I’m always amazed at how insightful my young children are. Since our friend, Stephen’s, father passed away recently, we’ve been praying daily for Stephen and his family. One day Little Man offered this heartfelt prayer,
Lord, please help Stephen not to be naughty at home just because he is sad.
I’m not worried about Stephen being “naughty” but I’ve pondered my little boy’s words for several days. Did he say that because he knows that when he feels sad, it looks like mad? Did he pray it because he has seen his sisters’ sadness boil over as anger?
I’m not sure, but either way, it brings me back to the issue of grief that flows through some of my children’s hearts and lives. I’m working hard to listen well, be fully present, and not try to solve the problem. I can’t fix the losses my children have experienced; there is no going back, but I can be with them in it.
I spent every free moment yesterday reading When Helping Hurts: Alleviating Poverty Without Hurting the Poor. . .and Yourself. It is a fascinating book and one that anybody who is concerned for the poor should read. This includes widows and orphans, so those of us who are adoptive parents should pick it up.