Question: Funding Your Adoption

Little Man hiding under my desk “talking” on my cell phone.

Okay friends, it is time for a new question. It has been a little while since I’ve posted one, and I know I am ready to hear some voices other than mine.

Lori emailed this question to me:

My husband and I are contemplating another adoption. We didn’t get much help at all the last time and we really need to raise money if we do this again. We didn’t have any luck with grants with our first adoption, but I do know there are a lot of those out there. What other fund raising ideas have people tried that worked? Are there pitfalls to avoid? Tax issues?

Adoption is financially challenging for most of us. For those of us who adopt multiple times, the numbers can be downright staggering. Please share your answers to this great question by emailing me at or leaving a comment. I’ll compile your collective brilliance, add a few of my own thoughts, and share it in a post next week.

Today is Sweet Pea’s 22nd birthday! The little kids are waiting for her to wake up so they can have some special birthday cereal. For dinner she chose Thai grilled chicken, couscous, sesame green beans, mandarin salad, and German chocolate cake. A special friend came over this week and helped me out by picking up groceries for me and even baking the cake (thank you Kate!). I get to make the coconut pecan frosting and put the three layers together, so I haven’t missed out on all of the fun.

Russ and all three of the older boys are gone skiing today, so it is going to be a bit wild and crazy around here. I’m praying for a happy day for all of us.

Have a great weekend. I’m looking forward to hearing your answers to Lori’s question.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Adrielle
    March 7, 2009

    Happy birthday cousin!!!!!! Now you are the age I was when i lived with you! So amazing! Love you!!!!!!

  2. blessedmomto7
    March 7, 2009


  3. CrazyMom
    March 8, 2009

    Ok, Sweat Pea’s bday dinner sounds awesome. Any recipes to share? I’d love to see your Thai chicken and sesame green bean recipes!


  4. Anonymous
    March 8, 2009

    One of the things that has helped us the most with funding our adoptions has been the fact that we’ve adopted waiting children. All of them had fee reductions and sometimes we also benefitted from waiting child funds at each agency. WACAP esp. has a great waiting child program with MANY children whose adoption fees are completely waived, and a loan fund for up to $3000 interest free (I think). And these are truly children who NEED and are WAITING for homes…

    We’ve also received grants from Shaohannah’s Hope and from Ibsen Adoption Network (WA families only). And folks at our church have given us over $10,000 and donated mileage to pay for travel.

    I truly believe that if you have a heart for a child, then God has the money! He has been MUCH more than faithful to us. I don’t say this tritely…Sometimes it’s come down to us putting $4000 on a charge card, but someone came to us then and told us that God had told them to give us $4000 the day before and they’d wanted to pray about it one more time before they gave. He said it again, so they came with the check and the $4000 wasn’t on our card more than 48 hours!

    It’s always been an adventure, but truly, one that has strengthened our faith in God’s provision…

    Lisa H.

  5. darci
    March 8, 2009

    hi lisa! i have no idea how to fund an adoption, lol! still working that one out. 🙂
    is there any chance you’d have time to send me the list of stuff that ahope needs? my daughter would like to collect stuff at her b-day party for ahope and we are just sending out invitations. i can’t remember everything..i THINK bandaids, polysporin, kids/baby tylenol, advil, surgical gloves, colored pencils, crayons. anything else? thanks a a spare moment (ha!)
    i’m at mhovdestad at hotmail dot com. thanks! (or leave a comment on my blog. ) thanks and have a great night. darc

  6. Bear Creek Mama
    March 8, 2009

    Okay, this question is pretty timely for me. I was asked twice today why adoption costs so much? It shouldn’t…..hmmmm.
    I couldn’t help but answer that God allows it be that way because He needs us to depend on him and I’m now realizing that he also wants us to involve others in our process.
    Making our needs known to others has been the hardest part of our adoption.
    We got a grant from Shaohannah’s Hope and a matching grant from LifeSong which has not been fulfilled yet.
    Our church family is organizing a HUGE garage sale for us at the end of the month that we hope will be a good chunk of the matching grant money. We are notifying a ton of people to donate and even more to come and shop!
    Our adoption is the most expensive I’ve ever heard of 🙂 3 kids from Ethiopia and one is unrelated – fees add up. He provides! Somehow, anyhow, He does.

  7. Rachel
    March 8, 2009

    Tell Sweet Pea we said Happy Birthday! I also wanted you to know that WE LOVE YOU, and what you are doing is truly amazing! I admire your love and devotion to your beautiful children, even during the hard times. I will continue to pray for you and your very busy life. It was so good to talk to you today. The stew was wonderful…a huge hit! Also, I talked to Sig and she like the idea of us hosting a shower!

    See you soon!

  8. Andrew and Amber
    March 9, 2009

    We ran fireworks stands to raise money for our adoption. There are several companies that do this (TNT, Phantom, etc). They give you everything you need and you do ALL the work. You keep 20-30% of the profit. We ended up raising about $6,000 last year. The previous year we made about $8,000. It is a ton of work but only a few days (4-5 days) for a lot of money. Plus it involves the community in the adoption.

  9. happens :)
    March 10, 2009

    That small child of yours is so stinkin cute.


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