Honeybee’s Happy Hair

Remember when I mentioned short-term challenges? Honeybee successfully completed a challenge and earned a much-desired hair straightener. I can’t believe how old she looks with her hair like this. She loves combing it, running her fingers through it, and just plain messing around with it.

I’m kicking off  the morning with packing for a trip to Seattle.   Why, oh why,  didn’t I finish the laundry yesterday?

We have appointments with Deborah on Saturday, with a little bit of Christmas  fun squeezed into the day.

If you haven’t finished your Christmas shopping, today is the  last day for Free Shipping in time for Christmas delivery from Amazon.  I can’t  bear to pay shipping, and I love shopping online, so I made one last order  yesterday.

Off to clean bathrooms, reboot the laundry, and teach a math lesson. I’ll be back!

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Mamitaj
    December 17, 2010

    I LOVE Honeybee's hair!!! she looks SO grown up! Beautiful!

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  2. Sarah
    December 17, 2010

    Honeybee looks beautiful!! Lisa, you need to sign up at Amazonmom.com (free) and you get free Prime shipping for months–that's 2 day air. It's been awesome this season!

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  3. Laura
    December 17, 2010

    She looks os old! Maybe she will let me run my fingers through it tonight when you get here.

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  4. Emily
    December 17, 2010

    Aw, beautiful!

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  5. sandee
    December 17, 2010

    my olivia keeps begging to have her hair straightened. I so want her to embrace her curls. how long does it last? Is it like a perm, but the opposite?

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 17, 2010

      Sandee – I said no to chemicals. This was just done with a flat iron and as soon as her hair gets wet, her curls come back. After watching Chris Rock's "Good Hair", I hope my girls will keep their hair natural even as they grow old enough to make their own decisions. The chemicals are terrible and damage the hair. I love my girls' curls and would prefer they keep it curly, but I know that many African and AA women wear their hair straight. For now I'm limiting Honeybee to straightening it only once a week since I know the intense heat will also damage her hair. Her hair has stayed straight with only small touch ups for two weeks!

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      1. KTBrad
        December 21, 2010

        I think thats a great decision Lisa. Meya did chemical relaxers for the past three years, because I didnt know any better. Well, she has such damage to the front of her head that her hair isnt fully regrowing, so there is root damage 🙁 She has cut off all her relaxed hair, and her hair is only about two inches long, she hopes she can repair her scalp and that the damage isnt permanent….

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        1. One Thankful Mom
          December 21, 2010

          KT, I'm sorry about Meya's hair – it is so hard to know what to do. Just today I decided to grow Dimples' hair out again. Then I had to comb it out and, rather than put a headband in it, I decided to do a few short braids in the front. She was miserable — it got ugly. It just isn't worth it for her right now. What to do??

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  6. carla
    December 18, 2010

    Wow! It's so long, I hope Amber's will get that long…I think. Her hair has been a big challenge for me. I was one of those people that would walk by the African hair products and say, "Wow! That looks completed, glad I don't have to deal with that." Haha, God has a sense of humor for sure. Right now, I am struggling with washing it and styling it for church tomorrow, but am feeling overwhelmed, so I think I will leave it. It takes hours and I have to do it when I up for it. : )

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 19, 2010

      Carla, I am not a good hair mom so it is quite a stretch for me. I'm thinking of growing Dimples' hair out again…but she is going to have to let me comb the tangles out! I have enough drama in my life without tears and tantrums over hair. I hope it gets easier for you!

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      1. carla
        December 20, 2010

        You said that when Honeybee straightened her hair it stayed straight for about two weeks. Did she not put any conditioner on it at all for two weeks? Because like you said if you get the hair wet, it curls again. I am thinking about trying this on Amber's hair. Does she wear a scarf at night? I have always had Amber wear a scarf wrapped around her head so her hair doesn't get all tangled. Thanks.

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        1. One Thankful Mom
          December 20, 2010

          I wasn't sure what to do, so I didn't put conditioner on it. It did start looking dry and I was going to try spraying oil on it today, but she decided to have her wash and deep condition it this morning. We're learning as we go. Honeybee's hair was shaved short most of her life, so it is new for her too!

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  7. Nancy
    December 19, 2010

    My goodness! What a gorgeous daughter you have there! And yes, the straighter hair does make her look far older.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 19, 2010

      It's an amazing contrast, isn't it? I need to post a picture of her huge curly hair side by side with the straight hair. I had no idea how different it would look.

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  8. Natalie
    December 19, 2010

    Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas Lisa! I appreciate your writing!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 19, 2010

      Thank you, Natalie. Merry Christmas to you too!

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  9. Jodie Howerton
    December 19, 2010

    Honeybee is absolutely beautiful. Fun seeing you all today. Wish we were neighbors!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 19, 2010

      Thank you Jodie. It was wonderful being with you today – looking forward to seeing you in January.

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  10. Chloe
    December 25, 2010

    Hi Ladies I just wanted to say Merry Christmas and here are a few tips on managing your childrens hair.

    washing curly or coily hair should never be pilled on top of the head ( like you see in commercials.)
    part the hair down the center and do two braids and wash it one section at a time. then braid each section back after washing. This will eliminate tangles by far.
    wash hair with conditioner only and maybe use shampoo once or twice a month. (Sulfate free Shampoo)
    washing hair with conditioner is called cowashing.
    VO5 Moisture Milks ( strawberry & cream) is the best for cowashing, the hair will be soft and tangle free. My DD hair has transformed from this .99 product!
    Plus there are no silicones in it. Or use your moisturizing conditioner of choice.
    After cowashing or washing towel dry hair while it is still in the two braids. Unbraid each section and
    apply a moisturizing leave in conditioner once hair is mostly dried.

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  11. Chloe
    December 25, 2010

    Neutrogena triple moisture leave in
    Giovanni Leave in direct
    Herbal Essence Long Term Relationship leave in Condition
    These are all great leave ins. Once the hair has dried apply a light moisturizer like
    Scurl spray moisturizer
    Wave Nuevo moistrizer
    African Royale Better Braid Spray
    what i do is spray it in my hand and apply it to my DD hair. The last step is to seal the hair with a light oil like
    Hollywood Beauty Castor oil
    Hot Six oil
    All of these items can be found at Sally's , CVS, Walgreens etc
    wash day is no longer a confusing tangles crying session. It sounds like a ton of steps but all in all it takes about 30 minutes on wash day and my DD is no longer crying and loves her hair.
    Reading the lables of products and using only natural & moisturizing hair products has done wonders.
    You only need
    sulphate free moisturizing shampoo
    Moisturizing Conditioner ( VO5 Moisture Milks ) I cannot rave enough!
    Moisturizing Leave In Conditioner
    Moisturizer
    Oil
    These 5 products is all you need!

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