A Joyful, Beautiful, Thankful Start to 2017

2017 is my year for Completion and Restoration. What will that look like for me? What are my goals?

Monday I reflected on my goals for 2016 and whether I was successful (or not) completing them. If I allow myself a good measure of grace, I accomplished quite a bit in a very hard year.

It’s more difficult to give words to my goals this year, maybe because it feels very important. It’s a pivot year of sorts.

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1.  Complete | Russ and I have a long list of unfinished projects to examine. Some will make it on our list to be completed while others will be permanently crossed off as we determine they no longer hold value. Tasks range from small and fun (spend gift cards we’ve had for years), to long and challenging (finish building the patio and Kalkidan’s garden). As you can imagine, some projects also have emotional weight.

2. Restore | At the end of the day, and at the end of our lives, only people matter. As I wrote in my posts about Completion and Restoration, so many of our relationships were swept aside as we struggled to parent our kids from “hard places” and then recover from the accident and losing Kalkidan. This year is the beginning of restoring those relationships, beginning with our marriage, then our kids, with special focus on our adult kids. From there we’ll devote time to our extended families and friends.

3. Health | My two specific goals are to increase my strength and make some (near) daily additions to my diet. More specifically, I need to increase my muscle mass, through strength training. I also plan to continue walking (nearly) every day. Nutritionally, I need more water and veggies! I love them both, I just forget to pay attention.

4. Book(s) | I will do everything I can to see the book published in 2017. I also plan to complete a draft of the Giving Voice to Siblings book, which is so important. I have portions of it already completed and quite a bit of information gathered. You’ll be hearing more from me about it.

5. Declutter| Garage – I’m going to try again. I’m also going to declutter spaces I have more control over: my wardrobe, books, bedroom, and bathroom. Once I finish those, I’ll move on to the kitchen, where I also have the most influence. I plan to continue on through the house, writing about my progress as I go, perhaps even documenting it here or in my friends-letter (unless you get bored), so I have a little positive pressure to keep myself motivated. I plan to schedule a specific block of time each week for this project and make it a priority. I’m not sure a mom of a large family can be a minimalist, and I’m not sure I want to go that far, but I’m going to start where I am. This will add joy to my life!

6. Seek joy, search for beauty, be thankful | I need to look for joy in the common moments, like the smiling face of the toddler in the grocery cart in front of me. Or pausing to look out the kitchen window and see Russ and Wogauyu sledding down the hill in our pasture in the evening light. I said I would never be the same after surviving the accident, yet how quickly I drifted nearly back to same-ness. I want to soak up this life, the beautiful and joyful, even the sad. I want to feel deeply and love my people well. I want to pause, open my eyes, listen, and give thanks.

I’ll be documenting the joyful, beautiful, thankful bits of life in my Line a Day Journal.

Thank you to everyone who entered the drawing for the Line a Day Journal, especially to everyone who subscribed to my friends-letter. I love sending a little note to you each weekend. The winner is Krista! 

You might like to read:

My 2016 Goals – How Did I Do?

Completion and Restoration for Our Marriage and Family in 2017

Here’s to a joyful, beautiful, thankful start to 2017.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

10 Comments

  1. Lisa Craddock
    January 4, 2017

    Ohhhhh, I think I want to be one of your friends-letter friends, if it is still possible. Your list is the list of my heart too, and I would love to be inspired by your successes. Or failures! ; ) I am praying for God to bless you and your marriage and your family abundantly this next year. Thank you for sharing your journey. (And yes, please do share whatever small or big triumphs you have as you work on those goals! I’d love to cheer you on and be cheered. : )

    With love,
    Blessed

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 4, 2017

      I would love to have you subscribe! Just click on the link where it says, “subscribed to my friends-letter”. It’s underlined and bold. It should take you right to the sign-up form. If not, let me know! Thank you so much for praying for me, Lisa. I would love to have you join me on some of these goals and hear how you are doing with yours.

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  2. Janna Williams
    January 4, 2017

    I’m working on an attitude of gratitude this year, too. The adoption journey is a hard one and I think I’ve forgotten to thank God for all the blessings on the way. I have stretched a lot throughout the process and I’m thankful for that.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 4, 2017

      Gratitude has helped me get through so much – God is faithful and so good. Thanks for sharing your goal, Janna.

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  3. Emily
    January 4, 2017

    This is a great list. On mine it says “Call
    Lisa just to talk.” Wish I had a nursing baby that kept me home all day so we could just gab like we used to! Love you!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 4, 2017

      I like that goal – I do miss those baby days. They were busy, busy, busy, but oh so sweet.

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  4. Emily
    January 5, 2017

    I love all of these. I love that you say: “I’m not sure a mom of a large family can be a minimalist, and I’m not sure I want to go that far, but I’m going to start where I am. This will add joy to my life!” It is so easy to look at others and wonder if we should be there, but we have to look at our own lives and the people in our own family and see what works and is right for us.

    I’m also looking forward to your book about giving voice to siblings!

    And every one of these goals is so so important. Hugs to you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 6, 2017

      We should come up with a special category for minimalist-wannabes with large families. Thanks for the encouraging words about the sibling book!

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  5. Teresa Flick
    January 6, 2017

    I just sat down today and came up with some goals for 2017. I settled on three main categories (Preserve/improve health, Connect with kids/husband, Complete household to do’s) each with subcategories and then came back to your blog post. I am borrowing your last goal to “seek joy, search for beauty, be thankful” as my 4th goal. I may still tweak it a bit, but it’s a good starting point for me. Most of my goals are “to do” type goals and somehow, this one spoke to me. It’s more of a “being” type goal, something I need more of in my life. Thanks for sharing your goals and in doing so encouraging others to do the same. It was something I needed to do.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 6, 2017

      I love the way you categorized your goals, Teresa. And thanks for joining me in one of mine.

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