My Little Guys

I was lying in bed very early this morning trying to sleep, but with little success.  Yesterday my heart was extraordinarily full of love for my little boys. I fear that my blog may be devoted too heavily toward the challenges we have faced as adoptive parents, and  I’ve neglected to share the utter gratitude I have for my children.  I also don’t write as much about my little guys, so today is their day.

During church Sunday, Little Man sat next to me, although most of the time he was on my lap.  When we stood to sing, he asked me to pick him up.  He may have turned five, which I know makes him a big boy, but he is still my baby.  All through church he hugged me, kissed me, and made me nearly cry over the privilege I have of being his mother.

When I think of his early months, I marvel at the way his heart and mind are so healthy and amazing.  I feel the Lord’s hand on him – and I’m in awe of His goodness toward us.  I wonder what amazing things God has in store for him?

Eby is growing, healing, and overall, doing great.  Most of his challenges are sensory-related, and that is something I can wrap my mind around.  I’ve gotten pretty good at recognizing when he needs sensory stimulation or needs help calming down.  I have to spend more time thinking about how to meet his needs and helping him regulate than I do with most of my other kids.  Yesterday was a hard day for him and he kept losing control.  By the afternoon, when Dimples and Honeybee were added to the mix, he began to really struggle.  He loves water, so I asked if he wanted to take a bath.  It was 5:00 and I was cooking dinner, but he needed some help settling down.  The combination of warm water, a few toys, and time alone, was just what he needed to get him through the evening.

I’m thankful that I can homeschool Eby because he needs loads of physical activity and spend lots of time outside jumping on the trampoline, exploring, and riding his bike.  He also needs a bit of downtime and quiet each day.  Although he complains about Quiet Hour, he generally heads right into his room, grabs some books off the shelf, and settles in for time alone.

Little Man, on the other hand, is extroverted and talks nearly constantly.  He complains nearly every time I tuck him in for Quiet Hour.  Once I turn on his Farmyard Tales stories and give him a stack of books, he settles in pretty well, but can hardly wait for the hour to pass.

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Both boys are doing great with their schoolwork.  I keep it very simple, Bible, nature study (science), math, reading/phonics, and a little bit of writing.  Sunshine taught them to play “Go Fish” which is a great learning game.  Yesterday, while Eby read to me, Little Man and Sunshine played cards.  Later in day, she introduced Little Man to the fun of Starfall. Sunshine is a great companion to the little boys, leading them in creative play, helping them with schoolwork, and reading to them.  They make a sweet threesome.

I hear children waking up so I need to wrap this up.  I’m trying to limit the time I spend on the computer when the kids need me, which is pretty much from the time their eyes open in the morning, until they close at night.  Today is going to be a full day, with a friend stopping over for tea this morning, another friend coming over to help with a project, homeschooling, piano lessons, and a therapy appointment for Dimples.  I’m sure there will be many games of Dutch Blitz mixed in as well; the kids are playing it constantly these days.

Last night we sat in the living room near the Christmas tree with our four girls, Ladybug, Honeybee, Dimples, and Sunshine, and began reading The Twenty-four Days Before Christmas.  Reading this book is a family tradition we all enjoy, although the last few years we’ve missed some things like this.  It seems that this year we are reclaiming some of what we have lost due to constant travel for therapy, or just the general tumult of the past few years. Ladybug even played Christmas carols for us.  It was a peaceful way to end a rather long day.

#441 – 450 giving thanks

candles glowing on the candle while I write

coffee ready for Russ when he comes downstairs

a small pot of chai tea ready for Dimples and Honeybee

standing alone, in the dark, in front of our Christmas tree

a surprise offer for help from a friend

one load of laundry already done this morning

more interviews for Sweet Pea

sweet time with Honeybee last night

Ladybug baking cookies for Noah

hope for a new day

How are your kids doing?  Do you have anything to share with us?  Sometimes we forget to talk about the good things – let’s be intentional today and give thanks for the progress our children are making and the good gifts they are to us.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Mary
    December 1, 2011

    Hi Lisa. It is a few days past this post and no one else posted. But I have to share that our foster baby is doing great. He came to us with night terrors as an infant. I wondered if he would ever smile. He did. Then I wondered if he would ever engage people. He did. I wondered if he would ever wave or laugh or crawl. He did! Given all his little self endured at the start, I am amazed at this little guy. Absolutely amazed. And humbled. It is special watching it all unfold. Love is still a worthy cause :).

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 1, 2011

      Mary, thank you so much for sharing this good news; I love to hear the ways that God heals His children. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment.

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