Montana and Cherry Pie

We’re on our way to see Dimples today. It’s a different sort of trip without Russ, instead I’m taking Hannah, Noah, Katie (our friend), and Isaiah. During our weekly phone call,  I told Dimples that Hannah was coming to visit. We were on speaker with her counselor and although Dimples didn’t say much, her counselor said, “She’s got a big smile on her face.”

The trip should be easy, but the visit – well, we’ll just have to see. I’ll have a therapy session with her and Russ may Skype in to join us. Visits are hard. There’s just nothing comfortable about visiting your child (or sibling) in a residential treatment program. And for Dimples, each time we visit her two worlds collide. She has relationships, routines, and an entire life apart from us, yet, we’re her family and there are aspects of her life with us that she misses.

I’m thankful for the program because I believe it is our best chance for Dimples’ healing and for our family’s survival.  It was essential for everyone’s health and safety. Despite that, it feels rather terrible. It will be interesting to hear my older kids’ thoughts on our way home.

We’re having a great visit with Hannah. She’s been doing a lot of cooking, and Russ is particularly happy that she is teaching Sunshine how to bake pies. I love seeing my kids together and knowing that my hope of them growing up to be good friends has happened. Eby’s face in this picture makes me laugh – he could hardly contain himself as the tower grew more precarious.

Have a great day, friends. I’ll try to post something from Montana.

Lisa

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Kathy
    May 29, 2013

    Safe travels my friend! I want to remind you that your presence matters to Dimples, even though she will not likely be able to express it. Our daughter would light up seeing our car pull up, but then often shut down when we were one on one with her. I knew our presence was speaking to her. It was showing her that she was not forgotten or abandoned by us. Sometimes she would allow us to hold her hand and sometimes not. Sometimes there were words exchanged and sometimes we just quietly played checkers. I know our presence spoke volumes to her and so will yours!

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  2. Emily
    May 29, 2013

    I'm glad you get to have your big kids with you to process with and to show Dimples she is thought of. Love you all so much.

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  3. Mavis
    May 29, 2013

    Praying for the trip, the visit, and all involved.

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  4. Laurel
    May 29, 2013

    Love that Dimples had a big smile on the phone! It is such a blessing to follow your story. Thanks for being so open.

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  5. Dolisa
    May 29, 2013

    Thank you for sharing. Our daughter, who is only 7 years old, just went in to a residential treatment program. We are blessed that it is close to home. Visits are tough. We'll be having our first family therapy on Friday. I will continue to pray for you and your family. Your words are always encouraging. Thank you. God Bless!

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