One is Silver and the Other Gold

Make new friends, but keep the old.
One is silver, the other is gold.

Our daughters have been friends for 13 years, since they were 7 years old, which means we’ve been friends just as long. They’ve grown up, chosen different colleges, and have many other friends, but these two share a special history.

Last weekend the four of us went to Couer d’Alene for a night. It was a quick trip, yet so relaxing and fun. We laughed hard as the girls shared childhood stories. They even had videos from an ill-fated vlog they started back when they were both still in braces.

When I tell our family’s story, I nearly always mention Beth, who stepped in and homeschooled Annarose when our life became chaos. Four new kids joining the family took all I had. Beth is incredibly organized and gave me a gift I desperately needed.

Annarose was even included on a family road trip across the country.

As moms of big families, and/or moms of kids with unique needs, it’s hard to make time for just one child, and even harder to make time for friendships. I tend to feel spread so thin, I just want to stay home when I can.

I want to encourage you to make time for old friends. You may not have the energy to form new friendships, but friends who’ve stood the test of time are a gift. And if they like your kids, no matter what? Hold on to them forever.

After traveling so much lately, it was hard to pack a bag one more time, but the moment I got in the car with the two girls in the back seat, just like when they were young, I started smiling and didn’t stop.

A fire burns bright, it warms the heart.
We’ve been friends, from the very start.

You have one hand, I have the other.
Put them together, We have each other.

Make New Friends

What do you value most in a friendship?

My short and sweet weekly email, 3 Thankful Thoughts, comes out each Wednesday and can be read in a minute or two, I promise. I chat a little about my family, share links to posts and things I’m loving, and keep you updated on important things.

I’d love to count you among my email friends. Sign up here and I’ll send you a simple guide I created for moms like you, Hope for Your Parenting Journey.

Lastly, I’m watching the Amazon Deals closely as the holidays approach and posting some of the best ones on my One Thankful Mom Facebook page. They’re starting to get good!

Much love,


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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