Home: Moving Forward

Progress on our remodel is slow-going, but we’re moving steadily forward with building a bedroom for Dimples. The plan is to empty our garage in order to remodel it into two small bedrooms and a tiny bit of indoor storage. Dimples has to have her own room with a small bathroom when she comes home, just like she has at her school. The second bedroom will likely be for Bee, who desperately wants her own room.

Russ is building a storage area in our barn in order to give us a place to move the things that currently fill our garage. Now that the weather is nice, I want to open the garage door and haul everything out so I can sort through what needs to stay, and what can go. Bins of homeschool books need to stay – after all, Little Man is only six. Ski gear, Christmas decorations, ice skates, and camping gear will all be stored. I hope to find plenty of things I can part with, like baby toys and outgrown clothes.

Last weekend Russ worked into the evening, and the kids climbed up the ladder to join him in the new loft. He set up utility lights so he could work late into the night.  Little Man was thrilled to hammer nails alongside his daddy.  Now Russ is grading finals and preparing two papers for submission to journals. Once those are done, he’ll turn his mind back to the barn project.

I mentioned it to Dimples and she expressed that she doesn’t really want her own room. Since it isn’t an option, I encouraged her that she will get to pick the paint color, she’ll have her own desk, and we’ll hang a bulletin board for all of her special pictures. Until she went to her school, she had never slept in a room alone, so it still feels new and a little scary. At her school, there is a counselor awake all night, which probably makes her feel safer. When my youngest sister was little, she had a portable intercom she could use to reach my parents whenever she needed them. Perhaps something like that would work for Dimples too.

Please pray for us that this project will come together and we’ll be amazed at the progress we make in the coming weeks.

If you would like to read my previous Home posts, click below:

Home: Square Footage vs. Debt

Home: Debt, Faith, Blessing

Home: A Realistic Look at Finances

Home: Barn Storage

Don’t forget to enter the drawing for a $100 Shell Card giveaway. With summer nearly here, a little extra money for gas would be fantastic. Have a wonderful weekend, friends.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Emily
    May 10, 2013

    And the suite for your favorite fairy godmother? xoxo

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 10, 2013

      Of course.

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      1. Emily
        May 10, 2013

        Also, love all these pics. Love the warm cozy light. Love the top one of beautiful Sunshine 🙂

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  2. Erika Stanley
    May 10, 2013

    Was it your idea to have Dimples in her own room, or the treatment center people? I have an idea of the reason behind it with reading your past post (it will help her with learning life skills?), but can you expand a little on what skills she will learn? The longer my son is home, and the more I read about attachment, the more confused I am about how to deal with it. I'm really interested in the thought behind giving her her own room.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 10, 2013

      Great question, Erika. It is a decision we made with the professionals involved for the sake of the rest of the children and for Dimples. The other children need to feel safe and know that their bedroom is a place of peace, not turmoil. Dimples needs a place of her own to go when she needs to regulate herself and where she isn't constantly faced with the challenge of interacting with her siblings when it is just too difficult for her. It's been wonderful for her at the treatment center and we want to continue to support her with the skills she is gaining there. At the moment, we have all four girls sharing one room, and that creates too many challenges for Dimples to manage in a healthy way.

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  3. Jennifer I.
    May 10, 2013

    we are moving A into his own room in a few weeks too – after our foster baby moves to her permanent placement – we've tried sharing twice, but it is too hard on the sibling and the temptation for A to target that sibling (and wreck his things instead of "cooling down") is too much for him to handle well.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 10, 2013

      For some of our kids, it is just too much to be surrounded by the challenge of siblings so much of the time. The siblings suffer, and ultimately the child suffers too. I'm glad you're going to have a space for A soon.

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  4. Karen
    May 10, 2013

    Half the garages in our neighborhood of circa 1950 – 1955 Capes and small ranches have been converted to living space. Our neighbor across the street just did it to make her kitchen bigger. We're a holdout so far — not that we ever park a car in the garage. But man, does it hold a lot of STUFF. Glad to hear you figured out a way to make the additional bedroom space work without having to build an addition.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 10, 2013

      I wanted that addition so badly! But I'm trying hard to be content that this will meet our immediate need to make our family healthier. We'll miss having a garage, but at this point, that is a small sacrifice.

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  5. karrie
    May 11, 2013

    the intercom idea is great! we have a baby monitor in our boys room, so when they need us or have a bad dream, we can hear them and go to them right away!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 11, 2013

      I'm hoping this will work so I don't have listen to the noises from her room all night. Most of all I just want her to feel safe.

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  6. Sharon
    May 19, 2013

    Glad to hear that progress is being made with the rooms!

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  7. House Plans
    June 30, 2013

    I'm looking forward to see the finish construction of your dream home. Don't forget to share it to us.

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  8. Stamped Artistry
    March 19, 2014

    Lisa,

    Good luck with the bedroom for Dimples. I hope what comes finally is liked and appreciated by you all; specially by Dimples…Enjoy. By the way, does she get to have her own attached bathroom with concrete countertop or something!

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