I Don't Need to Know How; I Need to Know Who

Last night Russ and I made a not-too-comfortable bed on the deck  and went to sleep watching the meteor shower.  It was beautiful, peaceful, and romantic – until the sprinklers came on at 2:00 AM and got the foot of our bed wet.  We were too tired to move, and still pretty warm, so we stayed where we were.  I woke early to the loud sounds of eagles and other birds flying over the beach, then slept, finally getting up at 8:00 when the tide was low and we could see people walking on the beach.

Dimples called yesterday morning and told us about the fun she is having on the camping trip.  I posted a picture of her getting ready to go surfing on my One Thankful Mom Facebook page – she looks cute!

It is wonderful and perplexing that she is so happy with our friends.  Intellectually, I understand it – emotionally, it is difficult.  Our friend, Owen, gave a sermon on faith yesterday.  While he was speaking about the faith of the Ethiopian church they serve, the entire sermon spoke to me about Dimples.

There were so many points that I scribbled down as quickly as I could, but one stands out.  Owen taught that faith means our eyes are on God, not on our circumstances or ourselves.  We do not need to become introspective, wondering whether we have enough faith, we need to “fix our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith…” Heb 12:2

I do not need to know how Dimples is going to be healed, I only need to know who is going to heal her.  

While Russ and I do what we can to bring healing to her through the help of doctors, therapists, educators, and friends, our ultimate hope is in the healing power of Jesus who loves her even more than we do, who knows her mind, body, and soul, and can do more in one minute than we could ever accomplish in years of therapy.

Lisa

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Sara Edwards
    August 13, 2012

    Amen!!

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  2. Jennie
    August 13, 2012

    "We do not need to become introspective, wondering whether we have enough faith, we need to “fix our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith…” Heb 12:2"

    Yes and amen and thank you…

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  3. sleepyknitter
    August 13, 2012

    Wow, that sounds like a perfectly wonderful, romantic night!

    As for Dimples, I think I understand your feelings of confusion over her enjoyment with friends. We intellectually understand that our former daughter is doing much, much better in her new family and that she is happy and was almost instantly happy after joining them, but emotionally it is still surprisingly difficult at times to see the photos of her smiling, participating, relaxing. But we *wanted* for her to be happy and to begin to heal, so we struggle to overcome the feelings for the sake of trusting God's movement in her life. Her healing is about her healing, not our feelings of success or failure with her.

    May Jesus do more in one minute in Dimple's life than has been done in years of therapy!

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  4. mamitaj
    August 13, 2012

    Amen.

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  5. angela
    August 13, 2012

    I hear you. I feel very defeated by an 8 year old today. It seems that it might not be possible to actually parent her…. never allowed myself to entertain that thought, but I don't know what to do. Going to the post adoption clinic at the University of WA in Seattle on Thursday. I am praying they have something good to tell me. One by one we are turning over the stone and visiting each recommended professional…. but in the end, if she will not give her life over to God to let Him work a change what good will it do?

    At the moment I could use a day or two away to get my perspective back.
    WEARY! in WA

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  6. Beth Templeton
    August 13, 2012

    Oh AMEN!! I so agree with you. This is the revelation we all need. So simple, yet so very hard to do sometimes. Our wonderful Father knows the end of the story and He is faithful and oh so GOOD to us. We are also trusting God for His healing in one of our children. Therapy has been helpful, but without that miracle touch his life will be a struggle. So good to know WHO it is who saves and heals! Bless you!

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  7. Emily
    August 13, 2012

    I love the picture. And the people in the picture.

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  8. sleighs79
    August 13, 2012

    Amen. This post, and your family's story, is grace for me right now. Thank you for living the love of Jesus every day and reminding me that my children's healing is in the hands of God, not mine. Their story isn't mine to control and it's surely not all about me and my hurt feelings. I needed this reminder. We serve a faithful God.

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  9. Cari
    August 13, 2012

    amen!

    my daughter is back from her week at camp. she loved it and we enjoyed the respite. interestingly though that the verse you mentioned in this post is part of the verses she memorized this week at camp…Heb 12:1-3. God must be telling me to really think about the truths in these scriptures.

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  10. Cici
    August 13, 2012

    Perhaps a reminder that children often save their worst for those they trust the most. I imagine that Dimples is having so much fun because she is keeping herself in check. Mindful that these friends can walk away at any time and that her family is in it forever.

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  11. Mavis
    August 14, 2012

    Amen, sister!
    Ephesians 3:20-21
    Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

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  12. Emily
    August 16, 2012

    I love this post! It reminds me of a Dietrich Bonhoeffer quote I've been remembering the last several months as one of our children goes through a tough time: "Self-denial is saying simply-He goes ahead of us. Hold fast to Him."

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  13. Debi
    August 18, 2012

    Wow. I can so relate! I so appreciate your vulnerability! Thank you so much! You put words to much of what I feel or what we walk through with our daughter! What was Dimples diagnosed with? Does she have RAD?

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