In 2009, I launched My Learning Curve, a series of posts with practical tips for parenting children from early adversity. I’m reaching back into my archives to share some of these updated posts with you. We are many years into our adoption journey, while some of you are at the beginning. I remember how desperate we were for help. I hope these posts are useful to you.
Here is my quick tip of the day. As I watched the therapist work with Kalkidan, I noticed that when she gave an instruction, she looked in Kalkidan’s eyes and said, “Got it?”
In contrast, I often say, “Do you understand?” or “Do you hear what I am saying?”, or “Show me that you understand me.” This short question is simple and more direct.
This reminds me of what Dr. Karyn Purvis says about using few words when correcting children. We tend to go on and on explaining and overloading our children with words; eventually we sound like the adults in Charlie Brown. Their brains cease to listen and process what we are saying.
We can keep it simple and use two words that have quick impact.
Give it a try. Got it?
Let me know if this works for you!
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