Healed but not Cured

Hannah
Hannah

Hannah gets a few medical journals and magazines at our address; I put them in a pile and get them to her eventually. The covers are generally packed with long words that mean nothing to me, and I don’t take much notice. Last week, however, ENTtoday showed up in our mailbox, and one of the cover stories was, “Mental Health Matters.” I’m sure you noticed it when you got your copy too :).  Having just had my stint in the hospital, I was interested to read what the author had to say about the intersection of physical and mental health.

” The whole key is to heal the patient, not necessarily cure the disease,” Dr. Lydiatt said. “Curing the disease may well heal them, but it’s also possible to be cured but not healed or healed and not cured. The key is trying to understand what a particular patient needs to be healed.” (Dr. Lydiatt, University of Nebraska Medical Center)

I ponder this as I think about my health, which feels a little precarious these days. Doctors are great, but I have far too many of them at the moment. I keep putting off scheduling appointments because it’s stressful, and I’m pretty sure my family doc told me I’m supposed to be reducing stress. I finally scheduled an appointment with the cardiologist since my heart is important to me.

I want to be healed and I know it’s going to take more than medications, tests, and even surgeries for that to happen. It’s going to take me making changes in my life, intentionally caring for my body, putting more faith in my loving God (who is the greatest healer of all), and having peace in my circumstances, even if my body is not completely cured.

The quote also makes me think of my children who have suffered trauma. No amount of therapy will take away the past and the suffering they endured. But helping them to find as much healing as possible and guiding them toward healthy lives is, hopefully, within reach. They may not be “cured”, but I pray for healing.

Thank you for being with me on this road. I honestly appreciate knowing you are reading and I am humbled by your prayers and kind words. You bless me more than you know.

Lisa

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Deborah
    May 8, 2014

    Prayers up. (And now the lecture – I understand the stress and dred – but make the doctors appointments. How would you feel if there was a problem they could fix if caught early but you procrastinated too long and now it cannot be fixed. Do it now.) Sending love and hugs!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 8, 2014

      I know, I know. I've made two appointments now – no, make that three, and I'm being very obedient to my doctor…well, all except the no stress thing. But I'm working on that too.

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  2. Nathan
    May 8, 2014

    I think I partly understand and can identify with the distinction you are making here, and feel like you are on to something, but I’m having trouble putting my finger on it or articulating it…so could you elaborate a bit more on what you see as the difference between “healing” and “curing”?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 8, 2014

      I'm still pondering it too. I don't know that I have answers – but I guess in part, for me it means that I will likely never be cured of my autoimmune disorder, or the problem with my heart, but healing is about more than ridding myself of these ailments, it's about being healthy and whole in the midst of them. Just thinking…

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      1. Dinnette
        May 8, 2014

        To me cured means something has completely gone away and we know that some of the places your kids have been (and you as well) will never go away. Healing is more like the making of a quilt…taking small almost torn and broken pieces and stitching them together to make something beautiful. That's what you are doing as you guide your children not to forget, but overcome their past difficulties. It's so hard for caretakers to remember to take care of themselves, but as people remind me; if you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to care for anyone.

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        1. Lisa Qualls
          May 9, 2014

          Good words, Dinnette. Thank you.

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        2. Emily
          May 10, 2014

          That is a beautiful analogy. So true. Since all that stitching pricks ever-so-much, it is so imperative to keep the end in mind.

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  3. Nancy
    May 8, 2014

    I'm praying for a healing of both your body and soul. They go hand in hand as you obviously know.
    Thank you for sharing this. It was just what I needed today.
    ~nancy

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  4. Angela
    May 8, 2014

    What a wonderful post!!! I have found it very interesting how our mental health effects our physical health. One perfect example is when I was grieving for my 4 yr old daughter after she passed from cancer. My immune system was very low. I also am found trying to grapple with our current situation with our 8 yr old daughter adopted from ET 2 yrs ago. There is so much I have to daily find peace with and I know she has her own (mental / trauma) issues that she has to deal with daily as well!! Do take care!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 8, 2014

      Thank you for sharing that, Angela. Grief and stress affect our physical bodies so much; I'm beginning to appreciate that now more than ever. Take care of yourself, too.

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  5. Emily
    May 8, 2014

    This post really resonated with me. Thanks for writing it.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 8, 2014

      Thanks for letting me know, Emily.

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  6. Sarah
    May 8, 2014

    Oh, Lisa! I think it's the other way around! You bless me more than you know!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 9, 2014

      Thank you, Sarah.

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