My Oh-So-Slow Recovery

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In the grand scheme of tragedy, suffering, and even death, it seems trivial to update you on my recovery, but many of you have asked, so here it is.

My body hurts. It’s been nearly six weeks since the accident and I’m frustrated by my slow progress. I’m still spending most of the day in a recliner in our family room. Friends are still bringing meals and cleaning my house. I’m still unable to drive.

The pain in my hip is understandable. There is a fracture in the right side of my sacrum and significant soft tissue damage on my hip. It is healing, but wow, it’s been something. My orthopedic surgeon says that the fire-like pain from the nerves is a good sign; he’s a smart guy, so I’m going to trust him on that. More recently I’ve been able to roll slightly onto my side for short bits of time, but most of the time, it’s still too painful.

But that isn’t what has been bothering me the most; it’s my left shoulder. For the most part my hip only hurts when I move or when it is touched. My shoulder, on the other hand, hurts all the time. Last week I saw the doctor and he took quite a bit of time examining my shoulder. He orderedĀ an x-ray which clearly showed a coracoid fracture. According to “Dr. Wikipedia”, the coracoid process is a small bone that is the attachment site for three muscles and four ligaments. I’m guessing that is why it hurts so much.

Thankfully, it isn’t displaced and the bone is going to heal on its own. We’ll be making some changes to my PT routine, but overall, it’s a matter of waiting, avoiding movements (and lifting) that could injure it more, and doing gentle movements that will help my shoulder stay healthy as it heals. The temptation is to hold my hand against my chest and not move Ā my arm, but that can cause a post-traumatic frozen shoulder. So I’m moving it.

I also have a mild traumatic brain injury, which explains how random my thoughts are. I have a hard time focusing on things for long periods of time and my normal “make a list and check things off” way of progressing through the day is nearly absent. Grief alone makes clear thinking difficult, so this adds another layer of complication. Just knowing there is a reason for my fuzzy brain, and that it will heal over the next weeks, makes me feel better

As for my aching heart, and eyes that easily fill with tears at even unexpected moments, the progress there is slow as well. I think I’m okay with that. Michele said she thinks my physical injuries are a blessing because they’re forcing me to be quiet, stay still, rest, and give myself space to heal emotionally. My world is very small right now, and that feels fine. Thankfully my desire to write is returning, so you’ll be hearing more from me. Writing to you and talking with people who love our family are the best therapy.

I thank God for you, friends, Ā every day – your love for us continues to amaze me.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRIĀ® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

35 Comments

  1. Robin Douglas
    February 4, 2015

    Lisa, I love this picture of you and Kalkidan! I have been praying for your physical therapy and I appreciate the update on your healing. Michele is a wise friend. I love reading your posts and hearing your heart as I think of you and your family many times throughout my days. I think of this verse in Deuteronomy when I pray for the healing, physical and emotional, that is ahead. "The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you." I wish I were near enough to be of practical help to you! Hugs and prayers from Colorado, R

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  2. Kim D
    February 4, 2015

    Oh Lisa, thank you for sharing an update. I continue to think and pray for you family often and for your recovery. My God give you grace & peace to walk through this season.

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  3. Chantelle
    February 4, 2015

    Your injuries sound awfully hard. I so admire your strength and willingness to keep on sharing through the pain. You are such a blessing to me and to sooooo many. ((((hug))))

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  4. Morénike Onaiwu
    February 4, 2015

    You have an army of people all over the globe constantly covering you and your family with prayers and love. Thank you for continuing to share your heart, and your progress, with us.

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  5. Gloria Griffis
    February 4, 2015

    Praying. Blessings.

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  6. Michele R
    February 4, 2015

    You are loved, and you really make the world a WAY better place. Thank you for sharing.

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  7. Julie Randolph
    February 4, 2015

    It is so good to hear from you Lisa! Prayers continue….and sending my love. Thank you for allowing us to hear your heart through recovery.

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  8. cathylank
    February 4, 2015

    Praying for you and your whole family, Lisa.

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  9. sharimcminn
    February 4, 2015

    Just breathe. It is a long slow process to heal from serious bodily injury and traumatic emotional grief. I still have physical numbness and pain from an accident 5 years ago. Cling to the Lord, your husband, your kids. I wore black a whole year after my husband died unexpectedly, and still wear it often to remind me of my elegant cowboy. There is no rush in your life right now. Just every second, every minute, every day seeking His will and mercy and blessing for you and yours. Hugs.

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  10. AmyE
    February 4, 2015

    Still praying for you all. Whenever God brings you to mind. Thanks for the update.

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  11. Karen A.
    February 4, 2015

    Words always seem to fail me, so I'll just say that prayers and virtual hugs are continuing.

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  12. Casey Chappell
    February 4, 2015

    There's not a day that goes by that I'm not thinking and praying for you and your family. I miss her and I never met her. Praying for intimacy with the great Healer right now for you.

    This is a blog post I wrote a few weeks back… in honor of dimples and others who we said "goodbye but not forever" to this year. Thank you for letting us into your journey of grief and hope. http://www.caseychappell.com/2014/12/end-of-year-

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  13. Nancy Stockton Blake
    February 4, 2015

    Thank you for the update. You are right, we do want to know how that part of you is doing. I agree with the friend who felt the focus on physical healing is of benefit to the emotional healing. I had that same thought myself. Though I wish with all of my being that you didn't have to go through either. Continued prayers for your arduous journey. Peace be with you.

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  14. sleepyknitter
    February 4, 2015

    We are continuing in prayer for you and your family, Lisa. You've been through so much for so long!

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  15. Emily
    February 4, 2015

    "…the coracoid process is a small bone that is the attachment site for three muscles and four ligaments. I’m guessing that is why it hurts so much."

    I noticed the word "attachment" here and at first just thought of how often that word is in your blog, for all sorts of reasons…

    Then I reread the sentence and thought about how poignant the parallel is.

    How your attachment had grown with Kalkidan, in both directions.

    I'm guessing that's why it hurts so much.

    I love you so much,
    Em

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  16. Lisa Stucky
    February 4, 2015

    Thank you for sharing. Thinking about you and praying for you, my friend.

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  17. Sherri
    February 4, 2015

    Your physical pain is not trivial, Lisa. Hard things cannot be measured with words like "more" or "less". Hard things are simply hard in different ways. I am praying for your heart and now I will pray for your shoulder too. May God wrap you in His arms today.

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  18. annie21livinginusa
    February 4, 2015

    Prayers sent out for you….

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  19. Mary Ostyn
    February 4, 2015

    ((((( hugs)))))) (ever so gently, so as not to hurt your shoulder. Tho I guess that is the advantage of a cyber-hug)
    love you
    Mary

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  20. courtney
    February 4, 2015

    oh, i had no idea you were in such physical pain in addition to the emotional hurt and grief you are experiencing. thank you for sharing. it helps us to pray for you SPECIFICALLY and for God to answer our requests! lifting you up to Him daily.

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  21. Julianne Rinard
    February 4, 2015

    Lisa thank you for being transparent. you are in my thoughts and prayers dail. My heart aches for you.
    Neuro feedback can help with the brain trauma. Our RAD son has been receiving this treatment along with his other support therapies and it is amazing. I would love to share more with you if you are interested.
    Blessings (!((Hugs)))

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  22. Luann Yarrow Doman
    February 4, 2015

    I think Michelle is right. You need this time to heal–body, soul, and spirit.
    Not a day that goes by that I don’t think of you and your family. I was so excited to see how Dimples’ life would turn out. I felt like if God could heal her, anything was possible. I’m glad you were able to see transformation and progress these past few months.
    Sending love from Chicago.

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  23. kristine barr
    February 4, 2015

    So sorry that you are hurting. Yes everyone above is right. You will gradually begin to feel better physically and mentally. I can only pray that these changes come swiftly.

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  24. Susan
    February 4, 2015

    Praying for your healing

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  25. Maddie Hendrie
    February 4, 2015

    Lisa, there is often a direct link between what is happening emotionally, mentally and spiritually and what is happening physically. I have found that often healing in the other areas needs to come first or get to a certain level before healing happens physically. All of this is going to take time and rest. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through the healing process.

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  26. charity
    February 4, 2015

    I am so sorry for the energy required by this season…both physically and emotionally and mentally…I have noticed God uses pain to combat pain in my life…when something is more than I can handle, He doesn't lighten the load necessarily, He gives me something else difficult to focus on, and it helps me bear up under the first challenge better? when life was so hard when we were younger, that often meant a pregnancy sent right in the midst of chaos, the presence of the baby needing me helped me not to focus too much on the hard of that season. when I was in the hospital for 6 weeks and learning how to walk again, anytime that became too painful, and I felt like giving up, He would send a different pain, displaced ribs seems to work well for me…and it would draw my attention elsewhere and I could cope again. I don't know why He works this way, but I know it is part of His path…and I hope as another comment said, that it forces you to rest and heal and gives you a lot of time for introspection before life starts rolling again as fast. we love you, God teaches interesting lessons through pain…but I also know He never left me alone to fight it off…He will hold you and comfort you through it. I am happy you get to recover at home where your family needs you to be. blessings…charity

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  27. Patty
    February 4, 2015

    Thank you for sharing how you are doing, so your many friends can pray for you more specifically. As for the grief, I liken it to a tidal wave that washes over you unexpectedly, giving you no choice but to ride with it until it recedes. Thank you for your openness and honesty as you share your painful journey with all of us.

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  28. Amber
    February 4, 2015

    Thanks so much for the update. Still thinking of your family and praying for you!

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  29. Joelle
    February 4, 2015

    Thank you so much for the update. I have been wondering how you are doing physically. And I know that the physical also complicates the emotional. You are loved!

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  30. Arabah
    February 4, 2015

    So glad to read this update. Needed to know how you are doing. Hugs, prayers, and love to you all.

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  31. Katie Nelson Bradshaw
    February 5, 2015

    Hugs to you Dear Friend. Thinking of you so so so very often.

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  32. prayingintruth
    February 5, 2015

    Thank-you for updating. I've been so very worried about your healing. I'm so sorry. For all of this. Life is so hard.

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  33. Peggy Clarke
    February 5, 2015

    Prayers……………

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  34. Laine
    February 6, 2015

    Praying for you and your family in this time of healing.

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  35. Shonni
    February 10, 2015

    I am praying for you all. I am so sorry for the loss you your daughter and the accident!!!!!!

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