Pressing the Pause Button

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There’s nothing like spending four days on the critical care unit of a hospital to prompt me to examine my life. Too much time in my day is revolving around my health – doctors, blood draws, and medications that make me feel crummy, but this has caused me to press the pause button on my life and I think that’s a good thing.

Add to this that Russ has been in Kenya for two weeks, and it adds up to a lot. When he steps off the plane tomorrow, I plan to grab hold of him and not let go for a long time.

Thankfully, we’ve been able to talk on the phone daily. The morning Russ left, we stood close together in the airport, and I whispered, “While you’re gone, when you have time to reflect, please think about our life. We have to change it; we can’t keep living at this pace.”

Three days later I was in the ER learning that I have a problem with my heart, and those words rushed back to me. It’s time to make changes, and we’re not in a position to hold much back. I want to live a long time – to see my children grow up, to have grandchildren, to have adventures with Russ, to serve Jesus with all of my heart. There is so much I want to do, and I’m pretty sure that if we keep living as we are, my health is going to continue spiraling down and those beautiful moments will escape me.

We need a quiet space to reflect and pray; to lay our lives on the table and not hold anything back. What is necessary, and what can we let go? This will not be an easy process.

I tend to think I can handle a lot, and I’m beginning to realize that simply isn’t true. Apart from God, I truly can do nothing. So, what does God want me to do? How is he calling me to live my life – to simultaneously surrender it, lay it down, and protect it. I’m not sure how to do that – we need him to show us.

My doctor told me to radically reduce the stress in our lives and to order this book; there are big changes coming. I am simultaneously scared and hopeful.

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Despite the health issues and Russ being in Kenya, we had a good Easter. My big kids helped and our friend, Emily, was here to celebrate with us. It was truly a team effort and when the day was done, the dishes washed, and Easter baskets cleaned up, I felt quite pleased that we had pulled it off as well as we did.

Have you had a crisis with your health, or something else, in your life? Did you make changes to your life?

I would love to hear from you.

Have a great Monday, friends.

Lisa

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. helenhsm
    April 21, 2014

    I have a chronic illness that causes me to rest a lot. One thing I've learned is to listen and obey my body.

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  2. Johanna
    April 21, 2014

    I read that book a while back and did two Whole30 rounds in six months time. I learned a lot and enjoyed the book. I am praying for you and your family! May God give you wisdom and peace as you seek to simplify.

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  3. Mary Ostyn
    April 21, 2014

    We have had a really busy school year, working on hard subjects with our teens, and are all feeling kind of burned out. One thing I'm planning for fall is Monday as a day of rest. No school. Sleep in. Make time to do fun things during the day. Sunday tends to be very busy for us, with church and having family over afterward all day. So I'm realizing we need to do better at making a true day of rest.

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    1. Emily
      April 21, 2014

      I love that idea.

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      1. tyra
        April 24, 2014

        I love that idea too! I've been thinking of trying to do the same thing. We often don't want to go to community group on Sunday night because we serve at church and then have lunch with family. We are all so tired by the evening but gathering with that group is the spiritual highlight of my week. If we had another day for rest, I think it would be easier to embrace Sunday with family and friends.

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  4. Janell
    April 21, 2014

    Whole 30 is an amazing program. I did it last year and lost 7lbs in a month. More importantly, I slept better, had more energy, stopped getting that 2pm sleepy slump I'd have in the afternoon. I fell asleep faster and woke up earlier with more energy. Good luck. It's tough but worth it.

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  5. charity betts
    April 21, 2014

    so many of your words resonate with me, such truth! my dad had a heart bypass a few years back and finally completely changed his life by eating differently…he had always had seasons where he focused on eating simply, and he exercised often…but this time he had to commit to taking that path and not looking back…he used the china diet as a place to start…juices every day, eats large quantities of produce every day, and is in remarkably great health. as his daughter I am thankful every day.

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  6. Lori Glasscock
    April 21, 2014

    I understand that place of crisis that demands change. Change is hard and often even harder to stick with when things start feeling better. It's easy to listen to the voices that demand more of you than you can give. Love and hugs to you, sweet sister.

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  7. Emily
    April 21, 2014

    It was a good Easter. Proud of you and Russ. Love you so much!

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  8. Courtney
    April 21, 2014

    i can't tell you how happy i am to hear that a DOCTOR told you to get that book!!! i've read (and reread) and done that book for the last year. i feel better than i EVER have in my life. and i've had stomach/digestive issues for as long as i can remember. i have NO PMS symptoms anymore. i CAN'T take a nap because i'm not tired. (they call it "tiger blood" ;-))

    the first week (if you do it "cold turkey") you will feel AWFUL. like you have the flu. days 3-5 are the worst. but then it slowly gets better until you hit the second week and from then on your feel incredible!! it's the sugar. and grains. it's all so bad for us.

    i could go on and on. let me know if you are starting it and i'll coach you through it (encourage you…) trust me, you will need it!

    AND. the rest. i'm so glad you are seeing that changes need to be made. i trust that He will show you and Russ what they are. He has beautiful things for you! press into Him. He will make it clear!

    mUCH love!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 21, 2014

      Courtney, I would love your help. I meet with my doc again next Monday and will probably get started right after. Maybe we could connect this week. According to Amazon, the book should be in my mailbox right now. I'm going to walk down the driveway to get it.

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    2. Becky Ratliff Podhajsky
      April 21, 2014

      I second Courtney's comments. That way of eating has been a wonderful change in my life. A Whole 30 is a great way to get going. After that, you might want to take a look at emeals.com. I got a Groupon for $30 – a years worth of Paleo dinner menus with grocery list. It has helped simplify my life and we eat tons iof veggies and actually save money on our grocery bill. Also for more inspiration you can look at Mark Sisson or Robb Wolfes websites for paleo success stories. Praying for you friend!

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  9. Acceptance with Joy
    April 21, 2014

    feeling the need to make changes to the pace of life here, too.

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  10. Kris
    April 21, 2014

    Let's start a Club and Courtney can be our leader. =)
    I know I could stand to renovate how I fuel my body. Interesting that your Dr. told you to reduce stress then asked you to start with Food. I like.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 21, 2014

      There's an idea, Kris! Yes, it was interesting. She said, "There are things I can tell you to do, but at this point, they will only add to your stress. Let's reduce the stress as the first step toward recovering your health." She's pretty great.

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  11. Angela
    April 21, 2014

    Thinking of you and your family so much!! I myself have had health issues and much of it due to stress and too busy of a pace in our lives!! I have been saying the same thing, "We must figure out how to simplify and minimize…." Good luck because I know for myself it is NO small thing with many kids and responsibilities!!

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  12. Kirsten G.
    April 21, 2014

    I have dealt with bouts of severe depression. It was a huge wake up call for me as it was causing huge amounts of stress on my family and my marriage. It took some time, but I learned to slow things down and worked on getting better.
    Praying that you'll find the right balance for you and your family!

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  13. Lisa Qualls
    April 21, 2014

    Thank you to all of you who have taken the time to encourage me. I'm reading the book and taking it all in. It's going to be a journey.

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  14. Cathy L.
    April 22, 2014

    So interesting how synchronicity works! I started a dairy, grain, legume and sugar free way of eating 5 days ago and have been reading lots about Paleo (I found my way to it through The Blood Sugar Solution by Dr. Mark Hyman), and now I find you are exploring it too! Amazing how that happens . . .
    All the best in your journey with this new way of eating and many blessings to you and your family. I love your blog and have recommended it to our therapist to pass on to other moms (and dads).

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 22, 2014

      Thank you so much, Cathy, both for sharing my blog and for encouraging me on the journey.

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  15. Chris
    April 22, 2014

    We are also feeling the pull of STRESS, the disintegration of energy, enthusiasm, focus, and desire to do the right things because we are SOOOO busy just doing the next thing!
    We thought having a farm for our special needskids to grow up on was going to be the answer, but it way quadrupled our work in helping the 4 with issues find their place/way in our family.
    SIGH!!!
    and talk about STRESS from every angle=behavioral, cognitive, emotional and physical…we are all depleted, and I do believe changing how we eat would help us all-
    BUT, will all this draw us closer to God???
    THAT"S the #1 problem!!
    Thanks for being so transparent, time and again, and blessings on your week

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  16. Heidi
    April 24, 2014

    I'm just found out I most likely have epilepsy (clonic/tonic seizures) with my triggers being lack of sleep, dehydration, and STRESS!!! I have to make changes too!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 24, 2014

      I feel your pain, Heidi. We're in the early stages of figuring this out.

      Reply

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