My New Favorite Color

orange for k bday

Thank you from the depths of our hearts, friends. You helped us remember Kalkidan with sweet memories and laughter. There were tears, but not nearly as many as I feared. Jesus reached past our fear and gave us joy.

Last Thursday, on her birthday, we were surrounded by orange. Our entire family wore orange, even those far away, and every friend I saw that day also had on some orange. When I opened my email, there were pictures of friends wearing orange, and my phone chimed throughout the day with more pictures from friends.

Facebook was awash in orange. Each time I checked there were more pictures and it made me so happy. Instagram was also covered in orange with pictures from people we know and many we don’t. My dear friend’s daughter and her friends on the Bellhaven track team dressed in orange. My niece’s PT classmates at Regis wore orange. Annarose’s ballroom team at UI wore orange.

The staff of our church posted a FB picture all wearing orange. REACH ministries, which Kalkidan loved so much, dressed in orange, and we were so blessed that Intermountain, the program that led Kalkidan deeply into healing, posted a picture all wearing orange too.

It’s so fun to see all of the photos. You can see many of them by searching #rememberingkalkidan on Facebook and Instagram. Privacy settings on some posts may prevent you from seeing them, but there will still be plenty. You can also see the pictures we posted on my One Thankful Mom Instagram page and my One Thankful Mom Facebook page.  There were many other pictures I planned to share that day, but the hours swept by in a rush; I’ll post more this week.

If you weren’t able to post a picture to social media last week, please still join us. These pictures make my heart happy and it is never too late to share this with us.

Flowers and candles were delivered, gifts and cards arrived in the mail, and one friend left a bouquet at Kalkidan’s cross. In the evening, a small group of friends came for cake and some sweet friends brought us a box containing 1,000 paper cranes – it is stunning.

Later that evening, thirty of Annarose’s friends college friends arrived, all wearing orange,with paper airplanes and balloons. They brought A LOT of energy to the party. I went to bed to the sounds of laughter and college kids jumping on the trampoline.

The day was so much better than I could have imagined. This is community – we were not alone in our sorrow – we were surrounded by love. We were held by so many – family, friends, and most of all, Jesus.

You loved us well. You, my friends, are the best.

Lisa

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

11 Comments

  1. Laura
    November 2, 2015

    You look good as a blond.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      November 2, 2015

      Thank you, Laura. It's actually silver! I decided to stop coloring my hair and I've been in transition for nearly 17 months. I love it and I love not worrying about my roots. I had planned to write a series about it, but life last year was not the right time. I guess I should still do it.

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  2. Chantelle
    November 2, 2015

    <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

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  3. Chaplain Chris Haughee
    November 2, 2015

    And, for all of us who loved Kalkidan, thank you for such a meaningful and fun way to remember her! I am especially thankful for the way it "gave permission" for those of us at Intermountain to continue in our grief. I know you felt encouraged, but I want to assure you that you and the entire Qualls family encouraged us immensely as well.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      November 2, 2015

      That is an unexpected blessing I hadn't really realized – thank you for sharing that with me. We think of you all so often. I loved the heart picture!

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    2. Emily
      November 2, 2015

      Chris, I loved your heart picture too.

      I also wondered about what a neat thing it may be for kids there to have this way to see how deeply Kalkidan impacted you all and how much you love and miss her. I know from the Qualls and from Kalkidan herself how much it impacted her to have ongoing relationships and care from all of you at Intermountain. We grieve so deeply because of Kalkidan's deep value to us. I would imagine that as you communicate your grief as Intermountain staff, it is an example to the kids you work with of the value that Kalkidan, and each of them, have to you.

      Lisa, we love you so much and have been praying for you all all the time. We're looking forward to hopefully seeing Samuel soon, and maybe Noah and Katie soon too!

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      1. Lisa Qualls
        November 3, 2015

        That is so interesting, Emily. Beza expressed to us shortly after the memorial that she didn't realize how sad we would be if one of the adopted kids died. I think it both affirmed our love for her and made her really consider our and commitment to her.

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        1. Emily
          November 3, 2015

          Wow. I want to talk to you about that.

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  4. Elizabeth
    November 2, 2015

    So so thankful to hear this!!!

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  5. Pamela
    November 10, 2015

    I'm late to this post but wanted to tell you that I dressed my little guy in orange last week and kept your family in my thoughts and prayers. Unfortunately I didn't get a chance to take a picture.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      November 10, 2015

      I would have loved seeing a pic! Thank you for joining us in #rememberingkalkidan

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