He Gives and Takes Away – Empowered to Connect

Hi Friends,

I’m blogging today over at Empowered to Connect; my piece is titled, He Gives and Takes Away.  If you have a moment to pop over, I would love your feedback. Sometimes I struggle to get out of “blog mode” when I write; I assume my readers know me and my family and get sort of chatty. I’m trying to learn to write in a different “voice” for Empowered to Connect. Hopefully people will find my blog and get to know me in a more familiar way.

In other news, I was on Amazon this morning trying to do some Christmas shopping and saw that they have 50% off select Melissa and Doug toys.  I couldn’t resist and put two in my cart for Little Man, the Birthday Party Cake and 20 Animal Magnets.  We already have lots of toy food and learning toys, so I held back from ordering more, but the prices are fantastic.  The deal is only today, December 3rd, 2010.

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I wish I had time to write more; maybe this weekend. I would like to share some of our favorite “tried and true” toys and gifts we’ve given our children over the years. Be thinking about what you can add to my list.

Have a great Friday everyone!

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Paula
    December 3, 2010

    The birthday cake gets played with A LOT at our house! Little Man will love it. Off to read you on Empowered to Connect now.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 3, 2010

      Thanks Paula! I am so tempted to buy more…but I'm going to try to resist.

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  2. Ann Marie
    December 3, 2010

    Beautifully written article Lisa!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 3, 2010

      Thank you so much, Ann Marie.

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  3. Sara
    December 3, 2010

    Loved your words. Very powerful!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 4, 2010

      Sara, thank you for taking a moment to read it.

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  4. coffeemom
    December 4, 2010

    Great article!! So true, we have had many shifts in our family culture too, dropping homeschooling one of them as well. And the kids are thriving in school, now, better than it was working trying to hs them all. So, changes…..but still the essence of the family culture, yours and ours, I believe remains. In the dinner table and the Sunday afternoons, the Sunday morning Mass and breakfast, the dad dates. The small moments. It's there. Just with a remodeled framework a bit, eh?

    The reason your family is successful and you're such a great mom is that you are willing to make the changes to do the best for your kids. Always. Great article. Thanks! M

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 4, 2010

      It is hard letting go though, isn't it? I never imagined the changes we would face as we incorporated our new children into our family, but now I can honestly say that I'm thankful. You're right though, the core remains the same – loving God, loving one another, as the basis of our framework. Thanks for the feedback.

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  5. Mama D's Dozen
    December 4, 2010

    Hi Lisa,

    Just had to pop in and say, "Hi."

    I think I am flying over Northern Idaho right now, so I thought of you. (I'm looking for Couer d'Alene Lake out of my window seat.) First time I've had a flight with free wi-fi, so I'm having FUN on my trip home from Minnesota.

    Haven't read blogs in 2 weeks, so looking forward to catching up with you soon.

    Hope you all are having a BLESSED weekend!!!

    Laurel

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 4, 2010

      Laurel, you may have flown over my house 🙂 I'm glad you are getting some down time.

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  6. chosse joy
    December 4, 2010

    This is a really good reminder that ALL of our plans and hopes should be laid before the Lord. My (adopted) children have fulfilled every hope and dream I ever had…and more…but there is one are in my life that perhaps I shouldn't have placed the expectations on it that I did because – I might have saved myself some disappointment had I viewed that area of my life through God's eyes. Thanks for the reminder.

    As it relates to adoption, I'm just wondering, was there not this kind of information in your pre-adoption training? We recently took the required education for adopting from foster care (even though this isn't our first foster care adoption) and we were definitely given "worst case scenarios." Even if we had only read the suggested reading material, what lies ahead for a prospective family is clearly stated. I'm wondering if there could be improvements in the education process before adoption if people are finding themselves needing to adjust their expectations after the adoption?

    Blessings, Jennifer

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 4, 2010

      Jennifer, thank you for reading my article and taking the time to respond. We were definitely given "worst case scenarios" in our training. We read books, like Deborah Gray's Attaching in Adoption and Building the Bonds of Attachment (Daniel Hughes), took online courses, and attended a seminar. But reading it and living it are two very different things. This has been a three and a half year journey for us, one we are still on. I hope you'll stick around and get to know me a little bit. I think you'll find that altering our family culture (which was the topic of He Gives and Takes Away), was one loss along the way. But as I wrote, there have been many gains as well. We have a front row seat to the healing hand of God, and it is a remarkable place to be.

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      1. choose joy
        December 5, 2010

        Thank you for the response! I was just thinking about the difference between reading about something and living it. I was adopted from an orphanage into a large adoptive family. Now my husband and I have adopted all supposedly special needs kids. We have all found complete healing! But I know there are some people who just don't. As we are on the brink of adopting teens from foster care, I can't help but wonder if this is where I'll finally wake up to other people's reality in adoption. I THINK I'm ready for it. But you can never really know until you're in the situation (in spite of good books and training, like you said). Thanks for the wake up call! (I DO know I live in a blissful bubble and I appreciate when people are honest enough to bring me out of it!). Bless you, Jennifer

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        1. One Thankful Mom
          December 5, 2010

          Jennifer, thank you for your gracious response. I pray that your experience of adopting teens will be wonderful, fulfilling, and blessed. I hope you'll come back and share more of your life through commenting and especially on Tuesday Topics which I do somewhat regularly. It's always great to have different perspectives.

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  7. Teresa
    December 4, 2010

    Loved your article…great content and very well written!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      December 4, 2010

      Teresa, thank you for the kind comment!

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  8. Joelle Holland
    December 9, 2010

    So well articulated. I very much appreciate how you have opened my eyes to a whole world I never thought much about before. I have such a greater understanding of HIV than I did before and I'm glad. I also recall the pain of moving from being only a homeschool family to letting go and sending some to school. I really didn't want to let any of my family know because I felt so ashamed of not being good enough to follow the course to the end. In the end following God is what counts but there is definitely pain in the journey. Thanks for giving voice to the challenges and the upside of life.

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