Reality Check

Not more laundry!

Some days are hard, really hard. The children fuss and cry, the laundry piles up around me, school is done half-heartedly, dinner is late, and I find myself wondering why on earth I ever thought I could parent three more children? Then I read a verse like this:

“You are the defender of orphans … Lord, you know the hopes of the helpless.”
Psalm 10:14, 17

or I read something about the five million orphans in Ethiopia alone and I want to slap myself. Of course I don’t have the strength to parent ten children, but the Lord of heaven and earth does and He equips me to do what He has called me to do. The alternative is to leave these millions of children orphans and clearly that is not God’s desire.

I am not a perfect wife and mother, not even close. But if we all wait until we are perfect and ready to do the things God calls us to do, we will do nothing. I am reminded of a Psalm we sing in church, “Today if you will hear His voice, harden not your hearts”.

Today I need to be reminded that God has given my children to me and they are His good gifts. I am blessed to be called their mother, very blessed.

Now it’s time to take a deep breath and tackle lunch and naps.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Raskell Party of 8
    January 11, 2008

    that had to be the “quick sand” day! Thank you for the reminder as today is my struggle day.


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