"I Love You So Much…"

I’m not a great storyteller like Russ is. He has a whole collection of great stories the kids love to hear, mostly involving adventures that happened to him when he lived in Indonesia and Colombia as a child and young teen. Our normal family routine involves Russ tucking everyone in while I finish cleaning up the kitchen and tie up loose ends from the day. The kids are always eager to ask their Daddy for a story.

On the nights that Russ isn’t home, I do the bedtime routine. Sadly for the children, by bedtime my brain has no energy left for actually creating stories. Instead I let them each choose a song that we all sing together, although energetic hand or body motions are not encouraged. I turn out the lights in their room and sit in the chair, sometimes cuddling Little Man, or sometimes letting the child who is choosing the song come to sit in my lap.

Yesterday I was rocking Dimples and “filling her heart” while singing one of her favorite songs which goes something like this:

I love you so much
I love you so much
I can’t even tell you how much I love you
I love you so much
I love you so much
I’m glad that you’re part of my family

I love you, I love you, I love you
I love you, I love you, I do
I love you so much
I love you so much
I can’t even tell you how much I love you

We discovered it years ago on a Discovery Toys cassette tape called Sounds Like Fun and it has stayed with us. The song has taken on more meaning as we sing it to our new children, and particularly Dimples and Honeybee.

Healing and attachment, those are the things we’re working on.

My book arrived today and I have great plans to start reading soon.

~Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. darci
    November 13, 2008

    that’s so funny, the girls are always asking for ‘stories from when you were little’ ..mark has so many interesting ones, and mine are more the type of..’umm, I saw a whale at the beach once.’..daddies are great! 🙂

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  2. Sandee
    November 13, 2008

    what book, what book? I always love a new book.

    Each of my kids have a special song…with slightly altered words and a different tune just for them. They each love to hear their song…..

    I love your blog…another adoptive mom pointed me to it.

    Blessings to you and yours.

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  3. Adrielle
    November 13, 2008

    I sing the “I love you so much” song all the time too! I heard it on a tape when I was little and it must be the same one! 🙂

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  4. lorismusings
    November 13, 2008

    Please let us know what you think of the book. I looked it up and read the reviews.

    I love reading about your family. I was getting frustrated and very impatient today and thought to myself “Lisa would never act like this!”

    I know you aren’t perfect, but there is a reason God blessed you with so many children. You are doing something right.

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  5. small world
    November 14, 2008

    You are the best mom. Hang in there with the attachment issues and it will come together. We are praying for you.
    Love, Theresa

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  6. Thankfulmom
    November 14, 2008

    Lori,

    Trust me, I am not even close to being a perfect mom. I lose my patience, behave selfishly, and act in unlovely ways every single day. I regularly have to ask for God’s forgiveness and it isn’t too uncommon for me to seek my children’s forgiveness. But that is the beautiful thing, we can be forgiven and make fresh starts every day, even multiple times per day. As mothers, we have continual opportunities to test our growth and to overcome our weaknesses. I can’t think of a better training ground for learning to glorify God.

    Thank you everyone for your comments.

    Lisa

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  7. Thankfulmom
    November 14, 2008

    Sandee,

    The book is: Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control by Heather Forbes and Bryan Post. I haven’t had a chance to even crack the cover yet, but I hope to dive in soon.

    Lisa

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  8. Anonymous
    November 14, 2008

    We found a delightful book full of wonderful bonding verses, songs, poems, etc. that we have used with our children,and in particular, our two adopted daughters. It is called “I Love You Rituals,” by Becky A. Bailey. It’s a treasure chest of good stuff.

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  9. Heather Mitchell
    November 15, 2008

    My 12 year old still sings that song once in a while. That tape (now CD) was so worth the money!

    What book are you reading? Inquiring minds want to know.

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  10. Thankfulmom
    November 16, 2008

    Heather,

    I agree, the money was well spent! Not only did it have that good song, but it taught the months of the year, counting by tens and so many other things.

    Does Discovery Toys still sell it?

    Lisa

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  11. Tasha W
    January 18, 2012

    I am so glad you posted this I used to sing this to my son and couldnt remember the name of the tape. Thank you so much for this post

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 18, 2012

      I love that song, too. Little Man asks me to sing it to him all the time.

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  12. MomKat82
    January 11, 2013

    I sang that song to my daughters when they were little, and now I sing it to my grandsons. It has taken on particular signifcance to me. My oldest grandson was a near drowning victim at the age of 18 months. I stood by his bedside as he lay there unconscious, intubated. I am a nurse practitioner and every fiber of my being wanted to do something for him, to somehow make it better. But I couldn't, so I did the only thing I could do for him. I said a prayer, and with tears in my eyes, began to sing; "I love you so much, I love you so much…." He is now seven and is the absolute apple of my eye.

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