In Exchange for Your Shame

A few weeks ago, a dear friend gave her testimony at Celebrate Recovery and she invited me to come. Her story was incredible and should probably be a best selling book. At one point in the evening, I looked up at the screen on the wall and this verse was projected on it.

I will give you a double portion of your inheritance in exchange for your shame. Isaiah 61:7

I’ve written quite a bit about shame and my experience of mothering children from “hard places.” If you struggle with this as I do, let this verse sit with you today. Write it down and carry it in your pocket, hang it above your kitchen sink.

Not only does God say he will take away our shame, but he will give us a “double portion” of our inheritance in “exchange” for it.

That’s the most beautiful thing I’ve heard in a long time.

If you haven’t had an opportunity to read the comments on yesterday’s post, What Can You Do When You Don’t Love Your Child?, they are amazing. You don’t want to miss that Tuesday Topic.

Have a wonderful day, friends. We have four medical/therapy appointments – my least favorite kind of day. I’m praying for a cheerful and calm spirit in the midst of it all, and for the strength to not completely tank on our homeschool work.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. sleepyknitter
    October 9, 2013

    WOW! Powerful. I've never thought of that verse in context of our shame in adoption. Not just replacing but "exchanging" shame! What a thought!

    A blog friend (you probably "know" her) has adopted 11 children through an inheritance and has two more on the way. Ever since she wrote that this past spring, I have had a heavy interest in "inheritance", both literally (my actual inheritance blew away in a tornado) and spiritually, and the Bible has a lot to say about inheritance. If I were to take this verse out of its original context and apply it to my life in a literal way, this verse would be a very comforting promise to me that although we have lost one child whom we loved but who did not love us, and we have experienced a lot of shame through that time, God might bless us with a double inheritance of two more children. Ha! My husband would die a thousand deaths over my hermeneutics, there, but I'm willing to take it to heart. 🙂 In the broader sense of what this verse meant for the Israelites and what this verse means for us from our God who does not change over centuries or continents, this is a powerful, love-packed, forgiveness-packed verse that shows God's enormous heart for His people. Beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

    We have double medical appointments today but thankfully no therapy. Praying your day runs smoothly in spite of all the responsibilities!

    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 9, 2013

      Beautiful thoughts, thank you so much for sharing them with us!


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