Let’s Make Time for the Ones We Love

“I don’t have time.”

How often do we say those words?

We are all busy people running on this crazy treadmill of life. Over the years I’ve observed many people, and I’ve learned something important in my own life. We make time for the things that matter most.

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We all have the same amount of time in a day. Every decision we make, every “yes” we give, is a “no” to something or someone, else.

Remember when I said 2017 is our year for Completion and Restoration, particularly for restoring relationships? We’re taking it seriously, so seriously that last week I went on a trip with my parents and sisters.

sisters weekend

Each year we have “Sisters Weekend” when we gather at my parents’ house for at least one night. This year we kicked it up a notch and took a trip together.

It’s easy to say we don’t have time for things like this, and we don’t. We have to make time for them.

Giving me those days away was a sacrifice for Russ. It wasn’t easy for the kids either, but they managed. The dates fell between my two trips to Atlanta for Created for Care – not ideal for my family, but the only dates that worked for my sister who is a teacher.

All reasons I might have said the trip wouldn’t work for me, but I know, without a doubt, I will never regret the time spent with my parents and sisters.

sister weekend 2

When we lost Kalkidan, we said we would never be the same. We were changed. We saw life through new eyes and would live differently.

I’m telling you, it’s so easy to drift back into life as usual – so easy. I don’t want that happen to us. Life is short. It is precious. People matter – really, people are all that matter.

The people we love, our families, our friends, folks God brings into our lives – this is it. We are living the only lives we will have on this earth. This is not the rehearsal for something coming later.

It’s tempting to think:

When I’m done with college, then I’ll…


When I’m married, then I’ll…


When my children are a little older, then I’ll…


When my children are grown, then I’ll…


When I’m retired, then I’ll…


When I’ve saved enough money, then I’ll…

or simply,

When I have enough time, then I’ll…

Trust me when I say that you will never have enough time or money to do many of the things you want to do and sometimes opportunities disappear before the “right” time ever comes.

Don’t miss loving your people, or being bold with your life, or serving in ways you feel called to serve.

I’m not saying this may not require creativity. Limited finances, nursing babies, physical limitations, an unsupportive spouse – all kinds of things could prevent you from doing things the way you may want to, but there are always ways to connect with the people we love and serve God.

You may also be in a season of burden and in no way do I want to place more weight on your shoulders. Sister, if you are in that season, this post is not for you. You truly may not have time to think much beyond the day you are living. Grace upon grace to you. 

For the rest of us – Do it. Live without regrets.

Call your Mom. Call your Dad. Text your siblings. Mail a card. Take a friend out for coffee. Hug your kids. Kiss your husband.

Love well.




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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. JoAnne Belch
    March 4, 2017

    Dear Lisa,
    I continue to be blessed and my heart touched when I read your blogging. Thank you for all your vulnerability and personal heart-felt sharing.

    1. Lisa Qualls
      March 6, 2017

      Thank you for your continued prayers for me, JoAnne. I appreciate you!


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