILL have difficulty feeling like their words have value, much less their words about their feelings.

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    2. Kyle
      March 27, 2014

      Its just good that you are focusing on the right thing! This is totally about how well written the script is and not at all about kids in the foster system and the inner turmoil they go through!

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  3. blesseday
    March 26, 2014

    Totally had me crying by the end.

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  4. Momma T
    March 26, 2014

    I haven't cried like that in such a long time. This is an incredible depiction of what life for and with an older child is like. Our oldest daughter was 11when she came to live with us. She had a one year old sister at the time. Our foster care agency decided to move her sister in with us first and to let her finish the school year in her other foster home. Her behavior became so bad she almost landed in a group home. She was labeled "un adoptable". Apparently God doesn't read labels. We insisted we wanted to keep the girls together and the day she arrived she asked if we were going to adopt her. She needed to hear our commitment. Out loud. To her. On day one! God is so faithful! Adopting a child through foster care takes forever and by the time our day came she was 13. She testified in court herself and everyone else was so afraid she'd change her mind. God knew what she needed, and we needed. Forever. And she got her forever and so did we. Don't get me wrong, life is a roller coaster, but we ride it together. We happen to be experiencing one of those bumps now, and this video helped to bring things back into perspective. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂

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  5. DFNY
    March 26, 2014

    I found it powerful and moving, whether fictionalized or not. This does happen, even if it didn't happen to this particular child. Of course, I would hope that if a child showed up at school with a black eye and cut lip, a teacher or administrator would report it. Obviously, it's unlikely that a class picture would be taken. But so what? The message is an important one. Thank you for sharing it.

    Damaris

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  6. Alyssa
    March 26, 2014

    Yes, I felt all the pain of that scene. Trying to show love to my child and being pushed away. Hurting for both him and me. And how it portrays the longing for what's familiar, even when it's not safe. And being torn from siblings- one of our son's biggest sadnesses.

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  7. Dolisa
    March 26, 2014

    No fiction! This is our life!

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  8. Anna
    March 27, 2014

    wow.

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  9. Ann
    March 28, 2014

    Working with kids in foster care I felt this film does true justice to what life is like for many kids in the system (sadly so). It made me deeply sad but it also has a powerful way of conveying why and how some behaviors manifest themselves. It also helps give greater understanding to those caring for kids who have faced so much hurt. So often siblings are split up, in part because of our lack of enough foster homes–we need foster parents who are like the one at the end of the video–who can see past the behaviors and dedicate themselves to the healing. Powerful.

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  10. Jenny Covey Story
    March 28, 2014

    I am moved. Deeply moved. It matters not that it was fictional. Thanks for posting.

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  11. Fiona
    March 29, 2014

    I found the dress part the most significant too. I think it is a great reminder to those of us who adopt children from hard places, that we don't always understand the reasons for reactions and pain. We see the reaction and misconstrue it for disrespect or ungratefulness. The picture of the memories it triggered in her was very powerful, and the reaction becomes very understandable. I thought too that she came back with the dress on to try and rescue the situation, even though it had brought such bad feelings revealed how desperate to repair she was. It all reminded me a lot of one of my daughters.

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  12. Angie
    March 29, 2014

    Well worth the watch. I just finished co-training the 27 hour training for people becoming foster parents. I wish I had known about this clip to show them.

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  13. @Heschle
    April 1, 2014

    Thx for sharing!

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  14. Learning Empathy
    April 8, 2014

    In the midst of the ups and downs I should probably watch this weekly as a reminder of the hard place that my daughter came from. Thanks for posting.

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