Kicking off Spring Break

Spring break has begun and we are in the midst of a flurry of transitions.  Sweet Pea is on her way home from Gambia after completing a medical rotation in a rural hospital.  Noah is in the air on his way to New York City for a business school field trip.  In a couple of hours, Russ, Ladybug, and Sunshine will be on the road to Vantage, the halfway point between our home and Seattle, where he will meet his sister and she will take the girls home to her house for “cousin time.”  Later this week, Samuel and Isaiah will head to Seattle for some fun with friends and to bring their sisters home.

It’s kind of crazy.

The original plan was that all four younger girls were going to visit their cousins for several days over the break.  I knew their days would be filled with fun, creativity, cooking, playing outdoors, and having  a great time.  It was good to think of Honeybee and Dimples forming closer relationships with their cousins, and Russ and I were looking forward to a few days with only the little boys at home.  However, when we presented the plan to the girls, Honeybee adamantly refused to go, and as commonly happens, Dimples followed along with her.  I explained that nothing special was going to happen here – I have a long list of cleaning and decluttering tasks I plan to tackle.  Russ will be working.  They insisted that they didn’t want to go, so we told them they could stay home.

While we wouldn’t normally allow a child to refuse to do something we asked them to do, we had to give voice to Honeybee.  She didn’t feel comfortable being away from us, or from home, that long.  I don’t know, with certainty, why that is, but Russ and I weren’t going to force her to go.  That would break the bonds we are working hard to build.

It could be a long week for them, and for us.  I’m working on a daily plan for Dimples, but I’m not sure how it is going to come together.  Aunt Michele will be gone all week, which eliminates a favorite option for Dimples.  Some of our other helpers are also out of town, so all in all, we are going to be stretched.  I’m not sure what Honeybee will do with her time, but I suspect it will be a lesson in self-direction.  I plan to have both girls work alongside me, as well, and hope that will not feel punitive, but will simply be participating in the tasks that need to be accomplished.

I’m sure there will be good gifts that come from the week, but I’m going to be honest and say that my heart is a little heavy.  I know the Lord will meet our needs – I know He will.  It’s all going to be fine.  The burden is on me to stay calm and regulated and to enjoy my children.  It is rare to have so few home, and I need to embrace the opportunity.

If it all falls apart, I know we will survive and the Lord will not leave us alone in our struggle.

In happy news, I do have so much to be thankful for.

#811 – 820 giving thanks

Samuel’s 19th birthday today!  We celebrated last Friday before everybody headed out of town — but we’ll celebrate a little more today.

Sweet Pea coming down on Tuesday

coffee with friends Wednesday night

milder weather

parks and hikes planned for this week

an opportunity to focus on a few children

a friend who spent the afternoon with the girls yesterday

Russ sitting next to me drinking coffee as I type

 a long walk yesterday

the sound of rain on the windows

Have a wonderful Sunday, friends.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. AmyE
    March 11, 2012

    I'm already planning (dreading) Spring Break in 2 weeks. Trying to have a positive attitude, but since my 5year old cannot stand even 5 seconds without doing something with someone, it is going to be a challenge. Thanks for your encouragement, as always. And for acknowledging that we have to stay regulated, as well. Sometimes I can literally feel the calm slipping away.

    1. Lisa Qualls
      March 11, 2012

      Amy – too bad we don't live close!! It sounds like we could understand one another. I'll try to share things that I find helpful this week.

  2. Courtney
    March 11, 2012

    thanks for sharing! i will pray, specifically, for CALM. i know, all too well, how far that goes! and how easy it is to lose!

    1. Lisa Qualls
      March 11, 2012

      Thank you, Courtney.

  3. Coffee mom
    March 11, 2012

    Lisa I’m in the same spot…facing down spring break. With days of time that is difficult to structure it makes for a possibly foreboding week. I’m trying to stifle the ” jaws” soundtrack and brainstorm for simple ideas….but nothing exciting yet. I’ll keep you all in my prayers tho…I know just what you’re facing. Hoping it’s all good for you!

    1. Lisa Qualls
      March 11, 2012

      Ah friend, I'll be praying for you, too.


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